FOR THE JOY AHEAD

THE PRINCIPLE OF DELAYED GRATIFICATION

“The end of a thing is better than its beginning; The patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit. 9 Do not hasten in your spirit to be angry, For anger rests in the bosom of fools” (Ecc 7:8,9). Gratification means pleasure, fulfilled desire or a reward received for a job well done. The Principle of Delayed Gratification means waiting for a bigger later reward instead of taking something smaller right now. It is the ability to resist immediate rewards in favour of larger, later benefits, that contribute to personal success in life. It is trusting God’s promises as more precious than anything the world has to offer. The world says, “You deserve this happiness now”. Jesus says, “Trust Me. What’s coming is better than you can imagine now. Wait on Me!” We live in a time of instant pleasure: cooking noodles in 2 minutes, making instant coffee… We desire instant gratification. We are impatient. God’s wisdom sounds foreign and old fashioned. Why invest in a better future? In the Bible, we see a different wisdom. It is the wisdom of God. We see that Faith is combined with Patience, reward follows obedience; to have a great harvest we must plant seeds in season. The Holy Spirit teaches us to invest in God’s wisdom, in self-discipline as we hope for future glory. Character is formed by waiting for God to perfect the present. Desire to experience love is purified by self-control. Joy increases when we trust God’s timing. God does not promise an easy life. But He promises a good life, a life shaped by faith, hope, and long-term joy. Delayed gratification is about desiring something better than immediate happiness, paying the price for eternal pleasures. “You will show me the path of life; In Your presence is fullness of joy; At Your right hand are pleasures forevermore” (Ps 16:11). Selah!

As spiritual farmers, we must submit to the discipline of planting seeds in season, before enjoying the harvest. The Christian life is a life of faith. “Let us not grow weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up” (Gal. 6:9). Spiritual growth is agricultural, not industrial. It does not respond to shortcuts. The farmer plants today, trusting in a harvest that comes only after watering, waiting, and watching. In a culture obsessed with immediate results, Paul reminds us that God’s kingdom operates on a longer timeline. We must submit to the discipline of Waiting. The Psalms are full of the theme of waiting on the Lord. “Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.” (Ps 27:14). Waiting is not passive inaction. It is active trust. We wait—not because nothing is happening—but because God is working in ways we cannot see. Waiting and delayed gratification are part of the royal journey of every believer—from Abraham waiting for Isaac, to David waiting for a crown, to the church waiting for Christ’s return. “Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him” (Jam1:12).

We must live in the Hope of glory. Paul had an eternal perspective of life. When he faced beatings, hunger, and imprisonment he wrote: “Our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.” (2 Cor. 4:17). What sustained Paul was not ease and comfort but faith, patience and hope. His eyes were set on eternity. He lived by faith, with the conviction that the unseen realm is more real than what we see. This is the lens of delayed gratification: always believing that, in Christ, the best is still to come. We must live by the spiritual fruit of Self Control. Delayed gratification requires self-control. It is a mark of spiritual maturity and comes with the fruit of the Spirit (Gal. 5:22,23). Without self-control, we say yes to every impulse or lust, and love gets spoiled. But with self-control, we learn to say “No” today for the sake of something more beautiful tomorrow. Such self-control is not mere willpower. It is Spirit-empowered restraint, rooted in the confidence that God’s timing and God’s ways are always better, for God keeps the best for last!

Jesus calls his followers to a radical reordering of desire. He says, “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth. . .but store up for yourselves treasures in heaven” (Matt 6:19,20). He is not calling us to reject a good life. But He invites us to trust in the pattern of delayed gratification; He wants us to invest in eternity. Give generously now. Love sacrificially now. Walk humbly now. Why? Because you trust that what God will bring at the return of Christ is better than what is temporary, fading and perishable. Jesus also teaches, “Whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it” (Matt 16:25). This advice sounds foolish, like a loss. But it is the pathway to fullness. To follow Jesus is to delay the pleasure the world offers, and to find in Him a joy that outlasts every earthly pleasure.

