YOUR NAME IS OINTMENT POURED FORTH
The Song of songs is a unique Book in the Bible. It is a collection of poems describing the power, beauty, and romance of agape love in marriage. Romance is defined as the feeling of excitement and mystery associated with passionate love, that touches body, soul and spirit. The mystery of love brings the element of the unknown, of that which cannot be totally controlled or understood by men, the divine interference of heaven in the love story on earth. Agape love is like wine, making you emotionally happy and high. Its baptism of fire changes you forever. This Song is also a symbol of the love between Christ and the Church. ‘All the Scriptures are indeed holy, but Song of songs is the Holy of holies’ (Rabbi Aquiva). This book is not a historical or doctrinal book. It is a song. Songs do not touch the mind, but the heart. When you hear a song, you “feel” something; it is hard to explain. There is no book in the Bible that has more power to reveal agape love, to draw us closer to Jesus and to ignite revival in our hearts and marriages! Song of songs helps us to live happy lives, joyful marriages and ministries. “All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, 17 that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work” (2Tim 3:16,17). It rebukes our sinful thinking about sexuality, marriages and relationships in general. We need love to be “complete” and work God’s work. None can sing this Song except he has experienced the Love of loves, God’s love in Christ.
In Song of songs, we have a glimpse of how marriage could have been in the perfect Garden of Eden. Like in the Book of Esther, the name of GOD is absent in this Book. But God is there, behind the scenes because “God is Love” (1Jn 4:8). Song of songs is like ointment poured out from Mary’s alabaster box. Its fragrance fills the whole house (Jn 12:3). This Song reveals the glory of marital love. The Love described is the ideal love in a marriage between a man and a woman. Here we see a satisfied husband and his completely loyal and happy wife. This revelation destroys two errors; extreme ideas related to marriage and sexuality: monasticism and sexual immorality. Some churches believe that a priest should be celibate to become holier than other men, thinking that sexuality in marriage is a hindrance in knowing and serving God. That is an error. In the Old Testament, marriage was accepted by all as a gift from God. All the patriarchs were married.
In the New Testament, things are a little different. The idea is introduced that some Christians choose to stay unmarried to better serve God. Jesus was not married. Apostle Paul was not married. Singleness is God’s gift; it is not a punishment. If singleness is your choice to serve God, that is good. To be a spiritual eunuch by God’s calling, that is ok. Both marriage and singleness are gifts from God. One is not better than another. But marriage is God’s choice for most people. In fact, the Bible is a manual for marriages. God created and married Adam and Eve (Gen 2:18-24). In Revelation, we see the wedding of the Lamb, when Christ marries His Bride, the Church (Rev 19:6-10). Apostle Paul tells us that the marriage between a man and a woman is a picture of Christ and the Church (Eph 5:22-33). Christ died not only to pay the penalty for our sins, but to re-instate His Kingdom, and to marry His Bride, the Church. Glory to God!
There was a woman who came to worship Jesus (Lk 7:41-50). She was called “a sinner”. Possibly, she was a prostitute. All the men knew her. Some may have used her body. She entered uninvited into the house of Simon, a Pharisee who invited Jesus to dinner. Simon was rich but did not love Jesus. He did not give water to Jesus to wash His feet, did not greet Jesus with a holy kiss and did not give Him oil to anoint His hands. But this woman, a sinner saved by grace, did all these things. Out of the gratitude in her heart, she worshipped Jesus openly and without shame. Jesus publicly declares that she is forgiven. Men may reject the Kiss of worship. But Jesus freed this woman from the bondage of sin and sent her home in the power of His Love! For the children of God Jesus is and will always be our “First and Forever Love”.
“Because of the fragrance of your good ointments, Your name is ointment poured forth; Therefore, the virgins love you” (SS 1:3), In ancient times, perfumes and fragrant ointments were highly appreciated and very expensive. They were used for religious and social purposes. Only the rich people could afford them. The Bridegroom has a special fragrance. It shows His beauty, His high social status and spirituality.
The name represents the personality, reputation and character of the person. The Bride is attracted by the handsome body of her Groom, but more so, she loves His Character. The name of Jesus is exalted above every other name! The admiration of the young women, the virgins, shows the communal recognition of the Groom’s qualities and beauty. Spiritually, this is interpreted as the Church’s response to Christ’s love and sacrifice. True love and virtue are openly recognized and celebrated by others. “Let us be glad and rejoice and give Him glory, for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and His wife has made herself ready.” 8 And to her it was granted to be arrayed in fine linen, clean and bright, for the fine linen is the righteous acts of the saints” (Rev 19:7,8). Glory!
