“The weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God” (2 Corinthians 10:4-5).
The enemy of God and of His kingdom attempts to set up strongholds, unholy barriers against God’s people, His church, and anything advancing the knowledge of God in this world. The devil does not want people to know the Lord Jesus! He does not mind if they know something about God in general, but not about the Lord Jesus Christ! These strongholds must be brought down with the spiritual weapons of the Word, Prayer and the Authority of the believer.
As a child of God you must do warfare from a position of rest and victory found in Christ alone. You must be sure in your mind that your Commander, the Lord Jesus Christ, has totally defeated the ‘strong man’ satan, on the Cross. Any doubt in the absolute Lordship of Christ weakens your faith and you will not be able to conquer new territories for The Kingdom of God. The battle is first of all internal before you can make progress in the natural realm. You must identify the enemy within, attack and defeat the demons of fear and doubt in particular. For that, you need to be filled with the Holy Spirit. You need to repent of any known sin, for the Holy Spirit does not fill ‘dirty’ vessels. Filled with God’s Spirit inside, taking the whole armor of God outside, you are now ready for battle and the victory is sure. I testify to this!
Question: how long since you have personally experienced a new triumph, since you have obtained a fresh testimony of successful spiritual warfare and a clear victory in any area of your life? A spiritual passive attitude is a sign of bondage! Now it it the time to stand for Christ! Dear child of God, this morning I pray for courage for you! Trust and obey God! Prove that the Word of God is living and true! Arise and shine for your light has come and the glory of the Lord is risen upon you!


“Do not marvel that I said to you, ‘You must be born again.’ The wind blows where it wishes, and you hear the sound of it, but cannot tell where it comes from and where it goes. So is everyone who is born of the Spirit.” (Jn 3:7, 8)
This is my testimony: I was born in Romania, a Communist country at that time. We were told that God does not exist. We were told that ‘religion is the opium of the masses’. This is the communist ‘gospel’. I believed it! I preached it! I did not see a Bible with my eyes before I came to Nigeria with my husband and two children in 1980. I told everybody that I am an unbeliever. I took pride in being an atheist. I did not deceive my husband saying that I am religious. He knew that I did not believe in God. He used to attend a church in Nigeria before coming to Romania to study medicine. But now, none of us attended any church. In Nigeria, some of his old Christian friends mocked him for marrying ‘a Moabite’. I was learning English, so I did not understand every word they spoke. But one day I asked him: ‘what is a Moabite’? He said that I should not mind his friends; that they do not understand.
My husband and I became very successful as medical doctors here in Nigeria. We made money and fame. Some of my patients ‘prophesied’ to me that I look like a born again. Others said that I look like a pastor. I told them that this is an insult and I rebuked them openly. Oh… Thank God for grace!
I became saved thru a crisis conversion in March 1986. It was after this miraculous event that I read the Bible for the first time in my life. Before then, I did not know what is called ‘sin’. I did not believe in a holy God that could be offended by my sins. I thought that even if God exists He is too far and too detached from me. I thought that my sins (even if I had them, but I was not sure of that…) are my own business and not His. I had my own idea of what is good and what is bad and I judged myself and others based on my principles. I was my own ‘god’ and I invented my own righteousness. Looking back I can now see my foolishness!
I remember the first time I read the Bible. It was Genesis 1:1. ‘In the beginning, God…’ I could not finish the sentence… My encounter with the Word was terrifying. To me, the Bible was like fire! I did not see any good thing in it! The Bible took it for granted that God exists! God? Who is God? I just came face to face with God, the creator and the judge of mankind. I just discovered that this holy God hates sin. The Holy Spirit started His peculiar work in me. For the first time in my life I saw myself as a sinner in need of salvation. I tried to ignore the Word of God. I fought it! I argued with it! Losing ground, I tried to change myself and become ‘religious, like the Nigerians’, so that maybe God will be pleased. For the first time in my life I agreed to go to church. These fake ‘cosmetic’ changes impressed some Christians but did not bring peace to my soul. I could not impress God! I could not deceive God! That was terrifying! I discovered that my greatest burden, my nightmare, the heaviest weight on my soul is sin! The Holy Spirit convicted me of sin! The fear of God descended on my soul. I was scared to death! I hated to live and I hated to die! I was arrested by this Holy God and I saw no way of escape! I was frustrated and angry. ‘For the creation was subjected to frustration, not by its own choice, but by the will of God’ (Rom 8:20). In the past I was what you call an optimistic person. But now, a cloud of darkness, a form of depression descended on my soul. Every day I thought that I will die and go to hell. All my ‘communist’ arguments, all my good deeds and all that I stood for, suddenly became useless to me. I needed something else, a new hope to cling to, but I saw nothing near me… Like a dying man in the ocean of God’s judgment, I saw no help in me or in anyone. I came to the end of myself. I know what Jesus meant when He said on the Cross: ‘It is finished!” I, Lia Leigh was finished!
Suddenly, the light of God shone in my heart…I saw Christ Crucified praying for me, forgiving me… I believed that His Blood was shed for me, even for me…Is this story too good to be true? It may be so, but the grace to believe the impossible came on me…The Holy Spirit flooded my dying soul, His resurrection power fell on me… and… and… I became saved!!! I became a child of God! God did not reveal to me the hope in Christ until the Holy Spirit finished His work of conviction. Weeping comes before joy! To arrive at eternal life I had to pass thru this terrifying path called the valley of the shadow of death. I did not know how to pray. But God helped me to believe! Glory!
Dear reader, Jesus died to save your soul! Salvation is a miracle. Going to church, reading the Bible, paying your tithes, praying or worshipping God is not enough. You must be born again by the Holy Spirit! A miracle must happen! Money cannot buy it and man cannot give it to you. The devil will fight to keep you blind and foolish. But God is greater than all! Oh, the wisdom and the power of God to lead on, from frustration to hope, from death to life, from grave to glory! Praise the Lord! Jesus Christ is Lord!
PS: In the picture, me at about 17, in my parents house. I was an unbeliever then but looking ahead.. Who could have known? Please encourage me and others testifying how you became saved!
SLL 23



“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them” (Col 3:18, 19)


The Bible has clear marriage guidelines. These commands apply only to the believers. An unbeliever may read them and try to apply Biblical precepts to make his marriage better, but he cannot really obey the Word of God. For us, the children of God, the Bible is our Life Manual. The Word of God is written to us, sinners who are saved by grace. In the marriage set up, there are two basic rules: The wives submit to their own husbands (as Christ submitted to God the Father). Secondly, the husbands must love their wives, not their own way, but ‘as Christ loves the church’ (Eph 5:25). The husband and wife are equal before God. Their salvation experience is the same. But in the area of marriage these simple rules must be obeyed: wives submit and husbands love! Both these actions are first of all spiritual and they must glorify Christ, our Lord! The submission and the love are inspired by Jesus Christ and must give Him alone the glory! The Holy Spirit gives both the husband and wife the power to obey.


