“Many waters cannot quench the flame of love, neither can the floods drown it. If a man tried to buy it with everything he owned, he couldn’t do it” (SS 8:7).

My husband and I are happily married for almost 45 years. We are parents to three adult children and have six grandchildren. I see marriage as a gift from God. Because I fear God, I fear to damage my marriage. I cannot be a happy wife without the help of the Holy Spirit. I daily read the Bible. I grow in wisdom and knowledge. Therefore my marriage becomes better, sweeter.

I pray daily for my husband, for our children, grandchildren, our health, our ministries and wisdom to handle our finances. I pray to see Christ in my husband (in his words and deeds). I love peace to reign in my home. I hate quarrels and divisions.

I respect my husband not only in my words and deeds, but even in my heart. I pray to be able to see him not just as my husband, not as the father or our children, but as my pastor, as a holy man of God. My prayer has been answered. I have ‘a kitchen ministry’. I like to cook for him and serve his food. I like it when he is hungry and he sits at the table waiting for me to bring the food. we always pray before each meal. I like it when we eat together and we gist about the daily activities, the plans for the day, prayer points. I like to wake up in the morning knowing that he is my husband. I like to ask him ‘what do you want to eat for breakfast?’ His answer makes me happy! Sometimes he likes Nigerian breakfast, and other times the ‘oyibo’ style. Anyone is good with me. I may fail a catering exam, but he likes the food I cook for him. That is all that matters for me!

Christ has simplified my life. I love Jesus first and my husband secondly. I do not even dream about another god or any other man. Even after all these years, I appreciate my husband’s love for me. I appreciate the fact that out of millions of women he chose me to be his wife. At the table, he has his own favorite chair. If a visitor comes and by mistake he sits there, I will not allow it. I will gently tell the visitor to use another seat. My husband has his own favorite plate. It is old but he likes it. I do not use his plate for other people. These may not be ‘big things’ but to me, these are symbols of respect.

Long ago I knew that he will be a man of God. I started studying the Bible with great passion. The knowledge of the Word of God is for my own soul and to help my husband. I love it when we discuss the doctrines and new revelations from the Bible. I love it when I have something good to add to the discussion. We are friends and lovers. We rejoice with one another. Time has not reduced this joy. In fact, it has made it better. The water has now become sweet wine. We drink it and have no apologies for our intoxicating love. The passion to love God and one another is the holy fire that burns in our home. No man or devil can quench it. It is to the glory of God that we are not religious hypocrites. There is genuine salvation, peace and joy of the Holy Ghost in our souls and in our home! We my head bowed down I write: “Thank You Father, Son and Holy Ghost!”

Dear children of God, may God bless you with the blessings of Christ and with the gift of a wonderful marriage! In Jesus’ name!

RSL and SLL 1


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