It has been discovered that successful people choose to consistently work for long-term goals. Avoiding distraction, staying self-motivated, and having a strong connection with why the goal is important are examples of delaying gratification. Instant gratification is a habit. But learning to delay the impulse for immediate pleasure in Favour of long-term satisfaction is a skill required for success in life. With prayer and patience, the brain forms new pathways for a better behaviour. These are five main areas where we must learn to delay gratification for the greater later good: Food, Sex, Money, Social interactions and Success. Withholding the impulse to react in anger to something your spouse has done or said is vital. Responsible sexual behaviour requires delayed gratification abilities. Parents know that a toddler throws a fit for having to wait five minutes for a cookie. Our physical bodies recognize pleasure as survival. Food, sleep, water, and sex are all means to survival. Intuitively, we have the natural impulse to receive these things as pleasurable. It is hard to wait! Relationships in general, and Marriages in particular, are just like wine, they mature with time. We plant seeds of love, help, favour, generosity and kindness. Later, we harvest Trust, Love, faithfulness, total commitment, Peace and success much greater than when the relationship began. Waiting is worth it!

THE MARSHMALLOWS TEST

In 1970, a group of preschool-aged children were placed in a room with marshmallows in front of them. The researcher informed the children that he would leave the room, and the kids were given two choices. If they could wait until the experimenter returned, they would receive more marshmallows. If they could not wait, they were instructed to ring a bell for the researcher to return, but they would not receive more marshmallows. The children displayed all kinds of delay behaviour by distracting themselves to wait for more marshmallows. Analysis of results developed into the foundational theory of self-control. The children who exhibited the ability to delay gratification showed higher levels of academic achievement at age 15, had a lower tendency towards anger, frustration and violence. They had more self-confidence, became happier and more successful later in life. Parents need to teach their children its value. 

Delayed gratification in the Bible is the practice of resisting immediate, fleeting pleasures to achieve greater, long-term spiritual rewards and to build godly character (patience, endurance). It emphasizes trusting God’s timing, storing up heavenly treasures, and persevering in doing good to reap a harvest “in due season” (Gal 6:9). These are some Biblical examples of using the principle of delayed gratification: Abraham and Sarah waited 25 years for the promised son, Isaac. Joseph resisted the immediate pleasure offered by Potiphar’s wife to maintain his integrity, leading to a later long-lasting promotion. Moses chose to endure mistreatment with God’s people rather than enjoy the present pleasures of sin in Egypt (Heb 11:24,25). The farmer waits patiently for the “precious fruit of the earth” until the rains fall and the harvest manifests (Jam 5:7,8). Easu is a negative example: He traded his long-time birthright for the immediate satisfaction of food (a bowl of beans stew). Success in life comes in choosing the pain of discipline over the moment of pleasure. This is delayed gratification!

As Christians, this is a foundational quality that will impact every area of our lives AND the way we view our place in this world.  God’s word calls for us as His children to give up many things, BUT in the long run, when we get to heaven, I am fully convinced we will boldly declare it was worthy it. Jesus said: “Everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or wife or children or lands, for My name’s sake, shall receive a hundredfold, and inherit eternal life” (Matt 19:29). Selah!

FOR THE JOY AHEAD

Nowhere is delayed gratification more profound than in the journey of Jesus to the cross, for the sake of His people. In Gethsemane, He did not say “No” to the cross. Instead, He said, “Not my will but Yours be done.” He embodied the discipline of choosing long-term obedience instead of short-term relief. Jesus did not suffer for pleasure or fame. He endured suffering for something far greater than the immediate results. He suffered for the joy of redeeming our lives from the pit. Then God raised Him from the dead and seated Him at His right hand, far above all rule and authority and power and dominion, and above every name that is named, not only in this age but also in the one to come (Eph 1:19-23). Through His Spirit, we enjoy the power and freedom of self-control and the joy of delayed gratification.