In the scripture above there is another element. It says that the husbands should love their wives and ‘do not become bitter towards them’. This is a special warning giving to the married men. Please pray for understanding! It means that the husband must recognize the tendency to become bitter against their loving wives. They must fight the strange temptation to become bitter as husbands at home. This is warning. What does this bitterness mean?


Bitterness is a terrible thing. It is an emotion very difficult to bear. A root of bitterness ‘defiles many’ and fights against the grace of God in marriage (Heb 12:15). Marital bitterness poisons the home and makes everybody miserable. A bitter person makes others sad or angry. When you see a man or a woman afraid to marry, it is because they have experienced this bitter taste in a previous relationship. To them, marriage is like drinking poison every day, like having with an incurable disease, with no hope of being happy ever again. That is why they prefer staying single. Bitterness causes piercing, sharp emotional pain, like the sting of a wasp.  The wounds of bitter words are long lasting and difficult to forgive or forget. In particular, a bitter husband is harsh, hot tempered, holds grudges, is mean, greedy, hard hearted, stubborn and difficult to teach. In Nigeria people say that ‘love has become sour’. As a pastor I counsel many women who suffer terribly in a marriage with a bitter man who discourages them to be happy. Only God can help!


This tendency to bitterness is more common to husbands but it can be found in all careless relationships. What is the cause of this bitterness found in some husbands? The main cause I see is disappointment with their wives. At the beginning they love their wives. No bitter man wants to marry. To marry you need to be happy. Love comes before bitterness. But this is the danger: It is possible for a man to truly love his wife at the beginning of the marriage, but later, he becomes bitter towards (or against) her. It is like a good fruit that becomes rotten with time. Why? What causes this change from good to bad?


Thru prayers and the study of the Word I discovered that husbands become bitter towards their wives, when the wives fail to meet up with their husbands ever growing spiritual and physical needs. This problem may be hidden when they are young and they are still busy ‘making money and rising children’. But after some time, the husband may desire to become more spiritual, to draw closer to God. He may desire that they should improve their standard of living. If the wife is ignorant of the source of this ‘midlife crisis’, as she may call it, the husband will become disappointed in her. He will resent her words. He will complain against her choices. This bitterness may manifest itself in one particular, small area. For example, he says: ‘My wife is a good woman. She works hard. She is a good mother to our children. I love her very much. But… she does not respect me… she talks to much… she spends too much money on nonsense…’ These excuses are not big enough to make a husband so bitter but if the wife does not change to make him happy, to better understand him, he will begrudge her silently in his heart. That is the seed of marital bitterness. In a way, both of them are guilty. The bitter husband has tried, but failed, to help the wife grow spiritually, mentally and emotionally. She is left behind, like the statue of a bride, smiling on her wedding day, but the dress is now thorn and faded, the artificial lashes are gummed on her wrinkled cheek. They are still living together but the sweet wine of early romantic love has gone, leaving behind the bitter taste of native medicines and imported bleach in the dry old mouth.



I am a woman. I am a wife. I had to study this subject because I need to fight the demons that will attack my husband. He does his own fight. But I am his helper. I should not be ignorant of this temptation. I must help him fight bitterness and not foolishly add to it. As a wife, I have tried to keep close to my husband, spiritually in particular. It pains me when he quotes a Bible verse or teaches me something new, and I am totally ignorant of that subject. I challenge myself to study the Word of God so that when my husband needs somebody to talk to about the Bible, I am ‘current’ with it. I have learned many things about subjects that I do not like in particular. I know much about politics and current affairs in Nigeria. I am not a politician, but I need to know these things, if they are good or bad. Ignorance has never helped anybody. I need to know my husband’s plans, dreams and God’s purpose for his life. I need to pray for those. I need to grow as he grows. We are not competing one against each other. But we must complement each other. To complement my husband I need to grow too. As the vision for our lives and ministry increases with time, so we must grow with it. To be left behind spiritually, to be a passive wife, it is sin. If I am lazy or careless with our relationship, and I just walk too slowly behind him with nothing new to add to our marriage, that sin is almost like spiritual adultery. My husband will be tempted to be worried, angry, disappointed and bitter against me, his wife, helper and friend. As a wife, I should not be found to be too fast and lead my husband. I should also not be found to be too slow and leave him alone. Marriage is two people learning to be one. Each one of us must grow in grace towards God and towards one another. I should not take his love for granted. I should be watchful for any virus of disappointment towards me that I sense in my husband. I must be filled with the Holy Spirit so that I will help him be the man God wants him to be. We both work hard at making our marriage a success. But the hard work is bringing a greater than expected harvest of peace, joy and ministry to those who call us parents in Christ. I boldly declare that in Christ alone, our marriage is free from the virus of bitterness! Love has won the battle! May these words challenge you! God loves you! God loves your marriages! Glory to God!

RSL and SLL 3


Thus says the Lord: “At the time I have decided, My words will come true. You can trust what I say about the future. It may take a long time, but keep on waiting–it will surely happen! For the vision is yet for the appointed time; It hastens toward the goal and it will not fail. Though it tarries, wait for it; For it will certainly come, it will not delay” (Hab 2:3)
“It may seem an easy thing to wait, but it is one of the postures which a Christian soldier learns NOT without years of training…There are hours of perplexity when the most willing spirit, anxiously desirous to serve the Lord knows not what part to take. Then what is it we are to do? Vex (ourselves) by despair. Fly back in cowardice, turn to the right hand in fear, or rush forward in presumption? No! Simply wait.
Wait in prayer. Call upon God, and spread the case before Him; tell Him your difficulty and plead His promise of aid. In dilemmas between one duty and another, it is sweet to be humble as a child, and wait with simplicity of soul upon the Lord. Wait in faith. Express your unstaggering confidence in God…Believe that if He keeps you tarrying even till midnight, yet He will come at the right time, the vision shall come and shall not tarry.
Pray: “Now, Lord, not my will, but Thine be done. I know not what to do; I am brought to extremities, but I will wait until Thou shall clear the floods or drive back my foes, I will wait, if Thou keep me many a day, for my heart is fixed upon Thee alone! Oh, God, my spirit waits for Thee in the full conviction that Thou will yet be my joy and my salvation, my refuge and my strong tower!”
(C. H. Spurgeon)
“Dear Heavenly Father, I wait for You! I trust in You! I know that You will not put me to shame! I know that You will glorify Your name in my life! I know that You are jealous over my testimony! I vow to give You alone all the glory! In Jesus name, amen!”
God works


