“Go, eat your food with gladness, and drink your wine with a joyful heart, for God has already approved your works… Enjoy your life with your wife whom you already love…’ (Ecc 9:7-9)

Marriage is a gift of God. Please accept this word! Some people are married and some are not. Child of God, if you are single and you desire to be married, trust God Himself for the gift of marriage. Talk to God about your desires! Tell Him that you want to marry so that as a godly family, His worship will increase! Vow to give God all the glory for the wedding, for the marriage and for the children that will come! The devil is a liar! Do not be deceived! Marriage does not depend on beauty, education or money. It is God’s gift! Selah!!! But there are some conditions to receive this gift: you have to humble yourself! God’s grace manifests only to the humble. Humble yourself and marry God’s choice for you! If somebody is interested to marry you, it does not matter the height, weight, complexion, race, sense of fashion or tribe. What matters is that he (she) is born again! That is the foundation for the prayers concerning a future happy marriage! God is not the author of confusion. He will give you peace only in His choice for you as your life partner. Concerning any other person, even if he (she) is born again, you shall have no peace to marry! Fast and pray starting from tomorrow! Come back with a testimony!

If you are already married, this is God’s Word for you: Enjoy! You MUST BE HAPPILY MARRIED!!! This is not just your wish. This is God’s command! Any disobedience to God’s command is called witchcraft (1Sam 15:23). Any unhappy marriage is somehow connected or influenced by the occult. Husband, you have to choose between your real wife and ‘spirit-wife’ (a witch). You can’t have both! Chose marriage! Be happy! Tell your wife that you are grateful for her coming into your life, for sharing all things together! Being grateful and emotionally generous is a choice! I am sure that you are not blind…you see other women younger and more beautiful than your wife…but God said that you shall be married and it was so! Be grateful! The same applies to the wives! There are other men who are ‘sexier’ or richer than your husband. Be blind to those! Be grateful to what you have! Help your husband to be a man of God! Help him to be better! This is the duty of a godly wife and there is much joy in practicing it.

Now, this is the advice for all: Be sexually pure! Be morally pure! Reject anything that contaminates body and spirit! In particular, you should passionately hate divorce, gossip and pornography! Reject those viruses! Enjoy all good clean things every day! Enjoy every minute for there is no another. Enjoy your marriage, your children and your family! Enjoy your church, driving to church, parking in front of your church…Enjoy the church activities, the choir rehearsals, the waiting for the service to start, the prayer times, the preaching of the Word, the worship, the offerings, the assembly of the brethren…Stop wishing for a better partner, a better church, a better opportunity to serve God…another opportunity may never come! Be at peace with all men! Be a blessing to your generation!

A personal touch: This morning, my husband said to me: ‘Lia, I want to marry you again…’ (This was before I combed my hair and put on my makeup). I laughed and told him jokingly that he may not be able to pay my ‘bride price’ now… We both laughed… we hugged each other… the day started well as you can see… A good word from the heart is the greatest gift between friends. Money cannot buy it. We are married for 44 years. After making many mistakes, failing and succeeding, falling and getting up, we have finally discovered the formula of a happy, simply successful and fulfilled life in Christ! As with wine, the older we get, the sweeter our marriage is! It feels safe and good to know the heart of my husband. I help him in his weaknesses and I freely, unapologetically, share in his strengths. He does the same with me. We enjoy and share our lives now. We do not wait for tomorrow. Our children are all adults and living far away. We live alone and happy in the house. We enjoy each other company. We are lovers and friends. We challenge, inspire and pray for one another.  We are colleagues in the ministry. In the past, I will be very happy to learn a new recipe to cook for him, for example, to improve the taste of my Nigerian stew, to impress him with it.  But these days, I get ‘crazily excited’ and dance for joy, when I am able to share a new revelation from the Bible with my husband. Over time, I observed that he forgets my stew, but he never forgets ‘that Word you told me the other day…’ The Holy Spirit makes our hearts strong and sweet. This is a supernatural work, outside our power. For us, this is holy harvest time. God is faithful and good. I am so grateful.

Dear reader, I wish you well… God bless you all!