From the Bible we see that God invented marriage and God hates divorce. Marriage is God’s idea. Many wives are ignorant of their husbands’ spiritual and physical needs. The devil takes opportunity of their ignorance and attacks their homes. That is why many marriages are like stagnant waters, dangerous, boring and unhappy. From what the Bible says and from my experience as a wife I bring to you some time tested wisdom. Dear sisters, please try to answer these questions: “What does my husband want from me? What shall I give him so that our marriage will be strong, spiritual and happy?” These are the first five qualities most of the husbands expect from their wives (in this particular order): Respect, Sexual satisfaction, Faithfulness, Friendship and Understanding. Pray about it!
“Let not steadfast love and faithfulness forsake you; bind them around your neck; write them on the tablet of your heart. So you will find favor and good success in the sight of God and man” (PV 3:3, 4). Faithfulness means to be steadfast in love, keeping your promises and always doing what you are supposed to do. To be faithful it means to be loyal. Money cannot buy it. It describes a true friend, always rejecting the temptation to divorce or to betray. A faithful wife does not lust after another man, even if he is richer, more handsome or more successful than her husband. Your husband will greatly appreciate your faithfulness to God and to him.
“A friend loves at all times” (PV 17:17). Friendship is defined as a close, warm, kind, faithful and helpful relationship. Husband and wife should desire to be friends. Your husband should be your favorite companion. Do you enjoy being home alone with him? This friendship is holy; it never becomes overfamiliarity or mockery. You never lose respect for one another.
“The purpose in a man’s heart is like deep water, but a man (woman) of understanding will draw it out” (PV 20:5). To understand it means that you perceive the intended meaning of your husband’s words. Understanding produces a friendly and harmonious relationship based on the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace (Eph 4:3). As a wife, you need to educate yourself to understand your husband general attitude to life, his point of view on different issues and his passion for the things he loves. As his intercessor, you need to understand his spiritual background and God’s plan for his life. As his helper you need to support him with wise counsel and prayers. Study the Word of God to be able to have quality fellowship with him. Be spiritually strong and flexible in the same time.. You should desire to know your husband better, to understand him deeper. This knowledge does not come in one day. Learns from your mistakes! Does not repeat the same mistakes again and again! Only a fool does that. Your husband will appreciate your understanding, helping him fulfill his destiny!
God bless you with the blessings of Christ and with the gift of a wonderful marriage! In Jesus name! Amen!

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