“Therefore we must give the more earnest heed to the things we have heard, lest we drift away” (Heb 2:1)
Dear child of God, did you know that you can drift away from God, from your spouse or from close friends? This is how drifting apart (away) is defined in general: Moving away from something slowly (like floating on air or on water, as a result of outside forces, with no control over direction). It means to gradually become distant from someone after a period of closeness; to begin to be less of a friend and more like a stranger; to move from place to place aimlessly; to alienate; to arouse hostility or indifference where formerly has been love, affection or friendliness.
When drifting away happens spiritually, the believer slowly goes away from the passion he once had for God for His Word. He slowly forsakes His first Love, Jesus Christ. Secondly, he loses interest is the fellowship with other brethren. This is called backsliding. It comes thru neglecting the basic requirements of growing in grace and in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. In particular, he neglects the study of the Bible and prayer meetings. Selah!
The following are signs of drifting apart in marriage (You can spiritualize these sings and apply them to your relationship with Jesus, your heavenly Bridegroom). The intimate holy romantic relationship between husband and wife can become rigid, cold, mechanical and unfulfilling. Marriage becomes boring. Remember that drifting away is a slow process. You may not realize it until the emotional coldness is visible to others.
What is the cause and cure? The Bible says that ‘we must give more earnest heed to the good things we once heard’! Go back to the Bible! Fast and pray! You need to listen and listen well to the Word of God and to the counsel of mature Christians! Child of God, open your ears and your heart! Do it now!
Signs of drifting apart in marriage:
*You purposely avoid one another
*You don’t do things you used to love to do together anymore
*You stop talking about the future. You live in the past. You think of the future as ‘me’, not as ‘we’. You see the future of your marriage as blank, hopeless
*No more sweet intimacy (mechanical unfulfilling sexual relations)
*You stop showing affection to one another (smiling, touching, saying ‘I love you’).
*You look for attention, for emotional (sexual) gratification from others. You are excited and inspired by others more than your spouse
*You feel better when you are not together (you are happier when your spouse is travelling, when he (she) is not at home
*You don’t laugh much with one another when alone
*You talk less with one another (you only talk about money or children. You do not talk like friend to friend anymore)
*You ignore, complain, argue, mock or get easily irritated with the other
*You feel that something is missing but you don’t know what!
As a child of God you should know that drifting away is a spiritual matter. This coldness coming between you and God, between you and your spouse is the evil work of the devil. He hates all good things. He wants to corrupt the gifts God has given to you. He will love it if you separate or divorce. The devil hates your love for Jesus. He hates the testimony of a godly marriage. You need ‘to wake up’ from slumber and do spiritual warfare. Fast and pray! Your soul and your marriage is worth it. Your testimony as a believer in Christ demands it! For Christ’s sake, come back home! It is not too late! I pray for you this morning! God is with you! You can do it!