A godly husband is a Leader, a Laborer and a Loyal Lover. The wife is not her husband’s neck. She does not control him. A godly wife is the crown of her husband. “An excellent wife is the crown of her husband…” (PV12:4). The virtuous wife is faithful, hardworking, wise, humble, loving and has a spirit of excellence. As his crown, the godly wife contributes to her husband’s economic status and reputation in the community. He helps him to be a leader and the head, the pastor of their home. Amen!
“Walk in love, as Christ also has loved us and given Himself for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma” (Eph 5:2).
Agape Love is sacrificial, unconditional and pleasing to God. It is the lifestyle of believers in Christ. Jesus commanded us to love God and love one another just the way He did it (Jn 13:34,35). He is our Teacher and Standard. Agape love was manifested through His incarnation, ministry, and sacrificial death on behalf of sinners. Jesus died for us while we were still sinners (Rom 5:8). Salvation is by Grace alone, not based on merit but purely by God’s initiative. Jesus “gave Himself for us”. This was His choice. As the good Sheperd, He laid down His life of His own accord for His sheep, for us, sinners saved by His Grace. The death of Jesus on the Cross was a fragrant offering made to God. The sacrifice was very expensive. No man can buy it. We now worship Him forever!
In the Old Testament, the burnt offering was a clean animal, killed by the priests and totally burnt on the altar. The smoke goes up to be “a sweet aroma to the Lord” (Lev 1:9,13,17). The sacrificial smoke symbolized complete surrender and devotion; nothing was held back. Only prescribed animals, grains, or incense could be offered. God decided what smells are “pleasing” to Him. The smoke and the aroma rose upward, showing that fellowship between God and worshiper was restored. This fragrant offering showed that God has accepted the sacrifice and He was pleased with it. Spiritually, this shows that God loves our obedience and true worship. Lessons: just like Christ died on the Cross, we must “present our bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is our spiritual service of worship” (Rom 12:1). We must spread “the fragrance of the knowledge of Him” (2Cor 2:14-16). The Gospel of Christ influences and changes all who encounter it. Studying the Scriptures and knowing Christ personally help us spread not only information, but His heavenly fragrance, His sweet-smelling Grace and Eternal Life. The perfume of Christ is unique and powerful. It cannot be hidden or ignored; all believers testify to it. To resist such a perfume means death. As believers we spread the fragrance of Christ thru our holy character, truthful words and deeds of love.
Corporate worship, prayer and praise release this fragrance. “Let my prayer be set before You as incense, The lifting up of my hands as the evening sacrifice” (Ps 141:2). Endurance without grumbling in trials, faith displayed under pressure produces a powerful scent. Sin cannot be hidden. It is a stench. “Dead flies make the oil of the perfumer give off a foul odor; so, a little foolishness [in one who is esteemed] outweighs wisdom and honor” (Ecc 10:1; AMP). Wisdom and honor are like perfume. Like little yeast changes a lot of flour, so little foolishness negatively affects character and reputation. One little careless word, a single lie, one secret sin that becomes public, these have the power to damage the testimony of many years of faithful living. The public remembers the stench much longer than the sweetness. Lessons: stay close to Christ. Study and obey His Word. Keep your heart pure. Always be sensitive to the leading of the Holy Spirit. If you sin, repent immediately! Surround yourself with faithful brethren. We become the fragrance of Christ thru surrendered lives, with lips praising and hands serving. This is continual evidence that the smoke of worship rises and pleases the Father! Amen!
Lessons: before being attracted by his outward beauty or his wealth, a wise woman chooses a man of character, a man who fears God. If she wants to marry and everybody says he is a bad man, and only she thinks he is great, something is wrong. It is not enough to say that you love someone. The foundation of marriage is based on godly character. Pray and submit to the counsel of older believers. It is very easy to make mistakes in choosing a marriage partner. This applies also to the men who decide to marry. Fast and pray before proposing to a woman to marry. Be sure that the woman has a godly character. True love comes with respect for one another. Respect and trust must be earned. Good character and holiness are very attractive. “Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised. 31 Give her of the fruit of her hands and let her own works praise her in the gates” (PV 31:30,31). Let the Holy Spirit lead!
