“The Lord God said: “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him… I will make a helpmeet for him… a suitable companion who will help him… a counterpart” (Gen 2:18)

THE WIFE IS A HELPER SUITABLE TO HER HUSBAND

The wife is designed to be a Helper to her husband. It is a pity that sin has distorted much of our understanding of things. For many, the word ‘helper’ describes a low paid house servant, over-worked and un-fulfilled. This is the opposite of the truth described in the Book of Genesis.  God calls the wife ‘a helper comparable with her husband’. The word ‘helper’ is very powerful. It doesn’t imply in any way to be inferior. God doesn’t create inferior things. God Himself is a Helper. For example, the psalmist cries to God for help knowing that without help he will die. A helper is the one who saves another who is in need and gives him the gift of life.

‘O Lord, be my help…Surely God is my help; the Lord is the One who sustains me’ (Ps 30:10; 54:4).

In Hebrew the word ‘helper’ is ‘Azar’. It means to protect, help, succor, support and give material or nonmaterial encouragement. It often refers to aid in the form of military assistance; to lend strength or resources towards fulfilling a purpose. It also means to relieve from pain or to cure diseases. After receiving help, the man changes for the better.

In Greek it means to literarily run towards someone who needs help and cries in pain. The helper delivers another from suffering and troubles. A helper sustains another. The word ‘sustain’ means to carry on his back, to support during pain so that he can enter rest. Only a helper can facilitate the journey from pain to triumph! ‘Helper’ is a fellowship word; it is an intercession word. You help somebody else with your own resources. You give assistance, to support, to improve the atmosphere around the other person so that he can work better. It means to save from danger and unnecessary trials. It means to prevent and restrain intruders, to protect the relationship. It means to promote, to make something better than it is. Without the helper, the man cannot fulfill his God’s given destiny. This is God’s wonderful design for us women in general and wives in particular.

TO BE A GODY WIFE YOU NEED THE FOLLOWING RESOURCES:

The wisdom of a teacher

The strength of a soldier

The gentleness of a mother

The patience of a nurse

The eyes of a prophet

The anointing of a preacher

The account of a millionaire

The feet of a gazelle

The wings of a eagle

The skilful tongue of a ready writer

The freedom of an angel

The beauty of holiness

The faithfulness of a friend

The passion of a lover…

You need the Spirit of God filling and leading you…

No woman can be a successful wife, without the help of God!

Be filled with the Holy Spirit!

In Jesus name,

Amen!

“The Lord God said: “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him… I will make a helpmeet for him… a suitable companion who will help him… a counterpart” (Gen 2:18)

Before sin entered in the world, the creation is declared to be ‘very good’. It is in this atmosphere that we see the details of the first wedding. It is pure and it is beautiful! Much inspiration for our marriages comes from meditating upon it. God Himself is the Father of the Bride, the Father of the Bridegroom, the officiating Pastor and the wedding planner. The whole creation and the angels are the guests. Adam was created first. By God’s choice he shall be older than his wife. God gives him work to do in the garden. He tells him that the paradise has to be maintained in its purity thru loving labor and obedience to its Creator. God commands Adam ‘to work and to take care’ of the garden, created for his enjoyment. God did not plan to leave heaven, come down and settle in the garden. He was to come and visit in the evenings, to fellowship with Adam and Eve. The authority to take care of the earth was given to Adam by God.

Then suddenly God makes an observation. He says that ‘it is not good for man to be alone’. This is the first time God says ‘it is not good’. The word ‘alone’ means to be solitary, without companions or friends; it gives a sense of being incomplete, of longing for fellowship with others. The word in Hebrew means to be a branch of a tree without fruits. It describes just the part of a whole. It also means to be so unique, special and peculiar, that he is left without a mate. Adam was not aware of his loneliness. God who created him like that makes this observation. This loneliness is in spite of His continuous sweet fellowship with Adam. God has something in mind. He knows the needs of His creation more than anyone else. The loneliness God describes is the need for Adam to have someone just like him. That partner must also be created by God in His image. But that new creation is not a spirit; it must be covered with flesh like Adam.

To help Adam understand his need and to appreciate the new creation, God tells him to study the animal kingdom. He brings all the animals before Adam. He names them all. In the process he discovers that each one has a pair. Together they multiply. Slowly, Adam sees that he is really alone. He needs a partner, a companion, a friend, human like him but with the Spirit of God inside. Once the need was understood by Adam, God does the surgery. Out of his rib He creates Eve, as the wife of Adam. God decrees that these two are destined for one another, that they shall leave their parents and cleave to one another. That unit called marriage is the foundation of all other relationships on earth.
In the Garden of Eden, this tender scene is filled with holy romance…

In Christ I declare:
God loves my husband, me and our children!
God loves our marriage!
My husband shall never be alone!
I am created to be a suitable helper for him!
By the grace of God I shall never disappoint God!
Together, we shall fulfill destiny!
In Jesus name,
Amen!