“A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones…

He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord…” (PV 12:4; 18:22; NIV)

Marriage is a gift from God. Successful marriage is a proof that God exists; that God knows you personally and that He loves you. Dear brother please remember: It is the man that does the seeking. You will not find your wife by mistake. The woman prays for the seeking man, that they paths may meet. Not any Christian woman can be your wife. She has to be God’s choice and gift to you. Your wife is prepared by God to be your helper, to supply what you need and what you lack and to make you complete.

For example, Abigail was a good wife. Her husband was a foolish man, greedy and wicked. To marry such a man the woman had to be very special. Abigail compensated that great need by being extremely wise, generous and kind. Thru her intercession and actions, she saved his life. Manoa’s wife was also a good woman. Spiritually, she was more sensitive than her husband, correctly interpreting the purpose of the angels’ visit. By her prophetic words she encouraged her husband and delivered him from the fear of death (Judges 13). But not all women were good wives. Among the women in the Bible, Jezebel is the worst of all. Another negative example is Job’s wife. She tempted him to betray his faith in God, to backslide and even to commit suicide (Job 2:9, 10). Attention, sisters!

The noble wife is a gift from God. She does not come to a man by mistake. In Hebrew, the word ‘noble’ means strength of character. She has the power of an army to win the victory. The word ‘crown’ means to surround the enemy, attack and totally defeat him. It also means to protect the head of the home. A godly wife is a mature intercessor and a spiritual warrior. She prays against the forces of darkness that try to destroy her home. She attacks their stronghold, wins the crown of the enemy and silences his boast. She does it on behalf of her family. She then gives the crown of victory to her husband as a trophy. In this way, she becomes a crown herself, like Sarah, a princess with God and a mother of kings.

Many men have fallen to the temptation to marry unbelieving women. Others choose to marry the wrong believing wives. All these mistakes have serious consequences. ‘A disgraceful wife’ is one who will disappoint you spiritually, delay your progress in life, confuse your mind and dry your spirit. She is not able to understand your spiritual needs. She is not designed by God to do that. Even if she is willing, she is not able to do it. Basically, she is too selfish to care about your destiny or your ministry. She will be like ‘decay in your bones’. The greatest sign that you have married the wrong wife is chronic spiritual weakness. For years to come you will not be able to read your Bible, to understand the Word, or to pray well. You discover that you cannot stand and succeed as a man of God. You will battle depression, doubt and fears almost every day. You will be tempted to backslide. Going to church will be a burden to you. Worship becomes a past glory. You will become skillful in religious hypocrisy for you see no other way to live your life outside your home and still call yourself a Christian…

If that is your case, there is no other word for you except to come back to Jesus, back to the Cross of Calvary!!! Repent of your sins, for choosing to satisfy the desires of the flesh above your spiritual needs. Let the Holy Spirit have His way! Let your flesh die! Let your spirit be revived! Be honest with God! You cannot seek divorce for God hates it. But you can repent for the sins of your past. Pray for mercy for the two of you. Your repentance may provoke your unbelieving wife to abandon her home. Like Hosea, bring her back if it is possible. But if she goes away and rejects all invitations to return, then you are free from her spirit and her influence (1Cor 7).

To avoid such tragedy and pain, lay the proper foundation of your marriage!  Pray, seek and find the woman God has prepared for you personally.  Your wife is God’s gift to you and a personal favor from Him! Marry well! Marry your holy strong wise loving warrior princess and God will be your ‘father in law’, sorry, your ‘Father in Grace’. What a wonderful promise! Marriage made in heaven is one of the greatest joyful surprises God gives to men! It is a package that comes with God’s personal favor, approval, blessings and grace! May that be your portion, it is my prayer…

In Christ I declare:

From the bottom of my heart I am grateful to God for our marriage!

I am a noble wife!

I shall marry my princess with God!

My marriage is made in heaven!

God’s favor is in my marriage!

Our marriage is a ministry and a blessing to many!

Our children shall be a royal priesthood!

We are worshippers of the Living God!

To the glory of God and to the increase of His Kingdom!

In Jesus name

Amen!