From the Bible we see that God invented marriage and God hates divorce. Marriage is God’s idea. As a pastor I counsel many women (and men) who struggle in their marriages. Many wives are ignorant of their husbands’ spiritual and physical needs. The devil takes opportunity of their ignorance and attacks their homes. That is why many marriages are like stagnant waters, dangerous, boring and unhappy. From what the Bible says and from my experience as a wife I bring to you some time tested wisdom. Dear sisters, please try to answer these questions: “What does my husband want from me? What shall I give him so that our marriage will be strong, spiritual and happy?” These are the first five qualities most of the husbands expect from their wives (in this particular order): Respect, Sexual satisfaction, Faithfulness, Friendship and Understanding. Pray about it!

“Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control” (1Cor 7:3-5)

God created the men and the women. Physically there are differences. The bodies of men and the bodies of women function differently. Generally, men appreciate the physical side of sex more than the women. There are exceptions, of course, but men love to see and to touch their wives more than the women. This is a difficult subject to discuss. Many women are ignorant of their husbands’ sexual needs. One thing is clear: God invented sex. Therefore sex is good! Sex is not sinful, dirty or shameful! Sex is God’s gift given only to the married couples. Any sexual activity outside marriage is sin. It is called fornication or adultery. Sin grieves the Holy Spirit. Sexual sin must be confessed to God and to the injured spouse. Forgiveness is God’s first choice to heal a broken heart and a broken marriage. Dear wife, God will give you the grace to forgive your unfaithful husband. But if you cannot forgive his adultery and you desire to divorce, then you may do so (Mt 5:32). The Bible also says that once married, the husband and the wife should not abstain from sex except they decide to fast and pray together for a limited period of time.. Some women hate sex. This medical condition is called ‘frigidity’. The frigid woman is sexually ‘cold’, unemotional, lacking passion, sympathy or sensitivity towards her sexually active husband. The cause is not known by the medical science. It is also a spiritual condition. It may be related to the stress of life, to hormonal imbalance or depression. Frigidity is a serious hindrance to a happy relationship. Sexual activity is a sign of a healthy and happy marriage. Pray for one another! Pray for deliverance and healing. Remember, nothing is impossible for God!

God bless you with the blessings of Christ and with the gift of a wonderful marriage! In Jesus name! Amen!

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s