“Therefore God also gave them up to uncleanness, in the lusts of their hearts, to dishonor their bodies among themselves…”
“Love does no harm to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfillment of the law” (Rom 1:24; 13:10)
Lust compares with a violent secret spiritual kidnapping of emotions. It promotes an unhealthy relationship. One partner is aggressive like the hunter, the other one is a passive victim. With time the two settle in a type of master and slave relationship. The aggressor may be the husband or the wife. He or she dominates the relationship, leads the way, makes demands, torments and intimidates the other. The leader is usually hot tempered, impatient, demanding and ungrateful. The victim is forced into submission. This is not a happy marriage but an arrangement based on foolishness and false humility. The victim is forced to ‘enjoy’ the marriage ‘if she likes it or not’. Slowly, she becomes passive and spiritually cold. They are liabilities to each other. A relationship based on lust will drain the resources of the couple. They will manipulate and exploit until they destroy each other at last. It takes much stress, labor and resources to sustain a lustful relationship. Even so, it will end in failure, with no one to help.
Love is the opposite. Love blesses the spouse, both spiritually and physically. Love lifts the other when there is need for encouragement. Love is strong and responsible. It is not manipulative or moody.
The major difference between lust and love is their attitude to spiritual growth! Selah! Love promotes a closer relationship with God, makes time for the study of the Word, prayer and church activities.
All relationships based on lust promote backsliding and the love of the world. True love is not self-seeking, but generous with its time, gifts and sacrificial labor. Jacob loved Rachel so much that he was willing to work fourteen years to pay for her dowry. But with all the hard labor, because of his love for her, the time passed by quickly (Gen 29:20).
Lust is a shameful ‘bed fire’!
Love is a pure glorious eternal Spirit fire!
In Christ I declare:
I reject lust and its bed of fire!
I receive the gift of true love!
My marriage bed is undefiled!
My marriage is blessed!
In Jesus name