“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a huge crowd of witnesses to the life of faith, let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us. We do this by keeping our eyes on Jesus, the champion who initiates and perfects our faith. Because of the joy awaiting Him, He endured the cross, disregarding its shame. Now He is seated in the place of honor beside God’s throne. Think of all the hostility He endured from sinful people; then you won’t become weary and give up the race” (Heb 12:1-3)
As a child in Romania, I used to skate on ice and I loved it. Up till today, I like watching ice skating competitions. Two days ago, something strange happened during the Winter Olympics in South Korea.
Gabriella Papadakis and Guillaume Cizeron of France were dancing on ice. They are the present champions in Europe. Each dancing program is about three minutes. They were doing very well, focusing to win a medal. But two minutes into the program, an accident happened. As they were dancing on ice, the clasp holding the neck piece of Gabriella’s dress got broken. The right breast got exposed. If such an accident happens at home, it is bad. But in the view of thousands seated on the stadium and more than six millions people watching on TV, that thing is terrible. Like many people watching, I felt so bad for her. But guess what? They continued to dance to the end like nothing bad happened. At last, they won the silver medal! After the program she wept saying that she was so embarrassed. But she also said that she had a choice to make in a spilt of second. The natural and easiest choice was to stop the dance, weep in embarrassment and run away from the ice ring. That will mean total failure for both of them. All their dreams about being Olympic champions could have died there. The other choice was to ignore the shame and finish the race. Though partially naked and embarrassed they finished their program. The thought of being the champions in the future was stronger than the present shame. What a lesson! These are true champions in sport!
Children of God, there are great lessons here for all of us. Can we fight shame? Can we continue the good thing we have been doing even in the presence of a second of failure? Is your reputation among men a stronghold in you? How much do you desire to finish the Christian race well? How much are you ready to pay for the reward God has promised you in the future? How much are you ready to suffer for Christ’ sake? To become a champion is not a matter of seconds. There is much preparation of body, soul and spirit before you become a hero! There are few leaders but many followers. There are few heroes but many admirers. ‘There are many teachers but few fathers’- said Paul! To be a role model, to be a hero, to be an inspiration to many, a father or a mother in Christ, there is a great price to pay! Are you willing to pay for it? Jesus was rejected by men and He was crucified naked! He endured shame on our behalf! He died for us! Jesus scorned that shame for the joy ahead! We share now in His joy! Jesus is our Lord! Jesus is our Champion! Be like Jesus! Do like Jesus! Let nothing stop you from worshipping the Lord! Let nothing stop you from serving God! Your present pain cannot compare with the future glory God has promised to give to you. Stop being jealous on others! Pay the price for the shine, then rise and shine! Glory to God!
“Therefore do not be ashamed of the testimony of our Lord, nor of me His prisoner, but share with me in the sufferings for the gospel according to the power of God, who has saved us and called us with a holy calling… For this reason I also suffer these things; nevertheless I am not ashamed, for I know whom I have believed and am persuaded that He is able to keep what I have committed to Him until that Day” (2Tim 1:8-12)
(In the picture Gabriella Papadakis and Guillaume Cizeron the moment the dress ‘accident’ happened and later on the podium with their medals)
Medal Ceremony - Winter Olympics Day 11


“He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end” (Ecc 3:11)
God’s time is always perfect. Like children, we often pray: “Lord, how long do I have to wait? Give me my request NOW!” We hate applying patience. But waiting on God is never a waste. It is an activity blessed by Him. Timing is very important in sports, in finances, in medicine and other things. The right thing done at the wrong time becomes a failure. The good word spoken too early, fails to move the listener.
God’s name is not mentioned in the Book of Esther. In the first five chapters, the wicked Haman is promoted and things go well for him. He, his wife and friends are very happy! But in another world, Mordecai is suffering and he is in danger to die. In chapter 6 there is a change coming. This is a new dawn, a new beginning. Great things can happen in the night, when men sleep but God moves. For God never sleeps! We are told that the king could not sleep that night. He asked for the chronicles of the Kingdom. That is a boring thing to listen to. Maybe he thought that will make him sleepy. But no! He was reminded of how, five years previously, Mordecai, the Jew, saved his life. He quickly asks: What has been done for this man? Nothing- was the answer. There was no reward given. The king was afraid that he is found to be an ungrateful man. Even the pagan gods require reward to be given to the man who saved the king. He quickly planned to greatly reward Mordecai.
That same night Haman slept well with a false sense of security and enjoying his wicked success. In no night was Mordecai in such a danger. Up until this moment Mordecai was persecuted, not appreciated and not rewarded. But this morning, the gallows Haman built were hungry for the neck of Mordecai! But that same early morning the tables were changed. Haman was disappointed to discover that his enemy was promoted. If God was few hours too late, Mordecai could have been dead. The next day, Haman was hung on his own ‘designer’ gallows. What a story! See God’s perfect timing!
Isaiah 60
Child of God, Remember this: even if all men forget you, God knows you. Patiently enduring persecution for Christ’ sake is highly appreciated by God! God does not sleep! God does not forget your labor of love! In His time, He will reward and bless you. I have experienced His promise! I testify to it! Give God the glory in advance!


“I will bless those who bless you,
And I will curse him who curses you;
And in you all the families of the earth shall be blessed” (Gen 12:3)

Are you a parent or are you a baby seater? There is a big difference between these two. When all things are well they all look the same. But crisis, even though painful, reveals the truth! For example, in a case of an emergency, when the child has fallen and is injured, the baby seater calls the parents. Once they arrive she is free to leave. But the parents never leave. They suffer with the child. They stay with the child. They wait with the child until the healing comes.

Jesus is our Father! Jesus is our good Shepherd! Hirelings scatter and squander! Family stays together! God may use hirelings but He is the God of families! If you belong to a good natural family and you also belong to a good living church, you are double blessed! This evening, please thank God for all parents! It is God’s purpose to bless the families!


