“A good woman is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds.
Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has reason to regret it.
Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long…
She doesn’t worry about her family when it snows; their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear… She always faces tomorrow with a smile…” (PV 31:10-31; TM)
There are many stones all over the place but ‘diamonds’ are few, buried in the ground and hard to find. In the same way, there are many women in this world, but a genuine godly, faithful woman is ‘hard to find’. This is not my opinion, but it is the Word of God. It is not enough to be a woman. It is not enough to be called a Christian woman. It is not enough to go to church. To be a godly woman it takes the grace of God. You need to be born again and Spirit filled. You need to study the Word of God and apply it daily. You need to serve God in any capacity. What are some of the qualities of this woman of God?
*She is trustworthy! To be trustworthy it means that she is worthy of your trust. You can open your heart to her, tell her your secrets and she will help you solve your problems. She will pray for you. She has passed thru many trials herself and has come out shining like gold. She is a spiritual leader pointing you to Jesus. She is dependable. She is a solid honest trusted friend. She will not betray your confidence. She is not fake. She will not lie to you. She will not cheat, deceive, exploit or manipulate you.
She is trustworthy in small and big things. Jesus said: “Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much” (Lk 16:10). People in general trust her. But her husband trusts her in particular! For a married woman, this is the greatest human approval. Friends and relatives can trust you, but none knows you better than your husband. If the whole world says that you are a good woman. but your husband says that you are not-submissive, greedy, stubborn, lazy and proud, take it that he may be right. Truth is painful but truth sets free! Pray that you may humble yourself and change!
*Secondly, the godly woman has faith in God, especially during the trials of life. During winter it is very cold. If you are not well dressed and do not have a house, you die of cold. This woman does not worry during the cold of winter. This is because her husband and her children are well dressed, covered with the clothes she has provided for them during the summer (the hot season). She has a strategy how to face the hard times in the future. She is wise and prudent. She is not afraid of the future because Jesus is with her and ‘He is the same yesterday, today and forever’! (Heb 13:8).
This is a practical question: as women of God how do we face the trials of life?
“My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing. If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways” (Jam 1:2-8)
According to the Word of God, trials will come to us. No matter how much you pray, you cannot avoid all the troubles, trials and temptations. Thru applying the Word of God and prayer, you must be prepared for them in advance. The first thing James tells us is that ‘we should count it all joy when you fall into various trials’. This is a hard command. This is not the natural response when somebody insults you. The natural reaction is to insult back or to curse the enemy. But we are commanded to count it all joy. What does it mean? It means that we must face trials having God in mind. We must see the trial thru the eyes of God! This ‘joy’ is not a natural happiness. It is a supernatural manifestation of the Holy Spirit in your heart. Why count it all joy? Because Jesus is with you right now, in the middle of your pain. His presence comes with ‘fullness of joy’. This joy is a reaction of faith! By faith I trust that, thru this trial, God works something for His glory and for my good! I do not trust myself or my enemy. But I trust Jesus, the Forth Man in the furnace! We are in it together! Testimonies must follow the trial! That alone is enough for me to count this pain as joy! I see that thru this trial God is changing me. He makes me ‘perfect lacking nothing’. He makes me spiritually strong and fruitful. You cannot be a woman of God without passing thru these trials. You learn patience. You learn the value of wisdom. You learn that God’s grace with you is enough. The fire of the trial will burn the doubts and the fears. You will learn that the great scripture that says: ‘all things work together for good’ (Rom 8:28) is true not just in the Bible but ‘works’ in your experience. You learn to walk by faith and not by sight! You learn to walk with God. You learn to be a Friend of God! Glory! May God bless you as you obey His Word! In Jesus’ name! Amen!