“The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands” (PV 14:1)
This woman is the opposite of the one described above. She may be married with children but spiritually, she is a curse to her family. She uses her mouth and her resources to destroy her marriage and her children. She brings down every good gift God has given to them. She is an enemy to God and a traitor to her family. She is unfaithful and untrustworthy. She does not truly love her husband and her children. She manipulates them all for her selfish gain. She is a busybody and a gossip. She loves fashion for fashion sake. She takes pleasure in seducing other men. He husband feels lonely and rejected. She is proud and restless. She hates her home and dreams of better ones abroad. She compares her ‘foolish’ husband with other men. She is ambitious and rude. All her priorities are wrong. She helps other people, but she neglects her primary assignment, her own marriage and home. She uses sexual intimacy as a tool to gain advantage over her husband. She loves money and material possession. She keeps intimate connections with her natural family, former relationships, secret lovers or ‘spiritual husbands’.
She is a liability to her husband. She likes to travel alone. Her business keeps her away from home and even then, she makes no clear profit. She cheats and manipulates others to make money. She wastes her resources on foolish things.
She loves quarrels and enjoys arguments (PV 27:15, 16). She talks too much. She does not listen to her husband or her children.
She does not forgive her husband’s sins. She does not submit to him except in a fake manner to deceive him the more.
She may be religious, reading the Bible and attending prayer meetings. But she is unable to come to the knowledge of truth and to be free from the bondage of sin (2Tim 3:6, 7). She is a coward and a thief. She is not prepared for the future. She is always panicking and fears bad news. She is not sure of her marriage and of her destiny. She pretends to be bold but she is insecure about her spiritual standing with God. She is ignorant about the Person of God the Holy Spirit. She resists and quenches the Holy Spirit. Her husband’s life is full of mistakes and terror for she is not really praying for him. The husband feels alone at home. Her children are wild and disobedient, advertising her rebellion. She is worldly and her friends are worldly.
The damage done by a foolish woman in her home is so much that even the husband and the children cannot repair it. She will not rest until her house is ‘pulled down’, until there are open fights and disgraceful confrontations. She complains and blames her husband for the trouble in the home. She is not willing to repent to save her marriage. Divorce and chaos is her aim. With the help of evil spirits, she will not rest until the house is completely ruined and the occupants wounded and scattered. She will destroy every shred of peace and joy that was there in the past. With time, she becomes a totally bitter woman, a picture of evil spirits in hell. May God forbid such a story!
‘Heavenly Father, we ask for the grace to be wise women of God, godly wives and mothers! In Jesus name we pray, Amen!’