Trials are like tunnels. Before the train enters the tunnel, it is light. Suddenly darkness comes. For a time it seems as though the darkness will never end. That pain, that weeping, that loneliness… it seems like it will go on forever. But at the end of the tunnel, sun shines once more. Tunnels are not graveyards. We are just passing through. All these trials and temptations, all these things you battle with, they only come ‘to pass.’ Our life should not depend on the circumstances. Christ is our life. Our faith is rooted in the Cross and in the Promises of God. Heaven is our destination. Joy is our portion. Eternal life is our inheritance. These are the blessed things that have come to stay.

Excerpt from The Doe of the Morning by Silvia Lia Leigh (available on Amazon)



“A gift opens the way and ushers the giver into the presence of the great” (PV 18:16)
Your natural gift, even your God given talent, gives you an opportunity to meet great people in the world. These are people in authority who can really help and promote you. Thank God for an ‘open door’. But you need more than an interview. Passing thru this open door, face to face with this ‘great’ person, you need to say the right words, to make an everlasting impression on him or her. Like Joseph standing before Pharaoh, you need to be prepared to give him an ‘answer of peace’ (Gen 41:16; KJ). It is an impatient mistake to trust God only partially. Many pray to God for an open door. But when God opens that door, they trust themselves to pass thru it by their wisdom and power. That is sin. In the future you will regret that genuine but lost opportunity. Do it God’s way!
Like Esther, I fast and pray for each official or unofficial ‘interview’ I have with people. When I meet with people, even the ‘small’ people, I see them as ‘great’. I pray that, according to His promise, the Holy Spirit will supply His words in my heart and in my mouth. I never trust myself to speak. In the past, each time I trusted my wisdom, I spoke either too much, or too little, or, because of ‘nerves’, I spoke some nonsense. I regret my words. Long ago I gave up on myself as a speaker. My ministry as a pastor is in Nigeria. In the natural, it is very hard. This is so because English is not my primary language. To be a woman preacher, to be a white woman doing ministry in Africa, this work will be almost impossible for me, if not for God. That is why I am so grateful to my Comforter and Friend, the Holy Spirit. He strengthens my heart so that persecution, discrimination and rejection do not ‘pain’ me. I see them but I do not ‘feel’ them. This is the protection of the Holy Spirit. I testify to it! The Spirit supplies His words to me so that men may reject them today, but not forever. God prepares for me a table of wonderful words ‘in the midst of my enemies’ (Ps 23:5). The looks of my hungry, angry and jealous enemies cannot quench my appetite for the reading and preaching of the Word of God. In the natural I am quite shy. But under the anointing of the Holy Spirit, I have nothing to fear. I want to please God and so, I boldly speak His Words!
God is faithful. God answers prayers! I always pray that He gives me His words to speak, to preach, to teach or to rebuke the rebellious. He plants His words in my heart and when I open my mouth, I hear myself speak mysteries and divine wisdom. I marvel at what I say. I am impressed at my words. I never regret my words spoken under anointing and before ‘royalty’. God’s Words prepare my heart and lead my mouth. I am so happy for this privilege to be a speaker for my Lord, Jesus Christ! This is the promise of our Lord. I always apply it when it is time for me to stand and speak, be it before friends or enemies: “On My account you will be brought before governors and kings as witnesses to them and to the Gentiles. But when they arrest you, do not worry about what to say or how to say it. At that time you will be given what to say, for it will not be you speaking, but the Spirit of your Father speaking through you” (Matt 10:18-20)
This promise of the Holy Spirit to supply words in my mouth includes speaking to my husband too. I honor him as my king. I never take our marriage for granted because it is the gift of God. I have to give an account to God for my work as a wife and helper to my husband, who is a man of God. This is not an easy work! I observed that my husband forgets my personal (fleshly) words, no matter how sweet, romantic or poetic. But I’ve discovered over the years that he does not forget the words I spoke to him under the anointing of the Holy Spirit. What God supplies, He preserves and multiplies! My husband remembers my anointed words; he quotes them and he incorporates them into his own vocabulary. When he preaches, from time to time, I hear myself in his sermon. This is an extraordinary privilege. By the power of the Word of God and the Holy Ghost working in both of us, we are coming to a greater unity of the Spirit. Little by little I have observed that, though we have different gifts, we now think alike, speak alike and make decisions in the same way. We can safely and joyfully predict one another in the freedom we have found in Christ. This unity of the Spirit is vital to keep and improve any Christian relationship. But it is especially so in a marriage between believers when they do ministry together. This planting of the same seeds in both of our hearts is called ‘the planting of the Lord that He may be glorified!’ (Is 61:3)
Child of God, I encourage you to pray and trust God for the supply of His words in your heart and mouth! It will change you to become like Jesus! It will change your spouse and all around you. Free and fruitful, stand up and speak! People will listen! ‘Arise and shine, for your light has come, and the glory of the Lord rises upon you!’ (Is 60:1) Glory to God!
SLL 19


“On the third day of the fast, Esther put on her royal robes and entered the inner court of the palace, just across from the king’s hall. The king was sitting on his royal throne, facing the entrance. When he saw Queen Esther standing there in the inner court, he welcomed her and held out the gold scepter to her. So Esther approached and touched the end of the scepter. Then the king asked her, “What do you want, Queen Esther? What is your request? I will give it to you, even if it is half the kingdom!” And Esther replied, “If it please the king, let the king and Haman come today to a banquet I have prepared for the king.”

The king turned to his attendants and said, “Tell Haman to come quickly to a banquet, as Esther has requested.” So the king and Haman went to Esther’s banquet. And while they were drinking wine, the king said to Esther, “Now tell me what you really want. What is your request? I will give it to you, even if it is half the kingdom!” (Esther 5:1-6)

Each year the women’s fellowship in our church, we fast daily during the month of January. We identify with Queen Esther in the Bible. We pray for ourselves, our husbands, our marriages, our children, our ministries and the work of our hands. Then we invite our husbands to a banquet called Esther’s banquet. We do not hire anybody. We decorate and cook by ourselves. It is a love feast. The single sisters who are thirty years and above are all dressed with ‘Royal garments’ and serve at the tables. By faith, they will marry soon, so that next year they too will join us and sit at the table. The older couples came forward. The husbands told us about true love and the secret of long lasting, successful and happy marriage. Then we danced… And ate (Jolof rice, banga rice, coconut rice, banga soup, Egussi soup, vegetable salad, fried chicken, fried meat, beans and dodo… ) very tasty food… And we ate the Royal cake … By faith we declare that God is in our side, the victory is ours, the enemy is defeated and the glory goes to God alone! Two doves in love stayed on the roof of our church during this banquet. All the prophetic signs confirm that this will be a very good year for us, the married couples in Father’s House Bible Church! Glory to God!!!

