“Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. Let your conduct be without covetousness; be content with such things as you have. For He Himself has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” So we may boldly say: “The Lord is my helper; I will not fear. What can man do to me?” (Heb 13:4-6)
Each time we come back to Nigeria, we have to fill an ‘immigration entry form’. This is one of the questions: ‘what is your occupation?’ In the past I write ‘medical doctor’. For some years I wrote ‘clergy or pastor’. My husband writes the same on his form. Being a doctor of a pastor correctly describes both of us. But this time, when we came back from vacation, I decided to change my ‘occupation’. I decided to write something different than what my husband wrote. Suddenly I felt a new excitement to write ‘Niger-wife – accompany husband’. The truth is that in the past, I thought that being a doctor or a pastor is a higher calling than being a wife. I tried to impress the officials, to make it easier for myself. But on Sunday, I introduced myself to the Nigerian immigration as ‘a wife’. To my surprise, this made things easier for me. The officials greeted me better than in the past. They ‘hailed’ me as ‘our wife, welcome!’ They did not ask any other questions. Two days ago I discovered that marriage is a stronger ‘visa’ than being a doctor or a clergy. This is wonderful to me!
The Bible says that marriage is ‘honorable’. The word means to have great value, to be costly and precious. The married people will be rewarded with a greater reputation than the singles. But be careful: A successful marriage is not easy and it is not cheap. There is a great price to pay for its success. It takes a full time dedication and sacrifice to make it work. Marriage is ‘honorable’ because it is God’s idea. It is the special holy union between a man and a woman. The marital bed cannot contain three persons. The homosexuals and the adulterers try to make marriage cheap. Sexual sins are not quickly judged by human courts. But have to doubt, God will judge them! Never envy a fornicator! Without repentance, his future will be cut off!
Now I speak as a wife. Marriage is a great place to learn wisdom, love, patience and contentment. To be content it means to be mentally and emotionally satisfied with things as they are, in particular, with what my husband is able to provide for me, materially and spiritually. To be content I must repent of the sin of greed, pride and impatience. I have to repent of the desire to be wealthy by myself, to leave my husband behind, socially and spiritually. For example, if my husband says: ‘My wife, we have such an amount in the bank, but I do not want us to spend this money now because we may needed it later for something else…’ Let’s say I wanted to buy a new dress. As a wife I need to pray for the grace to submit to such restrain especially when I have ‘my own money’ to spend as I please. Not to buy that dress is hard. I have to let go and imagine my life without that dress. Not to spend money when I have money, that is hard. It takes the power of the Holy Spirit to reject the natural impulse of buying things when I can afford them, just to keep the unity of the Spirit in the home. In times like these I need the Lord as ‘my Helper’. I need the Lord to give me peace when I cannot buy the things I want, just to keep peace in the home. I need the Holy Spirit to keep me contended just by His presence with me. How many times I said in my heart: The Lord is my Sheppard, I shall not want’. For Christ sake I need to learn to avoid trouble, division and quarrels especially because of money.
If you are married, I encourage you to raise the honor, the value and the price of your marriage! Invite God in all things. Study the Bible and pray about all things. These include health, sex, money, ministry and rising children. Do all things to the glory of God. If you are single, then you do not understand the travails of marriage. Nevertheless, I pray for you to marry, and marry well!
This is hard work, to pay the price to make marriage honorable and successful. That is how I became free from the fear of man, especially of my husband as my authority under God. The devil has lost in my life and in my marriage! I am free from the accusation to be a rebellious, forward, foolish and selfish wife. By the grace of God I became a godly wife who has paid the price to honor my marriage! This is my ‘bold’ testimony! By the grace of God, on Sunday, I entered Nigeria as the wife of a wonderful man called Richmond Sisan Leigh. I suspect that God will use me and will anoint me more than ever before to preach about marriage in the days to come. God will help me! The Lord Jesus Christ has promised never to leave me or forsake me! In Christ I declare: in Romania, America or Nigeria, in my home and outside my home, Jesus Christ is Lord to the glory of God the Father!