“The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands” (PV 14:1)
The main reason why a woman is called wise it is because she is a child of God. She is born again and Spirit filled. In other words, a wise woman fears God and she is trustworthy. Her family trusts her as a person and God trusts her as His servant.
The wise woman is a wife and a mother. She builds her home. It does not matter if she is rich or poor, if her home is a palace or a prison cell. She is the queen of that home, with the authority of heaven to bless it.
Her primary assignment is to be a woman of God, to be a spiritual blessing to her husband and children. Out of the overflow of such a wonderful ministry, she can bless others.
The wife is a spiritual helpmeet to her husband. She helps him spiritually by praying to know God’s purpose for his life. The word ‘helper’ here is very powerful. It is the same word used for the Holy Spirit, a helper, a comforter, an encourager.
A godly wife knows her husband even more than he knows himself for she is the helper in fulfilling his destiny. Without a godly wife, a man is limited in pursuing his God’s given vision for his life. ‘It is not good for man to be alone’ (Gen 2:18). This is God’s verdict. In other words, it is good… it is a great blessing for a man to marry a godly wife chosen for him by God.
The wise woman is first of all a spiritual blessing to her family. She fulfills this ministry by being a student and a doer of the Word of God. Wisdom is the skill to apply the knowledge of the Word of God in daily living. The wise woman is a practical Christian. She has visible fruits of her commitment to God. She is totally surrendered to God. She is a woman of prayer.
She loves God, her family and God’s house. She faithfully attends her local church activities and pays the price for ministry. Her children know without any shadow of doubt, that mummy loves to go to church and pray.
She is a humble and a virtuous woman who has gained her husband’s total trust. She is modest in her choice of clothes, rejecting any appearance of evil. She is confident of the power and beauty of holiness. Her spirit is quiet and humble but also free and adventurous in the safe perfect path of God.
She is a grateful woman, full of thanksgiving to God, for all the gifts and blessings, for her marriage and for her family.
She is industrious and confident that God has blessed the work of her hands. She makes profit from her trade and she invests in new opportunities. Her business expands. She works a little and she makes great profit for God leads her in all her decisions.
She is prudent, detecting danger from afar, and avoiding it. She is cautious of the seduction of darkness and the lusts that aim to destroy her home. She is aware of the existence and attraction of evil spirits. She does not trust herself but God to lead the way. She does warfare and moves from victory to victory. ‘A prudent wife is from the Lord’ (PV 19:14).
The fruit of the Holy Spirit is manifesting in her. She combines them all: love and self-control, patience and joy and kindness…
Her speech reveals the content of her heart. On her tongue there is the law of kindness and grace. She speaks the Word of God to her husband, prays and prophesies over him. She chooses her words. She is wise with the timing, when to speak and when to keep silent. She makes the preaching of the Gospel attractive to her family so that they never feel bored when listening to her.
A happy married woman is a proof that with the help of God, her husband meets all her needs. A godly happy couple is God’s masterpiece. They are a picture of the eternal love story between Christ and His church.
A wise woman is a mature woman. She is totally faithful to God and to her family. She makes her home to be a refuge for her husband from this world of sin. Her home is an oasis in the desert where her family gladly desire to come and be refreshed.
A wise woman is spiritually detached from her natural family connections. Her marriage and children take priority over her natural family. She helps her parents and siblings only as far as they don’t interfere with her home. This is the God’s command:
‘A man leaves his father and mother to cling to his wife and the two become one’ (Eph 5:31).
‘Listen my daughter; forget your people and your father’s house. The king is enthralled by your beauty; Honor Him for He is your Lord’ (Ps 45:10, 11).
A wise wife will help her husband to cleave to her. She is sensitive about the unity of the Spirit and she fights anything that breeches it. She prays and yields her body to achieve total sexual compatibility and fulfillment. She cooperates with her husband’s desire for sexual intimacy. Her bed is ‘a holy ground’, a pure gift from God, totally fenced against the world.
The wise woman has her priorities right. Her relationship with God is always first. She pays the price for a quality time to study God‘s Word and to pray. She seeks God’s will for her life and diligently goes ahead fulfilling it. Her second priority is her marriage. She knows that it is God’s gift and ministry to her. She prays for her husband. She encourages him to fulfill his destiny too. She helps him in all areas where help is needed. She is a good listener, she loves him, forgives him and she makes him laugh. Next to Jesus, she is his best friend. The third priority is her children. She knows that they are entrusted to them by God. She reads the Bible to them even when they are babes. She prays with them and for them. She preaches to them until they discover the reality of God for themselves. She encourages them to serve God. She brings them to church. When they become adults she joyfully releases them in the hands of God and becomes their spiritual mentor for the remaining days of her life.
Lastly, like the wise virgins, she is a woman who intimately knows the third Person of the Trinity. She is filled and lead by the Holy Spirit. She is not afraid of the future for she has the store filled with the oil of the Spirit of life eternal (Mt 25). As her light continue to shine before her family in the darkness of this world, she is quietly confident of her eternal reward from God.
A woman who fears the Lord shall be praised (PV 31:30).