(In the pictures you see my Husband, Pastor Richmond Leigh and I -dressed for the occasion, as Queen Esther and King Xerxes. You see the two doves on the roof of our church, witnessing the sweet marriage love bellow. You also see some of the couples from our church, young and old. The Nigerians are generally shy when it comes to displaying love in public. They are not too ‘romantic’. But, as you can see, the Holy Spirit is changing people here. To God alone be all the glory!)

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Malia 7



“How beautiful you are! How lovely, O LOVE, with your delights!” (SS 7:6)

This is so wonderful to me. These days I pray to remember good and useful memories from my sin-to-grace past. At the time when these events happened, I did not see much value in them. But now, from the perspective of mature victory, I see them as pearls of great price picked from the ocean of God’s love. I am talking about things I had experienced as a woman of God, wife, mother and recently, grandmother. Some of these memories were painful. At that time I prayed that I will forget them. But God has healed my heart. Now, because I had removed the sting of the bee and I am enjoying the honey left behind. I am now praying to remember them… How time changes our desires and perspectives…


About 1998-1999, my husband and I were living in Houston, Tx. Suddenly, the Holy Spirit called us to duty. He said that we should leave the children behind and go back under a missionary anointing. We were to start a church called Father’s House, in Warri-Effurun, Nigeria. That was a hard word for both of us. It was especially difficult for me, because it meant leaving our children behind, alone, in a difficult place called America. The hardest was the leave our youngest daughter Jemine who was just 16 at the time. She already got admission and scholarship in the University of Houston and she wanted to stay there. Before going to the US we worked as medical doctors and my husband was also a successful national politician. Both of us, we did not go to Bible School. By faith alone, we obeyed God’s Word and we started this church. We were surprised at the success of the ministry. To God alone be all the glory!


Thank God for the people who invented the phone and the internet. God bless them! Our elder daughter Alina was shuttling between America and Nigeria. But Jemine was there alone. Thank God that she kept in touch all these years. Even up till today, we still talk on the phone about things, daily events, big or small. We pray. We dream. I rebuke. We encourage each other.  All these things thru the phone!!!


One serious problem I had in particular was that Jemine was changing into an ‘American girl’. Trying to belong to a foreign system, she started doing like they do. I was worried that what she considered ‘normal’ over there, for me was called ‘backsliding’. For example, the idea of dating a boy, to me it was worldly. Of course, ‘living together’, better called fornication, was not acceptable. Almost nothing she would say to me was right in this area of ‘American romance’.  For me, the worst of all was the Valentine day and Halloween day. I used to tell Jemine to run away from boys; to be careful with boys; to remember that she is there alone and boys will deceive her… I spent a lot of money on phone cards telling Jemine to run away from ‘fake love’. Thank God that even when she was angry at me, she could not keep the anger for too long. She will eventually see the wisdom of a mother’s words and come back ‘to her senses’. Her father and I prayed daily for our children. I was personally worried that she will be trapped in a ‘self-pity poisonous circle’ of terrible loneliness. Especially on Valentine Day, she will cry on the phone: “Malia… I am so lonely… Nobody wants to invite me out… Nobody sent me even half a rose… Nobody loves me here… If I will continue like this, I will never marry…. Malia…pray for me…” It is not easy to hear your child cry. I will pray in the Spirit and try to find words of wisdom and love, to help her go on. She will say: “Malia, you have taught me to drive men away. You said I should say No No No to all men who are not serious. Ok! I am very good at that. Now, they have all left me alone. Nobody greets me anymore. When will I marry? I am getting old… When will I say Yes?” Me too I did not know when… She was a born again Christian, a worship leader, well educated, having a good job, beautiful and all… But no husband … GOD!!!!!!… Many times I told her: “Jemine, your dad and I, we are in this with you, together.  Your pain is our pain. Your prayer is our prayer. Just trust God!”


Then about 5 years ago her dad and I we went to visit her in the US. We were relaxing in the sitting room when Jemine said that a young man who plays the keyboard in her church wants to ‘take her out’. This was scary for me… ‘Take out????” This ‘outing’ was a first after so many years of staying home alone. It just coincided with our annual visit. I did not know if it was God or the devil… But trust God to perfect the good things He started! My husband and I felt like we are on the threshold of a miracle. I was in the kitchen, cooking Nigerian stew (Jemine’s favorite) when the young man came in. He shyly said: ‘Good evening Sir! Good evening Mam! My name is Matthew. Can I take Jemine out, to see a movie? We shall come back in time…” Tali said: ‘Of course…’ but I saw that he was ‘eyeing’ the young man from head to toe. Tali and Matthew and another Nigerian visitor sat down waiting for Jemine to get ready. They were discussing recent events. I observed that Matthew (a white boy) was behaving like a good ‘Nigerian Yoruba boy’. He was the youngest among the three men there. He did not speak too much. He waited for his ‘turn’. He addressed both Tali and the other man with ‘Sir’. When Tali stood up to take something, he stood up too. He did not insist on his opinions (like the young Americans do). He did not raise his voice. Wow…  Turning the stew on the stove, I was thinking: ‘This boy has good ‘home training’. Thank God for his parents…I was impressed… But, can this be Jemine’s prince we have been praying for? Is this the special man who will kill Jemine’s loneliness? She said so many: ‘No No No’ to other men. Can this be the ‘Yes’ man?” Will this young man change her Valentine? This is how the mind of a mother works…. I hope you understand…


They went to a movie and came back that evening. I could not rest. I was waiting for the ‘report’. Jemine knew that I will still be in the kitchen, waiting…. I decided to cook Nigerian beans too. Just to waste the time… When Jemine came she was overwhelmed. She told me that they went to the movies and when another man was talking ‘nonsense’ to her he stood up to protect her. Then they went to eat dinner and he insisted that he will pay for both of them. She was impressed because at that time, he was still a student in the university but she was already working. He said that his mother ‘will kill him’ if she hears that he invited a girl out and waited for the girl to pay the bill (even if she has more money). Jemine said that Matthew opened the door of the car for her to enter. She said that since she has been living in America, no young man has even done that. It was only the old men who do that ‘nice thing’- she said. It has never happened to her. She was totally impressed. The look on her face reminded me of the time when I met her dad, many years ago… Because I experienced true falling in love, I could smell the perfume of it… After so many ‘No No No’, we are finally entering the blessed ‘yes’ hour! God has answered our prayer. Six months later, Matthew and his beautiful family came to Warri and Jemine became his wife. And they live happily ever after… This is a true story! My family’s story!


