“Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear” (1Pet 3:1-6)
We all desire to be women of God. Here we are given Sarah as an example of a ‘holy woman of the past’. But the Bible is not just a history book. It is the ever living Word of God, a present help in times of need. By the grace of God, we shall study how to become ‘holy women of the present!’
The following instructions concerning dress code are taken from a secondary school in California. You may say it is not what we need. But there is much to learn reading this. Prayerfully, let’s apply the wisdom to us and to our children! Listen:
‘It is a fact that the manner in which students dress for school influences personal behavior and learning. Violations of dress standards will result in removal of the item and can result in a parent phone call or suspension for willful defiance of authority. Our board policy states that a student’s dress must not be a distraction that would interfere with the educational process.
All clothing must be worn within the bounds of decency and good taste. Clothing must be sufficient to cover undergarments at all times. Shoes must be worn at all times. Sandals must have back straps. No flip flops or slippers.
Hats shall not be altered, must be worn appropriately with the bill down and facing forward. No hats or sunglasses are allowed inside the buildings. Bandannas, sweatbands or hairnets are not allowed.
Clothing that creates a threatening or intimidating atmosphere is prohibited. Chains, belts and other items that are worn loosely are prohibited. Clothes shall be free of writing and pictures that are crude, vulgar, profane, sexually suggestive, or relate to drugs, alcohol, tobacco or violence; clothes should not advocate racial, ethnic or religious prejudice. No spiked projections!
We do not permit transparent, see-through or fish-net fabrics; off the shoulder, low cut tops or bare midriffs. All skirts should completely cover the knees. No spaghetti straps are allowed. Clothing that is torn and full of holes is not appropriate. Hair shall be clean and styled in a manner that does not distract from classroom learning’
What impressed me is that they saw bad dressing as a potential hindrance to the process of learning. A student goes to school to learn, to pass her exams. That is the main purpose for going there. Anything that distracts you from achieving your main purpose in life should be seen as a stumbling block and should be removed. Our main purpose in life is to know God, to enjoy God and to glorify Him forever! The secondary purpose is to become like Jesus! We do not want to use our Christian freedom as a tool for rebellion. We also do not want to fall into the opposite trap of legalism. I am not saying that you should dress like me or like the women of my generation. I am not recommending you the Romanian style of dressing. We live in Nigeria. But more than fashion and dressing codes, we are to do all things to please God and a conscience trained by the Holy Spirit. We should become good examples to the foolish and the ignorant. Everything we do, our speech, our behavior, our body language and total presentation should make it easier and not harder for people to come to Jesus! Please pray about these words! This is my desire: fulfil your destiny! Be women of God indeed! Amen!
In Christ I declare:
As a wife I submit to my husband (even if he is a difficult man), as unto the Lord!
By the grace of God I shall win my husband as a trophy to Christ!
I shall impress my husband with a gentle and quiet spirit which gives glory to God!
The source of my beauty is my holy character as a holy woman of God!
I am NOT a fashionable sexy wasteful foolish superficial woman of this world!
All men will see only Christ in me, the hope of glory!
All men shall remember me only as a woman of God!
So help me God!
In Jesus name