“And “don’t sin by letting anger gain control over you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a mighty foothold to the Devil” (Eph 4:26, 27)


Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion in response to danger. Anger inspires powerful, often aggressive, feelings and behaviors, which allow us to fight and to defend ourselves when we are attacked. A certain amount of anger, therefore, is necessary for our survival. For example, you need some anger to go to war, or to a race and win.

Anger should not be suppressed, for then it produces internal damage. Many sicknesses are related to unresolved emotional problems. Suppressed anger becomes bitterness and grudge.  These lead to high blood pressure and depression. Anger should then be expressed but not in a way of hurting others. This is a simple advice: always THINK before you speak!

Be slow to become angry and be slow to speak! Your reaction to provocation depends on the level of love you have for God and for men. For love is not easily provoked and does not intentionally hurt others. When you are angry, you feel ‘hot headed’. You sense the adrenaline rising inside you. Your very organs and your brain demand to have a voice to shout.


To remain calm under provocation is a sign of spiritual maturity. The devil wants to take control and push you to do things and say words you will surely regret. When anger controls a man, wicked lies start pouring forth. An angry man exaggerates his pain. For few minutes he will ‘shoot arrows’ to wound his enemy and to defend his territory. Nobody in his path is spared. An angry man is very dangerous. He is ready to kill another to survive. Anger is very selfish. It does not want to calm down, to go to rest, except with another round of battle. When anger gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems especially in your personal relationships. Many marriages have been destroyed by uncontrolled anger.


In marriage there will be many reasons to be provoked. For two people coming from different background to live together until they die, that is a very difficult thing to do. Often, ignorance and selfishness will rise and provoke the other. It is a battle of control over many things: the vision of the marriage, the training of the children or the finances. The devil waits for a chance to steal a piece of the show. Anger is his tool. Lies are his bait. He is an old fox and has won many battles. Please remember this: You cannot defeat the devil with natural means. You cannot keep anger under control by your human power. You need the greater power of the Holy Spirit to win this battle against the demons of anger and lies. Once you have that victory, your marriage will be a blessing to you, as God designed it to be. If not, it is more like hell on earth. Also, your spouse is not your real enemy. As believers, we do not fight against flesh and blood but against spiritual wickedness, evil forces of darkness trying to control the home. The battle is always against the invisible demons. Once you believe that and you get ready to defeat them, you shall enjoy your marriage. You need to study the Word of God and pray daily. There is no exception to this!


This is my testimony: I have learned over the years to control my anger when provoked by my husband, my children or other people. As an unbeliever I was not what you call a hot tempered woman. But occasionally, I could lose ‘my cool’ and say things that I will regret later. During provocations I will become bold and get ready to insult ‘my enemy’. I was always surprised at what I could say when angry. Normally I will not be so rude or harsh. When losing my temper I felt like wicked words were supplied to me even against my will. After I became saved, I made up my mind to control my anger. It was my personal ‘sanctification project’. I wanted to prove to my husband and to my children that it is worth it to be a born again person. I wanted them to see Christ in me, the hope of glory. In particular, I wanted God to be happy with me. I wanted God to use me as a sample of His grace, to boast about me to His enemies. Controlling anger has been a long and difficult road. But o…so worth it! I prayed that the Holy Spirit will embrace me, will immobilize me and will stop my tongue during provocation. He answered my prayer! Now, when I get angry, I suddenly feel weak and I am not able to respond with quarrels. My voice cannot rise. I try to think of angry words to say and I find none. I sense a supernatural peace inside me calming me down, reminding me that the battle belongs to the Lord! God’s manifested presence in me during provocation is my victory! Little by little, my husband and children have discovered that they shall not be rewarded with the memory of knowing ‘a crazy woman’ at home. They will not remember me full of anger and bitterness! They will remember me as a woman of God, a servant of the Prince of Peace!

To God be all the glory!


I encourage you to conquer the demon of anger and to save your marriage! By the power of the Holy Spirit, you can do it!


In Christ I declare:

I shall not let anger control me!

I uproot the devil out of my home!

My marriage is blessed!

My children are blessed!