Jemine may remember this event in a more romantic way. She may have forgotten the beans and stew she ate that night. She may add some sweet details I have forgotten. But one thing is clear! It is a story of true love! Be encouraged! God loves His children and He answers their prayers, more than they will ever imagine! Dear young people, both boys and girls, please take this mother’s advice: there are many No-s in life abut only one Yes! Wait for the yes! The journey may be long and lonely. But trust God to the end! Serve God before you can serve men! You too will one day be grateful for the pain becoming a fruitful testimony. Glory to God!

(In the pictures, Matthew and Jemine Oakes on their Nigerian traditional and church wedding day)

Matthew and J 1

Matthew and J 2

Matthe and J 3



“And don’t be wishing you were someplace else or with someone else. Where you are right now is God’s place for you. Live and obey and love and believe right there” (1Cor 7:17, TM)
There are times when I wished I was somebody else, more beautiful, taller, tanner…
There are other times when I wished I lived in a beautiful country with green parks and beautiful flowers…
There are times when I wished I had the gift of singing or dancing or talking like an angel…
Sometimes work is just a headache and the office colleagues are all the wrong people…
There are times when, married, I wish to be single and free, not to bother for the needs of another…
There are other times when single, I wish to be married, at any cost, having a dream wedding in an exotic place…
Often I wish I have more money, more friends or more opportunities to travel, to just get lost in the world…
Sometimes I wish to be young again, no wrinkles, no arthritis and no need for a hearing aid…
What do I do with this basket-full of impossible dreams and quickly fading wishes?
All I have is a long boring today that nobody wants, even if I offer it for free…
Recently, new questions come to the surface…
What if nothing changes…What if my life will be just a long boring day…
Is it really true that going away to a fantasy land will make me the happiest in the world?
Can I find favor with God right here, right now?
Suddenly, The Wonderful Counselor whispers a strange, but ever fresh word to me:
“My daughter, Stop looking around…Stop looking at yourself… There is nothing good there… Start looking up and see Him who holds your breath… you are not too far from Me… you are not too deep that I cannot hold you… you may be living in the desert of Africa, where the streets do not have numbers… places absent from a decent map… in between two hot rocks… in places nobody wants to visit, …but still… this is God’s earth, and you are here right now, for such a time as this… If you are a wind, then blow… If you are a rainbow, then shine… If you are cricket, then jump…
If you are a flower, then bloom…now…in this very spot…do not wait for another day…do not wait for the rain…do not wait for men to find you… bloom where your roots have found favor with the ground… for the pleasure of the Holy Gardner alone…He knows you… he loves you… spread your fragrance to all who pass by, even to the last one who crushes you underfoot.. Worship Him who planted you there for He alone is worthy of all praise, beauty and lonely labor of love…Love Me My daughter… and you shall find rest for your soul…”



“Bless the Lord, O my soul;

And all that is within me, bless His holy name!

Bless the Lord, O my soul,

And forget not all His benefits:

Who forgives all your iniquities,

Who heals all your diseases,

Who redeems your life from destruction,

Who crowns you with lovingkindness and tender mercies” (Ps 103:1-4)


This morning a sister In Christ sent this letter. She is about 30, not married yet. She is very hard working and a committed Christian. She was healed by God from a strange sickness. The doctors did many tests but could not find the reason why her feet were always swollen. She tried medicines and diets but nothing worked. Until recently! God healed her! This testimony is given to the glory of God, to the shame of the devil and for the encouragement of many others who wait unto God for their miracle! God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit are one! They will answer your prayers too!   Nothing is impossible for God to do!


“Good morning Malia. Abba Father did and is doing good to me. For some time now (about two years) I ve been having one health challenge that always worries me sick. It is painless though but very uncomfortable. My legs would just start swelling from my toes to my knees and I can’t wear shoes or slippers for long. I went to hospitals I did some tests but nothing was found. I was told to always elevate my legs especially when sleeping but it didn’t help. I took drugs to help me urinate all the fluid they said was being stored under my tissues but that didn’t help. I did water therapy as recommended but no help. After some time it stopped on its own only for it to resurface this year.  Since January they became so swollen that it made me ashamed and scared. I felt how can a young girl like me be having swollen legs like this? The devil started reminding me of my elder sister who died in 2002 and had similar issues and many other terrible symptoms before she finally died. The devil told me that I was going through the same thing that I will die. And I believed for some time until I got angry in the spirit and started praying and rebuking the devil and his lies. I cried to Father. I told Him to help me since I don’t know what to do. I don’t have any money to run expensive tests or treat expensive sicknesses. I prayed and cried to Him that night and slept off with peace. I started ignoring the swelling people told me to go and check my kidneys and the devil came again saying ‘ yes the kidneys may be faulty like your sister’s probably was’. I said no. God my Father is on it He will heal me without me wasting money.


One night in a dream I saw a beautiful chimpanzee clouded with the colours of the rainbow smiling at me meanwhile on my bed in reality I was experiencing what medicine calls sleep paralysis I knew it was a spiritual attack. I tried to get up but couldn’t I tried to shout the name of Jesus but couldn’t… then back in the dream the chimpanzee was speaking a language I could understand. It said ‘you are like this (all the colours of the rainbow). You can pray in the spirit to overcome this demonic oppression. Start praying in tongues since you can’t pray physically’. Emediately I started praying in tongues in the dream the heavy weight that was on me that prevented me from moving and opening my mouth left and I woke up. To thanked God! I have been praying since then. The Holy Spirit told me to sweat. Yes. He said: ‘sweat!”. So I started making sure that I sweat. I would put on sweaters and no fan or air conditioner, drink hot tea… To my surprise, it worked. Malia!!! My legs now are perfectly normal! The swelling is gone and for the first time this year I can see and touch my ankle bones. And I didn’t take any drug. God is indeed the GREATEST physician. He knows my body more than me! He knows how it should function since He is the MANUFACTURER! My testimony is to the glory of God!  PRAISE THE LORD!!! Your daughter…”


