“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (Gen 2:24)
If you are married or single, please meditate upon these words. God invented the institution of marriage! It is not man who invented it. It is not the woman. It is not the devil! It is God!!! Before God creates governments and the church, He created the institution of marriage. The Christian marriage is made of one husband and one wife brought together by the Holy Spirit in a lifelong covenant. Do you know that God values your marriage very much? Not just the idea of marriage in general, but your own marriage! God wants your marriage to succeed! God wants that both of you should be happy serving God together. Do you really know that? This is the truth! Read the first three chapters of the Book of Genesis. In the first two you see how God created man and woman and put them together as husband and wife. In chapter three you see how the devil succeeds deceiving Eve, Adam rebels against God and their marriage crumbled. From an ideal relationship it became something lower. We too suffer since then. Only in Christ can our lives and marriages become saved and granted a new beginning.
What are some lessons?
First of all, marriage is a relationship between blessed equals. “So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. Then God blessed them…” (Gen 1:27, 28). God created both of them. The man is not created in the image of God more than the woman. Both man and woman ‘resemble’ God equally. God blessed them equally.
Secondly, God who created them gave them different functions to exercise in the setup of marriage. “And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” (Gen 2:18). Man is to be the head, or the leader of the wife. This is God’s gift to him. The wife is to be the body, or the helper of the husband. This is God’s gift to her. No one is superior to another. The head cannot live alone just as the body cannot live without the head. Each has to fulfill God’s purpose in the role given to them.
The devil attacks both these revelations. He tells the men that they are superior to the women. Or he tells the feminists that they are superior to men. These are both lies. You should reject them! The devil also attacks the understanding of the different functions in marriage. Deceived by the devil, the woman becomes rebellious and proud. She is tired to be the helper and she wants to be the head of the home. The husband is also deceived when he is tired to lead the wife. He now wants to be lazy and passive trying to ‘help’ his wife become the head of the home. Both are sinful positions. They are confused about the roles they need to play. This confusion brings a lot of troubles in the marriage. That is why it is good to go back to the Bible and read the Word of God again. The Word is our anchor in this difficult life.
Please obverse that the wife submits and she is the helper to ONLY her husband. No wife should submit and help other men around her. This arrangement is designed only for the marriage. In the office, in business or in the army women can be the directors and men have to submit to them. But if a wife submits and helps other men the same way she helps her own husband that is adultery.
We all need wisdom based on the understanding of the Word of God on how to have a godly, good, strong and happy marriage. I write these words with a burden for you, young (and not so young) people, that you should marry and marry well. This is my testimony and recommendation: I am a happily married woman for more than 42 years, a mother of three, a grandmother of six, a pastor’s wife and a pastor myself. From the bottom of my heart I wish you well! God bless you!