In Jesus name




  1. Lori Cooper says:

    Ok literally I pray for our mighty God to continue to bless you, your family, & your ministry. Your faithfulness has helped many I’m sure but is helping me during this time of marital struggles. As I said recently my husband has filed for divorce and has been just devastating for my kids and I. I’ve been standing for my marriage for a year and a half and even though you would think that as much as my husband has treated me wrong that I would be angry and I would hate but instead I love him unconditional more and more. God has literally helped me along the way and thru this trial to be more loving and attentive and to lean more in Him. I used to be so hot tempered. I’m not saying I haven’t had my moments but I’m not where I used to be. My husband has so much anger towards me and states that this is all my fault because I was irresponsible with our finances a while back which by the way we were both not making right choices with our finances but he says this is all my fault. I am struggling a lot with doubt. Not that God can’t restore my marriage but that I’ve been forgiven but still have to pay the consequence for my past mistakes or like I’ve heard from even my pastor that because we’ve been given free will I have to accept that this is over and God has other plans for my life. I’m sorry but deep inside I still believe! When my husband called me last week and told me he was filing I confessed to him that God had the final say so and that I gave God all the honor and glory come what may. That I would serve Him for the rest of my life. But I can’t lie for the past couple of days I’ve been fighting anxiety attacks and panic attacks. I’ve been binding and casting out but there’s such a heaviness that has me feeling literal pain in my chest and feeling extremely tired. I can barely breathe. I know God is not a God of confusion but all of this has even brought in the spirit of confusion. I know God is with me and He is my husband but it’s been hard to feel peace and strength. I feel that aside from God I stand alone for my marriage restoration. I’ve read your testimony which inspired me a lot and many others but yet continue to struggle with that demon who tells me just because God did it for them doesn’t mean He’ll do it for you. I haven’t been served yet they say it takes 10 days but my mind goes ahead of me and puts a picture of the pain I’m going to feel when I do get served. I speak to that demon and bind it & cast it out and shortly after it comes back. It has been a constant spiritual battle. I can say this..I love my husband unconditionally and will continue to pray for us but I do ask that God help me with peace and strength and with this physical emotional stress. I am nauseous the majority of the time. I want and pray for this to be such an awesome testimony that those of his family who have told me time and time again that God can’t do this alone that I must go with someone who ex spells demons and reads tarot cards to help me (which I refuse completely) and for those that even walk with God who have told me to take my losses and run because I deserve to be happy and that I am not a door mat, to see how great our God is! That He who created heaven and earth is beyond what we could ever imagine that He is limitless!!!
    Above all I know come what may I will praise Him! I give Him all honor and glory! For sorrow comes in the night but joy comes in the morning! Thank you again because I find encouragement in all your devotions! I pray that soon I get to share an awesome testimony with you.
    Your sister in Christ

    • Silvia Leigh says:

      Dear Lori,
      I send the encouragement of the Holy Spirit thru this letter. As you read it, may you feel God’s love surrounding you at this time! You are not alone. The devil is a liar. Even if all men are liars, God is always true and faithful. This battle you fight for your marriage, it is called ‘a good fight of faith’. God will reward you for taking your stand in His name and fight it to the end! No matter what, God shall glorify Himself in your life! You shall not regret standing for God at such a time as this! Other saints in the past have done it! Esther could have been just s pretty face in a harem but she became a hero for standing on behalf of God and of the people of God!

      “I hate divorce,” says the Lord God of Israel. “I hate it when one of you does such a cruel thing to his wife. Make sure that you do not break your promise to be faithful to your wife” (Mal 2:16, GNT)
      This is the truth: God hates divorce! This word ‘divorce’ in Hebrew means to send away, to push away, to forsake, to let loose into the wild, unprotected and naked. God calls this a cruel thing, an injustice, violence, oppression and unjust gain. The titles of God in the above scripture are these:
      Jehovah (I AM THAT I AM, The Self Sufficient God, The Personal God of the believer, the Covenant God of Israel)
      Elohim (The Creator God of Genesis)
      Sabaoth (The Lord of Hosts, of the Armies of Heaven)

      Divorce is an offence and a provocation to the Everlasting God who created the Universe, the God who always wins the battles. Because we are sinners, divorce is an option, especially when there is adultery involved or one leaves the other and goes away permanently! But divorce is only the last option in any marital crisis! Dear sister, continue to pray! It is not easy, but it is the right thing to do. It is not over, until it is over! If you are on the side of God, you can never lose. You said that you still love your husband unconditionally. Love never fails! Filled with such supernatural love, you too can never fail!

      I want to add this: May God give me favor with you…I think that you need deliverance. Not from spiritists or magicians who have nothing to offer you. But you can be delivered by faith in God Almighty! Weakness, anxiety, nausea, confusion, depression, panic attacks…these are signs that evil spirits are influencing you. They must be identified as such and rejected by faith in Jesus Christ! This is your duty, to cleanse your body, the temple of the Holy Spirit, if you are married or single.

      Let’s pray:
      “You wicked evil spirits that torment my sister in Christ, I command you to lose your grip and hold over her mind and body, right now! You doubt, fear, confusion…I command you all to go away! Leave her alone! I destroy every covenant she made with you in the past, knowingly or un-knowingly! I destroy the spell placed on her mind and emotions by witchcraft religious spirits! I set her free to serve the Living God! I plead the Blood of Jesus over her body, soul and spirit, over her husband and their marriage, over the children and the work of their hands! Be filled with the Holy Spirit! Jehovah Elohim, please create a new thing in that marriage! Jehovah Sabaoth, please fight on her behalf! We vow to give You alone all the glory!

      May Christ in you, the Hope of glory shine forth!
      I wait for you to come back with a great testimony of deliverance, peace, joy and victory!
      Love in Christ alone
      Lia Leigh

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