Jesus commanded His disciples. ‘Let us go to the other side’ (Mk 4:35-41)
They ‘left the crowd behind…’ This was to be a personal test for the disciples alone. ‘Tired as He was’ Jesus went to sleep in the boat. Then a furious storm started. The waves were higher than the boat. Initially, the disciples did not bother to wake Jesus, knowing Him to be a carpenter and a teacher. Jesus was not a fisherman like most of them. He cannot help… or so they thought… But when the wind increased and the boat was almost overturned, they cried to Him in despair: ‘Teacher, don’t You care if we drown?’ Jesus woke up and rebuked the winds. The storm suddenly stopped and it was completely calm. But in the midst of that wonderful peace, Jesus rebuked His disciples for their doubt. They looked at Him as a class teacher in a boat, as a liability in the midst of a crisis. It was obvious that they lacked mature faith in Him. They did not believe that Jesus is God ‘who never sleeps or slumbers,’ and who controls all things.
Just like them, many believers trust God only before or after the storm. But in the middle of a crisis, they reverse back to their elementary fears and doubts. They go to their natural way of thinking, to the common sense of the flesh, and like lost children, they panic and cry. Mature faith remains unmoved by circumstances, trusting the God who can stop the wind with His very breath. Mature faith has the same peace before, in the middle and at the end of the trial. Trials are like tunnels. Before the train enters the tunnel, it is light. Suddenly darkness comes. For a time it seems as though the darkness will never end. That pain, that weeping, that loneliness… it seems like it will go on forever. But at the end of the tunnel the sun shines once more. Tunnels are not graveyards. We are just passing through. All these trials and temptations, all these things you battle with, they only come ‘to pass.’ Our life should not depend on the circumstances. Christ is our life. Our faith is rooted in the Cross and in the Promises of God. Heaven is our destination. Joy is our portion. Eternal life is our inheritance. These are blessed things that have come to stay.
Do you boast about your faith only when your feet are set on dry land? Do you have the same faith in the middle of the storms of life? Remember, it was Jesus who said: ‘Let us go to the other side.’ Do you trust Jesus to finish what He has started in you? Do you trust Jesus in between the shores? Do you trust Him when He is silent? Do you trust Him when He is sleeping? Do you trust Him when He answers the prayer of others, but ignores your own?
This is my testimony: Jesus has been with me always. I am a witness to His faithful fellowship, no matter the circumstances. His Word comes to me with power. He has been with me in riches and poverty, in sickness and in health, at home and abroad. Why will I doubt Him now? Why will I fear the end of the matter? Why will I fret in the midst of things unknown? Why will I be sad when men betray me? Why will I lose my temper when men provoke me? He has commanded me to rejoice always, so I will rejoice! He is my Shepherd and He is my God!
In Christ I declare: Jesus is my Savior and my Lord! I trust God before, in the middle and after the storms of life! As for me and my household, we shall serve the Lord! Always! And forever! ‘This is my story; this is my song, praising my Savior all the day long…’In Jesus’ name, Amen!
(From my Book, The Doe of the Morning, available on Amazon)


“Her neighbors and relatives heard that the Lord had shown her great mercy, and they shared her joy” (Lk 1:58)
This morning I received this note from a daughter in Christ. God saved her and her child from death. We are very grateful to God! Life is not by mistake! Salvation is not by chance! It is the work of our merciful and all powerful God! The Bible says: ‘Rejoice with them who rejoice’ (Rom 12:15). Let the celebrations begin! If the devil likes it or not, we declare that this is the day the Lord has made we shall rejoice and be glad in it! Today is a good day! Success in all your endeavors is guaranteed! In Jesus name, amen!
“Good morning ma,
“I will sing of the mercies of the Lord forever I will sing, l will sing,I will sing of the mercies of the Lord forever I will sing of the mercies of the Lord.With my mouth will I make known,Thy faithfulness,Thy faithfulness,with my mouth will I make known,Thy faithfulness through all generation…”
In fact, I was typing this message before I slept off.God delivered my son and I from accident on our way from school yesterday. We havnt been using the car because its been bad.As usual we took a tricycle,suddenly,there was a collision between the Tricycle we entered,a helux behind us and a jeep in front of us…maLia, all I can say is… God delivered us…(the helux hit the tricycle with force from behind,compressing the back,with that force pushed us to hit the jeep in front of us,shattering the whole back glass,I only hit my knee a little)…Hmmm!!! MaLia,it could have been worse,but for the mercies of God .We are alive to testify.Thank You Jesus!!! I Am so grateful to God!…Your daughter…”
I use this sister’s testimony as a point of contact for other children of God who read this letter and have faith in God! Just in case you have been under attack from evil forces, you have witnessed the devil’s failure to ‘steal kill and destroy’, your life, your marriage, your children, your ministry, your business, your peace, joy and health… then begin to rejoice like never before! Sing a new song! Clap your hands and sing Hallelujah! Dance like David danced! God will increase your testimony! In every matter in heaven and on earth, God has the last say! God is the supreme judge! God will give you the desires of your heart! Trust God to change your weeping into dancing and your fears into boasting that you are indeed God’s child!!!! Glory to God! bring back testimonies of God’s goodness, mercy, love, power and glory! In Jesus name, amen!
God's hand


