“I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine, He who pastures his flock among the lilies” (Song 6:3)
The Song of Solomon is one of my favorites books in the Bible. To me, it is always strong and fresh, exciting, inviting, fragrant and romantic. It speaks of the eternal love between Christ and His Church. It also testifies of the true love in a godly successful marriage. This Song helps me to be a better Christian and a better wife. By reading its beautiful poetic lines I am challenged to walk closer to God and to make my marriage better. What are the requirements for a godly successful marriage?
3. GOOD MORAL CHARACTER
Moral character refers to the qualities of a person that make him spiritually mature, responsible and loving. This person may look ‘ordinary’ but is considered a true leader, a hero and an inspiration to others. This person is born again and filed with the Holy Spirit. The fruits of the Holy Spirit is clearly manifest in his or her life: ” The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control” (Gal 5:22-23). You need these fruits in your lives to have a happy and successful marriage. Nothing else compares with these.
In the Bible a person with good moral qualities is said to have ‘a name’. In Hebrew, the word ‘name’ means identity, character, reputation and fame. If a man falls into sin they say he has lost his name.
“Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—
for your love is more delightful than wine.
Pleasing is the fragrance of your perfumes;
your NAME is like perfume poured out.
No wonder the young women love you!” (SS 1:2-3
In Song of Songs we see that the first thing the Beloved appreciates about her Lover is his name, or his character. The Bride falls in love with the Groom because of the way he behaves towards her and towards the others! That is why she wants to kiss him! Even the other girls appreciate his good behavior! At the very beginning of their interaction she is not impressed so much by his beauty, strength or wealth. It is his character! She appreciates his name, his fame! Everybody knows that this man is wonderful in behavior! Beauty is fleeting and money may fail. But a good character will sustain any marriage any time!
This is a reminder of the power in the name of Jesus. Even before we knew His promises and miracles, we were attracted by His wonderful name! Jesus!!!
Any person who does not have a good character cannot have a successful or happy marriage! It is also a warning to the young people who are getting ready for marriage! Dear children, Please pray for wisdom!
We are married for 42 years! The older I get, the more I appreciate my husband’s character. Below is a partial list with my husband’s qualities that I have discovered over the years. My husband is:
*A true man of God!
*Loving, generous, compassionate and kind!
*Honest, truthful and open; he does not lie, steal or cheat!
*Courageous, doing what is right even in the presence of rejection or danger!
*Willing to sacrifice himself and his money for the work of God and helping others!
*Controls himself; he stays calm under provocation, temptation or stress!
*Just and fair; he does not discriminate!
*Good citizen; he abides by the laws of the country!
*Spirit of excellence; he does his best and he is happy with his work!
*Keeps his promises; is dependable and trustworthy; he hates to disappoint others!
*Respects others; he honors their rights, dignity and freedom! Hates to hurt them!
*Responsible; he does not shift blame on others!
*Patient; he knows that good things take time to achieve!
*Forgiving; he is able to leave hurtful things behind; does not seek revenge!
*Peace Maker; he is able to talk things without being violent!
And so on… And so on …To God be all the glory!
Now you know the secret of our happy and strong marriage! May God grant you the blessing of a wonderful marriage! In Jesus name, amen!