“Therefore we also, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God” (Heb12:1,2). The word “therefore” connects with the previous chapter, the so called “hall of fame” of the saints. The “great cloud of witnesses” refers to people such as Abel, Noah, Abraham, and Moses, who are examples and testimonies of living by faith. The imagery of a “cloud” suggests a vast presence of witnesses that are not passive observers but active encouragers in our faith journey. This can be an image of a stadium filled with spectators, drawing from the Greco-Roman context of athletic competitions.

The phrase “lay aside” implies a deliberate and decisive action to remove anything that hinders spiritual progress. “The weight” refers to any burden that slows us down, not necessarily sinful in itself but harmful to our spiritual race. The “sin that so easily ensnares” suggests specific habitual sins which hinder our relationship with God. The imagery is of being trapped, like a runner caught in a net. This call to action emphasizes the need for vigilance and self-discipline in the Christian life. Apostle Paul said about Striving for a Crown: “Do you not know that those who run in a race all run, but one receives the prize? Run in such a way that you may obtain it. 25 And everyone who competes for the prize is temperate in all things. Now they do it to obtain a perishable crown, but we for an imperishable crown. 26 Therefore I run thus: not with uncertainty. Thus, I fight not as one who beats the air. 27 But I discipline my body and bring it into subjection, lest, when I have preached to others, I myself should become disqualified” (1Cor 9:24-27). The image of running a race is a common New Testament picture of the Christian life, showing perseverance, discipline, and focus. The word “endurance” shows the necessity of steadfastness and resilience in the face of trials. To be steadfast it means the quality of staying the same for a long time and not changing quickly or unexpectedly. The “race set out for us” suggests a divinely appointed path, unique to each believer, yet part of a larger, communal journey of faith. The race is not a sprint but a marathon, requiring sustained effort and reliance on God’s strength.

The Command: “Looking unto Jesus” shows that the Lord Jesus Christ is the Centre of Man’s Salvation, the source and fulfilment of our faith. Jesus Christ is the central figure in Christianity, referred to as the “author and perfecter of our faith.” His life, death, and resurrection are foundational to Christian belief and salvation. We must look away from every distraction, circumstances and ourselves and focus on the Person of Jesus, the ultimate example of faithfulness. This “look” is not just a glance, but a long gaze to see Him on the Cross, dying for our sins. This gaze changes us from inside out and forever. Jesus is the Author of our Faith because He is the Word of God “thru whom all things were made” (Jn 1:1-3). Jesus is also the Finisher and Perfecter of our Faith. God will complete the work of faith He started in us (Phil 1:6). Jesus plants seed of Faith in our hearts, and He is also the Lord of the harvest in our hearts.

“For the Joy that was set before Him” shows us the motivation of Jesus. He endured the present pain and humiliation at the Cross because of a future reward. This looking forward perspective makes Jesus the best example of “delayed gratification principle”. We too must endure present trials with the hope of future glory. Apostle Paul said: “For I consider [from the standpoint of faith] that the sufferings of the present life are not worthy to be compared with the glory that is about to be revealed to us and in us!” (Rom 8:18; AMP). Crucifixion is not only Physically painful but socially disgraceful. Jesus despised the shame of the Cross by rejecting the world’s honour in favour of God’s purpose in His life. God uses what is foolish in the world to shame the wise (1 Cor 1:27). Jesus “sat down at the right hand of the throne of God”. This position of honour given to Him by God is greater than any honour man could give to Jesus. It reveals that Jesus has finished the work God gave Him to do on earth. He died to save sinners, and He is now the King of kings, interceding for us from heaven, to run the race to the end. This revelation encourages us to value God’s approval over human opinions and His crown above human gifts. Glory to God!