THE NAME OF JESUS
Jesus Christ Himself is God. He is omnipotent. Just before He ascended to heaven, the resurrected Christ told His disciples: “All authority (all power of absolute rule) in heaven and on earth has been given to Me” (Matt 28:18; AMP). The power of Jesus is universal, covering the spiritual realm (heaven, angels, spiritual realities) and the natural realm (on earth, human beings, all rulers, nations and natural laws). The authority of Jesus is over death and the grave. This authority is not newly acquired but it is now manifested to men thru His resurrection. It is the basis of evangelism and all ministries done in the name of Jesus. This power is “given to Me”, from God the Father. It is settled, final, and uncontested. It reveals the completion of Jesus’ earthly work, His obedience unto death, and His exaltation, showing Jesus as the only mediator between God and humanity and His position as Head of the Church. Jesus’ authority assures us of His ultimate victory over evil and the establishment of His eternal kingdom. His authority is not partial. There is nothing outside His authority. It applies to everybody, not only to the Christians. Every knee must bow to Jesus Christ! His commands are non-negotiable standards of behavior. For example, God’s Word says: Love God and Love one another! These are commands and not suggestions. Practically, His authority influences whom we date, and marry, avoiding unequally yoked relationships. It applies to our finances: our wealth belongs to Jesus. We remember to faithfully tithe and give offerings to the local church we attend or to ministries that feed us spiritually. This is a proof that we recognize the authority of Jesus over our money and lives. We avoid everything that does not give glory to God. This authority gives us identity and confidence. We belong to Jesus, the One whose rule cannot be challenged. We are citizens of God’s Kingdom that cannot be shaken.
Jesus’ authority is given to believers thru His name. We pray and do spiritual warfare in His name. Every demon is subject to Christ. Thru the Cross, Jesus “having disarmed principalities and powers, He made a public spectacle of them, triumphing over them in it” (Col 2:15). Preach the Gospel with courage! Be not afraid of men. Stand firm in your faith! Declare victory against any rival, spiritual of physical. “The kingdoms of this world have become the kingdoms of our Lord and of His Christ, and He shall reign forever and ever!” (Rev 11:15).
Some people ask, “why is the name of Jesus so important?” The name stands for His Person. Try to imagine a world where nobody has a name, not even a number, the way prisoners are called. You must call someone as “Hey, you…” This is hard. In that world there is no value, no love, and no respect given to Persons. There is no way to praise a nameless person. It will be a world of confusion and depression. In the Garden of Eden, God told Adam to name all the animals. He even gave Eve a name. That makes communication possible. Lesson: pray hard before giving names to your children. It connects with their destinies. The name “Jesus” was given to Mary by God. It has the power of heaven. Jesus is not a private person. He is to be known all over the world. People call His name in prayer and praise Him publicly and loudly. “Whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him” (Col 3:17).
“The exceeding greatness of His power toward us who believe, according to the working of His mighty power 20 which He worked in Christ when He raised Him from the dead and seated Him at His right hand in the heavenly places, 21 far above all principality and power and might and dominion, and every name that is named, not only in this age but also in that which is to come. 22 And He put all things under His feet and gave Him to be head over all things to the church, 23 which is His body, the fullness of Him who fills all in all” (Eph 1:19-23). “Therefore God also has highly exalted Him and given Him the name which is above every name, 10 that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, of those in heaven, and of those on earth, and of those under the earth, 11 and that every tongue should confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father” (Phil 2:9-11). God commands us to praise Jesus’ name: “My name might be proclaimed in all the earth” Salvation is in Christ alone. “For ‘everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved” (Rom 9:17; 10:13). Jesus!!!!!
Before the Cross, Jesus told His disciples: “Until now you have not asked [the Father] for anything in My name; but now ask and keep on asking and you will receive, so that your joy may be full and complete” (Jn 16:24; AMP). This shows the transition between two spiritual seasons. Up till now, the disciples depended on the physical presence of Jesus to give them guidance, comfort, protection and to provide for them. Soon, Jesus is going to heaven. He gives them His name as a credit card to use in the heavenly bank. They must learn how to use the name of Jesus, just like He was here with them. Faith is the password. Prayer in the name of Jesus assures us that God will answer our prayers when done according to His will. Praying in Jesus’ name is not a formula but a declaration of faith in His authority and alignment with His will. Jesus says that our joy is made complete when we see God’s hand at work in response to our prayers. Jesus invites us to ask, with faith in Him, indicating that God desires to hear from us and He responds to our needs and desires. The Holy Spirit helps us to pray.
WHY DO WIVES TAKE THE NAME OF THEIR HUSBANDS?
