“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself” (Eph 5:25-28)
The answer to this question is taken from the Word of God, from my experience as a wife married for more than 41 years and my experience as a Pastor. The devil hates godly marriages. A successful marriage takes a lot of effort. That is why the spiritually lazy are unhappily married.
Any woman, but especially if she is born again, has her own dreams concerning marriage. This is because she reads the Bible and she sees God’s standard concerning the men. What does a Christian woman desire from her husband? The husband must love her ‘as Christ loves the Church’. This is the greatest love of all. This love is not just a seasonal emotion, but a forever sacrificial love. The husband must pray with and for his wife. Before praying for friends and the extended family, the husband must regularly pray for his wife. One of the sweetest times for me it is when my husband calls me and says: “My wife, let me pray for you…” To me this is the highest for of love in action. A godly husband must ‘wash’ his wife with eth Word of God. He must study the Bible to have enough ‘water and soap’ to do it.
A husband must provide for the wife. He must be an ambassador of Jehovah Jireh in the home. A godly husband is to be a trustworthy man. He must keep his word. He should not promise things he cannot perform. Breaking a promise to the wife means breaking her heart. And that takes long to repair. The husband must lead in the skill of communication. They should both talk ‘heart to heart’, about everything. Silence is not a good communicator. You may misinterpret the absence of words. My husband and I we talk about everything. We are friends, lovers and co-laborers in ministry.
The husband must correct the wife in love. This correction is an art. Do not correct in anger, but always in love. Be patient and expect good changes. Rejoice when the changes come. The husband must be a good father to the children. The husband must help carry the wife’s burdens. He must pray to understand his wife. This is not an easy task but with the help of the Holy Spirit he will succeed. He must make her laugh for laughter is like a medicine. He should discuss the issues of money with her. They should not be greedy or wasteful. They should pay their tithes and offerings in the church.
He must encourage her to be all that God wants her to be. He should not expect perfection for no man or woman is perfect. But they should mature spiritually and rejoice in the journey of life. Each season of life is beautiful in the presence of God!
This is a prayer I pray for many years. It has worked for me. If you have faith, it will work for you!
“Lord Jesus, help me to see You in my husband’s eyes…help me to feel Your touch thru my husband’s hands. Bless our marriage. Bless our Home with your presence. Let the water be changed into wine in our marriage, In Jesus name, amen!”