“The tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruit.
He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord” (PV 18:21, 22)
THE TONGUE OF DEATH HAS BEEN DEFEATED!
There is a spiritual connection between these two verses. The lesson, read in between the lines, is that much of the success or the failure in marriage depends on the words spoken at home, especially in the bedroom. It seems that the power of the tongue is stronger than even the sexual connection. This revelation is a surprise to many; nevertheless, this is the truth. Knowing this, we should be much more careful with our words as a married couple.
This is the question: what does it mean to have the power of death in the tongue? What type of person, better said what type of heart is that who can kill her (his) lover thru spoken words? Who gives that power to a man?
In Hebrew, the word ‘death’ in the scripture above means to completely destroy another; to suddenly kill someone and send him to hell. The word also means to be a necromancer. Before we go and look at the dictionary to understand what a necromancer is, we remind ourselves that this study is done to help marriages. Most of the marital troubles are spiritual and cannot be solved by natural means. Behind every insult, every act of betrayal, behind slander, gossip, hatred, manipulation, lust or adultery, there are demons who initiate them. So it is possible, the tongue of the wife has the power to kill her husband and his love for her (or the other way round).
I pray for the leading of the Holy Spirit as we proceed further. Necromancy is an occult demonic practice. It is the act of bringing back to the visible realm the spirits of the dead men and communicating with them. This is done to gain secret information about the past, present or the future. This information has the power to influence present circumstances or to manipulate other people. The practice is done by skillful spiritists and belongs to the realm of witchcraft. It is a pagan practice and it requires a sacrifice. It is totally forbidden by God (Deut 18:9-13). A good example is the witch of Endor. King Saul went to her that she may bring back from the dead the spirit of the Prophet Samuel. The king wanted to know the future, what will happen the next day in the battle (1Sam 28). OK…that was not easy, I understand… but it is in the Bible, so let’s go on…
Maybe you argue saying that your wife is not a witch. That she does not go to spiritualists, to native doctors, to the forest or to the cemetery. You say that you met her in the church and you believe she is a Christian. All these facts may be true. Please remember that witchcraft is one of the manifestations, one of the works of the flesh. We all live in a body of flesh. Ignorantly or not, we all have a native tendency to sympathize with the powers of the occult. We all desire to know secret things of the invisible spirit realm. We all want the direct power to change people’s hearts or destinies. We all want to know the future. This inherent curiosity is the platform the devil uses to operate thru our spirits. Demons do not have bodies. They use the human flesh. It is only the Holy Spirit that can drive them away. Until a man is born again, he cannot help himself. He is a slave to the powers of darkness and cannot deliver himself from them. These demons are more active in some families than in others.
The question still remains: for example, how can a woman use her tongue to kill her husband or her marriage? The answer is this: thru the power in her tongue to speak death into the home. She may be ignorant of it but a demon of necromancy may work thru her tongue. She has the spiritual power to invoke the spirits of the dead. She does this especially when she is angry, when she is provoked and she wants to retaliate. This is a test for you: how do you know if your wife speaks death into your home? Just like a necromancer brings back the spirits of the men who died long ago, she will bring matters of the past and stir up things you thought long forgotten. She will remind you of sins and mistakes of the past. She will not let you rest creating anxiety about past mistakes. She will create false guilt and a burden of condemnation that the future is not secure because your past of sin. She will terrorize you with the past, destroying the hope of the future. Remember: ‘Love is not rude…is not easily angry…Love does not keep record of wrongs…’ (1Cor 13:5). All her words are hateful arrows designed to kill the love in your heart.
For as long as you listen to her, you cannot have peace, joy or the assurance of your salvation. You will struggle to love God and to love your wife. May God open your eyes to see the truth behind the natural things!
What is the solution? If you are not married yet and you date such a woman, separate immediately! It means that she is not born again. Children of God do not kill! They bring life to you! It means that she is an agent of the powers of darkness sent on an assignment to ‘kill you’ (spiritually or even physically). If you are married already, then pray that you may know the truth. Pray that God will have mercy and deliver you. Be sure that you are truly saved and filled with the Holy Spirit. Study the Word of God and claim the promises of God. Ignore her negative comments for they are all lies. You need to pray that the Holy Spirit will strengthen you. Most men make the mistake and carry their wives for deliverance. The best way is for the husband to become a mature believer. It is not an easy task with such opposition at home. But it is possible! I have seen it done! The spouse of a demoniac becomes a preacher of the Gospel! He now has a great testimony!
The demons in your wife may react. These are proud ‘prophetic’ evil spirits! They will be punished by the devil if they fail to drag you to the road of death. It is a battle unto death. But the advantage is that as a believer, you have God Almighty on your side! God can never lose! Your faith in the God of the Bible is the key that never fails. The power of the Cross and the Blood of Jesus will speak on your behalf. Your wife may threaten with divorce or violence. She may curse you and accuse you falsely! Learn to die to such words. Ignore them! Do not argue in the flesh! Do not quarrel! No matter what the provocation, please, do not fight physically! Just ignore the lies and go on with your life. Sometimes, just quote the scriptures back to her! Do not preach! Just speak the words of life! Have faith in God! For as long as she is willing to live with you, do not drive her away. But if she leaves and desires divorce, then let her go, you are not under any obligation to bring her back (1Cor 7). The truth is that she cannot help herself, for now…but one day, the light of mercy may fall on her, and she too will be free. For nobody know the destiny of a soul, nobody knows the future, except God and God alone!
As for me, I have done my work as a pastor to you. I have obeyed the command of God that says:
“Rescue those being led away to death;
hold back those staggering toward slaughter.
If you say, “But we knew nothing about this,”
does not he who weighs the heart perceive it?
Does not he who guards your life know it?
Will he not repay everyone according to what they have done?” (PV 24:11, 12)
Finally, dear child of God, I plead the Blood of Jesus upon your body, soul and spirit; upon your marriage, your spouse and your children; upon the work of your hands and your ministry! May God anoint these words of life to bring light to the blind, to break the chains of bondage, to heal the sick and to set the captives free! In Jesus name, Amen!
In Christ I declare:
I am free and free indeed!
The tongue of death has been defeated!
I no longer live but it is Christ who lives in me!
To the glory of God!
In Jesus name