Women traditionally took their husband’s last name because of coverture, a legal concept in English law where a married woman’s legal identity merged with her husband’s, placing her under his “cover” or authority. This law was applied mostly in England and America. The wife loses her identity, and the husband has almost all the power. The wife’s property and earnings become her husband’s. She could not enter contracts, sue, or be sued in her own name. A married woman was like a child. Her husband was her legal guardian, controlling her assets and representing her in legal matters. The Feminists fought this law for many years. Eventually, they won the case against coverture. The Married Women’s Property Act 1882 in the US said that the wife’s wages and her inherited property belong to her. The abolition of coverture is seen as “one of the greatest extensions of property rights in human history” and led to positive financial and social impacts.
In Nigeria, unlike in England under coverture, a married (Ibo) woman can independently own property if she acquires it with her own money. However, she needs her husband’s permission to accept property as a gift from others or use credit to buy property. This is because similar with the law of coverture in England, the husband is responsible for his wife’s debts and legal obligations. There are also instances in which a wife’s property belongs to the husband, no matter what. For instance, if a woman receives a kola nut tree, it belongs to the husband, and he may harvest it for his own benefit. Colonial courts In Nigeria created official laws that prevented women from exiting a marriage with properties other than her clothes and kitchen utensils. During the traditional marriage, the Nigerian woman physically leaves her native community to join her husband’s family. This concept shows that the wife is absorbed in her husband’s identity. To preserve bloodlines, Nigerian women face barriers to inheritance within their birth families. Since women leave their homes and are absorbed into their husband’s family, women are not allowed to carry family property to their new home. After the wife dies, the husband inherits everything. This aligns with the English view of coverture. The wife’s identity and property are absorbed by the husband.
Despite historical origins, about 80% of women today still choose to take their husband’s last name. Some women have chosen to keep their fathers’ names and add their husbands’ name. Others decided to create a new name together. Because of sin, these laws are all selfish. Spiritually, once we become saved, we are called Christians. We die to the old life and identity. We now belong to Christ forever. We lose our lives to gain Christ. This is the greatest gain any person can have in this world and in life eternally.
OUR TESTIMONY AS A HAPPILY MARRIED COUPLE – THE FLAME OF LOVE IN MARRIAGE
“Many waters cannot quench the flame of love, neither can the floods drown it. If a man tried to buy it with everything he owned, he couldn’t do it” (SS 8:7). My husband and I have been happily married for almost 50 years. We are parents to three adult children and have six grandchildren. I see marriage as a gift from God. Because I fear God, I fear to damage my marriage. I cannot be a happy wife without the help of the Holy Spirit. I daily read the Bible. I grow in wisdom and knowledge. Therefore, our marriage becomes better, sweeter.
I pray daily for my husband, for our children, grandchildren, our health, our ministries and wisdom to handle our finances. I pray to see Christ in my husband (in his words and deeds). I love that peace reigns in my home. I hate quarrels and divisions. I respect my husband not only in my words and deeds, but even in my heart. I pray to be able to see him not just as my husband or the father or our children, but as my pastor, as a holy man of God. My prayer has been answered. Christ has simplified my life. I first love Jesus and secondly, I love my husband. I do not even dream about another god or another man. Even after all these years, I appreciate my husband’s love for me. I appreciate the fact that out of millions of women he chose me to be his wife. What a wonderful love story!
I have ‘a kitchen ministry’. I like to cook for him and serve his food. I like it when he is hungry and he sits at the table waiting for me to bring the food. We always pray before each meal. I like it when we eat together and we “gist” about daily activities, the plans for the day, and share prayer points. I like to wake up in the morning knowing that he is my husband. I like to ask him, ‘what do you want to eat for breakfast?’ His answer makes me happy! Sometimes he likes Nigerian breakfast, and other times the ‘oyibo’ style. I may fail a catering exam, but he likes the food I cook for him and that is all that matters to me! At the table, he has his own favorite chair. If a visitor comes and by mistake sits there, I will not allow it. I will gently tell the visitor to use another seat. My husband has his own favorite plate. It is old but he likes it. I do not use his plate to serve other people. These may not be ‘big things’ but to me, these are symbols of respect.
Long ago I knew that he will be a man of God. I started studying the Bible with great passion. The knowledge of the Word of God is for my own soul and to help my husband in his ministry. I love it when we discuss doctrines and revelations from the Bible. I love it when I have something good to add to the discussion. We are friends and lovers. We rejoice with one another. Time has not reduced this joy. In fact, it has made it better. The water has now become sweet wine. We drink it and have no apologies for our intoxicating love. The passion to love God and one another is the holy fire that continues to burn in our home. No man or devil can quench it. It is to the glory of God that we are not religious hypocrites. In our home there is genuine salvation, peace and joy of the Holy Ghost! Glory to God! Worship the Lord!



















