The Women’ fellowship in our church was very good. We praised God with songs and dances. We shared testimonies to the glory of God! Sister T celebrated her 50th birthday. For a long time she had no car. She used the keke to do her business. God blessed her miraculously with a new car. She thanked God for her life, her health, her children and her ministry. Sister A is new in our church. She escaped death two times these month. She was to go to a burial ceremony when the Holy Spirit told her to go to church. She went to church and found the brethren sweeping the floor. She joined them to work for God. Later she went to the burial ceremony and they invited her to sit under a big canopy. She felt restless to sit on that place. She left the ceremony. Few minutes later the canopy fell and two men died. God re-directed her steps to save her. A week later armed robbers came to their house and robbed her neighbor but they did not see her. She and the children escaped unharmed. Sister B said that her husband was very sick in November last year with a sickness that looks like asthma. He almost died. They went to the hospital and they gave him treatment. But he was still sick. In desperation, they prayed for healing and God touched him. He has not been sick since then. We all gave thanks to God for His goodness and love! Then the Word came!
“The heart of the righteous ponders how to answer; he thinks carefully before speaking. But the mouth of the wicked pours out evil things; it overflows with evil words” (PV 15:28)
In communication, this is one of the most important skills you need to learn: think before you speak! Use your mind before you open your mouth! This is God’s command and not just His advice! Obeying this simple command shows the difference between a wise patient man and a foolish angry man. “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” (Jam 1:19). The child of God takes speaking as a very serious matter. The Christian knows that “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit” (PV 18:21). Our words encourage or kill the spirits of others. The words you speak reveal your heart to others, for better or for worst. A Christian faithfully studies the Bible and has a great deposit of the Word of God in his heart. Even so, he does not speak impulsively, quoting scriptures at random. He meditates on how to speak. He thinks carefully before speaking; he studies his subject. He does not over-react emotionally under provocation. He prays that God will supply words to him when he opens his mouth. But an unbeliever answers before thinking. His mind is too slow and his mouth is too fast. He is impatient, foolish, talks loudly and nonstop. He opens his mouth and he pours out words without thinking, without preparation. In Hebrew the word ‘pour out’ means to gush forth without any restrain. This word means to emit a foul odor as if the mouth becomes the anus of the body. This is a total reversal of body functions and a disgrace of human behavior. The word ‘evil’ it means speaking something bad, troublesome, words that produce sorrow, grief and hurt in the listener. The wicked man speaks evil words without restrain. He has no fear of danger for the future consequences of his speech. He has no shame for his foolish behavior. If you are married to an unbeliever or if your boss is an unbeliever, just imagine how much you will suffer because of his mouth. Your life will be ‘hell on earth’.
In conclusion, we cannot control the words other people speak to us. But we should be jealous over our ears and hearts. We should calmly assess the states of their hearts thru the words they speak. Words reveal of what is hidden in their hearts. Dear single sister, as you date that young man, listen to what he says. Do not put words in his mouth. Do not listen to only what you wish to hear. Let him be! His words that come from his heart are the x-ray of his soul. Study his words like a doctor studies the x-ray! You should not marry an unbeliever for the pain is great in an unequally yoked marriage. As for you dear godly wife… If you are married to an unbeliever, there is much pain in listening to your husband. Pray for him! Do not correct only his words! He cannot help himself! Pray for a change of heart in him! Then his words and actions will change! As a godly wife, make a vow with your tongue that you will not speak quickly, emotionally and foolishly. From today on, you shall pray in the Spirit and you shall think before you speak. Your words shall be few but heavy with the dew of heaven! Speak to the glory of God!
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