“But by the grace of God I am what I am, and His grace to me was not without effect. No, I worked harder than all of them–yet not I, but the grace of God that was with me” (1Cor 15:10)
Recently I remembered a 20 years old story about our youngest daughter, Jemine. She is the only one of our children who was born in Nigeria. She grew up in Warri, Nigeria. She loves Nigerian food, Nigerian jokes and Nigerian Pidging English. She now lives with her husband and son in Houston, Tx. She was 15 when, as a family, we went to the U.S. We stayed there for a year and a half, not knowing at that time what the future will bring. During that time the Holy Spirit commanded us to go back to Warri and start a church called Father’s House. We obeyed. But God’s call was not easy. We left our daughters (Alina and Jemine) behind and alone… My husband and I wept as we went back to Nigeria. Our church was born with tears but now we rejoice at the great harvest…
Jemine did her last year of high school in Houston, Tx. She had to adjust to a new culture, new class-mates, new teachers and a new accent. Knowing that her father and I will soon go back to Nigeria, and my time with Jemine was so short (you know, mother feelings…), I cherished every day as her mother, more than in the past. Each day as I prepared lunch, I thank God for the privilege to cook for my child… I wanted to go to Nigeria with a free heart… I knew that ministry over there will demand all my energies… So for now, I could be just a wife and a mother…
Because my feelings were so sensitive and alert, that is why I remember so clearly these things, little details from that period…
One day Jemine came from school looking sad. She said: ‘Malia, I want to change my name…’ I asked her ‘why?’… She said ‘Malia, I am the only one with this name, Jemine, in the whole school… I don’t like it…’ Some girls laughed at me today… many others cannot pronounce it… many forget my name… some others call me ‘Jem’ and they add ‘bread and jam’… She looked so sad… I asked her: ‘What name do you want to have?’ she said: ‘Maybe Heather or Jessica…’ Why, I asked… she said because there are three Heathers and two Jessicas in her class (If you are reading this letter and your name is Heather or Jessica, I am sorry. These are nice names too…) Jemine said to me that if she has the same name like them, she will not be lonely, she will not be so different…She will feel that she belongs to America…
I quickly prayed in my spirit for the right words to say. Slowly, lovingly and patiently (Oh, mother’s work is not easy…) I tried to explain to my 15 years daughter the beauty and the power of being herself. I told her that God created her unique and special. She does not have to be like anybody. She does not have to join the choir when she can be the soloist… I told her that together we shall pray for her has to discover her true identity, not as an American, or as a Nigerian, or as a Romanian, but as a child of God. I told her that the grace of God is upon her. The unmerited favor of God will reveal to her who she truly is. The Holy Spirit will open her eyes to see how God, her Creator, sees her. She does not have to change anything about her looks. A new name, more American acceptable will not help her find peace with herself and others. Only God is able to give her confidence and security. I told her that this identity is found in Christ alone. Money cannot buy it and thieves cannot steal it. I said: ‘Now say: ‘My name is Jemine. I am a child of God!’ Say it daily! Say it often! Say it loudly! Say it until you believe it!’
To the glory of God, she listened well. She relaxed and accepted the word. The grace of God upon her produced spiritual fruits! She is now a woman of God, a worship leader, a happy wife to Matthew and a wonderful mother to Oliver Sisan Oakes (yes, Sisan is a Nigerian name, my husband’s middle name). She works in a good company and she is a blessing to many! Glory to God!
Dear Reader, take Jemine’s struggles with identity as a point of contact for yourself. Pray and ask God to reveal to you, who are you? Why are you born in this world? Why are you still alive? What is your identity and destiny as decreed by God? May the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be upon you!
(in the picture, Jemine and me on her wedding day)
Jemine and me



“But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you and you shall be My witnesses…” (Ac 1:8)
The prayer meeting this evening was wonderful. For whatever reason, the instrumentalists did not come. We only had a drummer, a young man, who tried to drum a little, but later lied down under the anointing. So, no music tonight… Sister O led us in worship with a simple chorus, singing: “Jesus, I come to You to draw, draw, draw once again…Jesus”… The Holy Spirit used this little song to draw us closer to His Majesty. We prayed on and on. When you see a group of Christians praying with passion and tears, without stopping to clean their faces, you know that the Holy Spirit has come. To hear the sound of congregational prayers is a royal privilege! The hall became hot. I don’t know if the ACs stopped working. But nobody paid attention to such details. Nobody was fanning looking for a better place in the room. Everybody was singing, dancing, clapping hands and sweating. Each one was in love with Jesus. When you find yourself in the presence of the King, nothing really matters. We came to Jesus; few ready and running; some walking; many crawling on the floor. It does not matter how fast you run this marathon. Just finish it!

We all needed a touch from the Father. We all needed a sip of the water of life. We all needed a smile from Jesus. We all needed a fresh filling with the Holy Spirit. We prayed in English and in tongues. From the top of our heads to the soles of our feet, the fire of God was burning. We became living torches, too hot for any viruses (spiritual and natural) to survive. The fire of the Holy Spirit is power, is healing, is freedom. We were baptized afresh with this holy fire. We did not need money. We only needed faith in God. If you trust the bank to give you a loan, how much more you should trust Jehovah Jireh to give you all the money you need to pay off your debts, to buy that land and to build that house? If you trust your doctor to heal you, how much more you should trust Jehovah Rapha to search your heart and heal all your diseases? I am always surprised how the Holy Spirit loves Nigeria! This evening we danced in the rain of joy. The grace rainbow appeared in the room… Each drop of this wonderful supernatural rain washed and cleansed our hearts. Sweating and with tears running on our faces, we may have looked dirty to cold un-invited visitors who pay money for church entertainment. But I am a witness for Jesus! I declare that all I saw tonight was only purified hearts and glory bathed worshippers.


‘Be sure you know the condition of your flocks…for riches do not endure forever…the lambs will provide you with clothing and the goats with the price of a field’ (PV 27:23, 26)
This is a Word given to shepherds. Pastors and parents are spiritual shepherds. In Hebrew, the word translated ‘condition’ means ‘face, personal favor or intimate presence’. This is God’s command: Make every effort to know ‘the faces’, the hearts, of your children, be they natural or spiritual! Your sons and daughters should not intimidate, manipulate or confuse you. God forbid! Parenting is much more than buying baby clothes or paying school fees! Pastoring is much more than preaching a sermon and collecting offerings! Your love must be sacrificial! Your very spirit must be involved! You should be wiser, spiritually stronger, more mature and more loving than they. Your children, when they are small and even when they are grown, should not be a mystery to you! You teach them, you lead them, you bless them! As parents, you need to intercede for them! I mean pray for them! Daily call their names before the throne of mercy and grace! God will show you His purpose for their lives! Flow with that revelation! Even before they tell you about their struggles, the Holy Spirit will reveal to you their inmost hearts, their pains and their dreams.

As a mother, as a father, if you truly love them then you will be willing to help them grow in the grace and in the knowledge of the Lord. You will join your spiritual ‘shoulders’ to theirs, so that their burdens of life will be lighter. This is called spiritual parenting. Even if they are adults, keep your children close to your heart. Do not be a passive ignorant parent or a hireling pastor! Grieve when they go astray, pray them back into the fold when they backslide and rejoice with their successes! If your child is obedient (a lamb) or more difficult (a goat), continue to care for them! Christ rewards His shepherds because He too has a Shepherd’s heart. Be strong, you pastors! Be encouraged, you elders! Be comforted, you parents! Your happy mature strong and spiritual children will give Glory to God! Their good godly lives shall be your reward!