LESSONS OF LIFE FROM JOSEPH

“Moreover, He called for a famine in the land; He destroyed all the provision of bread. 17 He sent a man before them—Joseph—who was sold as a slave.18 They hurt his feet with fetters, He was laid in irons. 19 Until the time that his word came to pass, The Word of the Lord tested him. 20 The king sent and released him, The ruler of the people let him go free. 21 He made him lord of his house, And ruler of all his possessions, 22 To bind his princes at his pleasure, And teach his elders wisdom” (Ps 105:16-22)

Joseph is a symbol of Jesus. Joseph’s name means “to add, to increase, to multiply, to have a harvest”. Joseph’s life is a testimony of successful applying the principle or delayed gratification. Joseph was special. He had a tender conscience, a pure heart and a firm will. The brothers misunderstood him and thought he was proud. But Jospeh was a man of God. His secret was that “God was with him”. Joseph’s waiting had not been wasted. During those years, God was preparing him for that moment when his dreams come true. The skills Joseph learned in Potiphar’s house and in prison would soon be used to preserve his family and ultimately give rise to the nation of Israel.

These are some great lessons for us taken from the life of Joseph:

*Joseph was working as shepherd and “inspector” to his brothers as a young man of 17. He learned commitment to truth, faith and work. *Joseph had to learn to deal with negative peer pressure and jealousy from his brothers and unhealthy parental pressure.

*God called the famine in the Promised Land. God is in control of all circumstances, including natural events like famine. God has a greater purpose in trials. We must trust in His plans and purposes, and remain faithful even when they are not immediately clear

*Joseph – good example of preparation and stewardship. We should be wise in managing resources, trusting God to provide for our needs.

*God’s timing is perfect. The famine was part of His plan to bring Jacob’s family to Egypt, setting the stage for future deliverance.

*Just as Joseph’s actions provided for many, we are called to support and care for others in need.

*Joseph remained faithful to God despite his hardships. He did not become bitter. We must trust God, regardless of our circumstances.

*Joseph’s forgiveness of his brothers is a powerful example of how we should approach those who have wronged us, seeking reconciliation

*Joseph’s rise to power did not happen overnight. We must be patient and trust in God’s perfect timing for His plans to unfold in our lives.

*Joseph’s trials prepared him for a greater role in God’s plan. Our struggles can similarly prepare us for future service and blessings.

*Joseph’s promotion was not just for his benefit but for the preservation of many lives. God places us in positions for His greater purpose.

1-God’s plans and purposes are far greater than our own!

2-God provides and blesses those who wait and persevere to follow Him. God honours patience and perseverance in time of troubles.

3-Suffering to God’s people is not always bad! God can use the most painful time of our life for His Glory and for our good.

4-There is value in self-control living in the do-whatever-you-want today culture. Strive for honesty and strong ethics in your work!

5-Fulfilment of your dreams may come in unexpected ways. Joseph went to prison leading to royal appointment.

6-God’s delays are not denials. They are often divine preparation. When we grow impatient, we forget that God sees the whole picture. Joseph’s years of obscurity were essential. Without them, he would not have been ready for what lay ahead. If you are waiting on God, remain faithful. Trust that He is working behind the scenes. When His time comes, doors will open that no human effort could force. Amen!

LEADERSHIP QUALITIES WE LEARN FROM JOSEPH:

1. Guard moral integrity when no one is watching; God always is.

2. Treat every assignment—large or small—as stewardship from the Lord. Lead Where You Are! Lead with Integrity! Lead with the Future in View! Lead with Confidence in God’s presence with you!

3. Seek God’s wisdom first, then act with bold, strategic planning.

4. Use authority to serve, teach, and lift up others.

5. Persevere through delays, trusting God’s timing.

6. Stay humble in promotion, giving glory to God.

7. Forgive quickly, remembering how God weaves even wrongs into His redeeming plan.

8- Nothing succeeds like Success! Nothing seduces like Success! Nothing sustains like Success!

Walk in these qualities, and like Joseph, you’ll find that God can use one faithful life to bless nations. Worship the Lord!