“But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways…. Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded” (Jam 1:6-8; 4:7, 8)
A young man who claims to be born again sent me this letter: “Dear Malia, I am in big trouble. Please help me! Please pray for me! I can’t even sleep. I am ashamed and worried. This is my story… There are two sisters in my life. The first one is very nice. She is a little older than me. She has a good job. She said that she is sorry for me. She offered to help me with prayer, counsel and money. She has been doing that for more than a year. I know that she loves me but we have nothing romantic between us. The second one is younger than me. I love her but I don’t know if she loves me. Last month I made a serious mistake. On an impulse I went to propose marriage to both of them in the same day. Each said yes, but later they found out what I did. They are both now angry with me threatening to tell my pastor. Please tell me what to do…”
I told him to give his life to Christ that he is not born again. I told him to repent of all his sins especially doubt, wickedness, manipulation and lust. I told him that for now, he is not ready to marry. That he should serve God until he is a mature Christian. I prayed that God should show him mercy and grant him a new beginning…
But the reason why I printed this letter is to show you how a double minded man behaves. In Greek, the word ‘double minded’ means to have ‘two souls in one body’. A double minded man may be religious but he is always disappointed with his ‘Christianity’ for God does not answer his prayers. He is the one praying and he is the one answering himself. He is like the wave of the sea, up and down, depending on the outside winds. He is a man who says yes and no in the same time. He has no true faith in God, because faith is ‘the assurance of things not seen’ (Heb 1:1). He cannot come to God with assurance in his heart that God is God. He does not trust God’s promises!
Listen, you cannot have both assurance and doubts in the same time. This man is ‘unstable in all his ways’. To be spiritually and emotionally unstable is almost mental sickness. An unstable man changes easily. He listens to what men say and tries to please them all. He is moody and anxious, restless and easily depressed. He is unstable not only in his prayer life, but ‘in all his ways’. His friends and family are never sure of what he will do next. He has no clear focus or defined purpose in life. You can never make plans with such a man for he will always disappoint you. These people are always unhappy in their marriages. Their spouses complain of this wavering in all their plans.
What is the cure? God! The Bible commands this man to come closer to God, to totally submit to the Lord Jesus Christ. This drawing closer to God so that He ‘takes notice and respond’ is a great spiritual principle! You cannot be forgiven, cleansed, healed and delivered at a distance. This principle was known and practiced even in the Old Testament. “The Lord is with you while you are with Him. If you seek Him, He will be found by you; but if you forsake Him, He will forsake you” (2Chr 15:2). Once you come into God’s presence, you shall receive the power of the Holy Spirit. You shall be able to resist any demon and you shall be delivered. These things are true!
May you hear the voice of God calling you to His presence! May God give you a fresh testimony and a new smile of thanksgiving! Nothing is impossible for God! In Jesus name, Amen!