THERE IS A PRICE TO PAY
I received a letter from a man who was once happily married with children. But he fell into the sin of adultery, lying and manipulation. That sin damaged his marriage almost to the point of breaking. Both of them are born again. The wife is a woman of God and she prayed for years that God will help them. God indeed is faithful and He had mercy on them. Not too long ago they have reconciled and rededicated their marriage to God. But the husband still struggles with negative patterns of thinking. Please pray for them. The devil is a liar. In Christ, there is hope!
“Hello MaLia, I am just reconnecting to give you feedback on my progress. Not too proud of it. I’m still struggling with lying and misleading. Sometimes on minor issues that just require a straight forward answer. This is one strong hold that MUST come down, as it still affects deeply our road to full recovery. I see the ill effect of such habit and I have decided to listen to my wife as Pastor Leigh once told me. The gravity of what I did is so great and deep that I HAVE to humble myself and give my wife more respect and consideration than ever before, especially when she, rightly so, questions me on my whereabouts. I have integrated it now and my request to you is to keep me in your prayers so that God cleanses me of the spirit of lies, the spirit of unnecessary defensiveness. I must not feel threatened when she inquires on matters that disturb her. She wants to know and I just have to tell her. My prayer is also that God helps me to keep my memory fresh so that I can recall events causing the inquiry. On many occasions, I found myself refusing to accept some facts, just because I could not remember them. Later I realize their veracity by taking the time to going back and putting all the pieces together. All I had to say to my wife was: “I can’t recall that event. But I will find out and get back to you ASAP” Instead, I tend to refuse on the spot. Please still pray for me…pray for us…”
This is my answer to him:
“Sanctification is the hardest thing to do as a believer. Salvation is free because Jesus paid it all for us on the Cross. But sanctification, the process in which we change to become like Jesus, by the power of the Holy Spirit, that is hard because we have to pay the price for it. Some people are more willing than others to pay the price. That is why some make faster progress than others. You are born to be a champion. That is why you will not be happy to trail at the back of the class. One reason why your progress may be slow is that your vision is not clear enough. You change to become like Jesus, your Savior, Lord and Lover. Out of that change you become a better husband and father. God must always be first! Another reason why the process of sanctification is slow may be greed. “For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows. (1Tim 6:10). This is because there is a price to pay to change. If you love money (in your spirit) you will bargain with God and waste time. Pray that you shall be a cheerful giver, a generous soul to God and to your wife; in all things, words, extra mile actions and even money. God will open your eyes to see these truths. I wish you well. God bless you! Love in Christ alone, Malia”