“Whoever listens to Me will live in safety and be at ease, without fear of harm” (PV 1:33)

Do you want to be delivered from all fears? It is possible, you know…

I do not have to fight my enemies. I do not have to be worried about the plans of the wicked. My duty as a child of God is to ‘listen’ to my Father. The word means to hear intelligently, to understand what the Bible is saying with the clear intent to obey its commands. My attitude is that of a student and a son (daughter). I want to please my Father in heaven. I want to know God better. It gives me pleasure to read and meditate upon the commands of God, so that I can obey them. I want to be known as an obedient teachable child. I want to be known as a wise child who builds his life on the Rock. I want to be known as a student of the Bible. I want to see how my life will change as I obey God’s Word. This is my ambition in life.

This is God’s promise:

If I really obey God’s Word (not just pretend to do it) then I shall be free from all fears! My obedience to the Bible will destroy the fear of trouble, harm, evil, witchcraft, kidnapping and untimely death. I do not need a personal prophet, mobile police, a medical doctor, a banker, a lawyer or a politician to feel safe in this world. All I need is God, faith in Him and obedience to His Word. The older I get, the more I love obeying God. I now experience a higher level of peace, joy and rest in my soul, like never before. I still remember the past with its crazy fears and many insecurities, questions without answers…what do people say…what if the laugh at me…what if a witch places a spell on me and I get sick… what if I get poor and end up on the streets…what…what?

But now is different. I do not have to pretend for the real peace has come.

My advice to you is this: go back to the Bible like you have never read it before. Do not read the Bible casually. Do not read it to impress your spouse. Read it for yourself; slowly and with faith. Imagine that your Father in heaven speaks to you thru its pages. It is a letter of love. Any time the Holy Spirit brings to your attention the need to obey, pray for strength and just do it. Do not delay obedience! It does not matter the price. The reward is by far greater than the sacrifice. Then you enter the exclusive club of them that believe! You shall be bold like a lion, confident and sure of your identity! You shall know the security of the believer and the glorious eternal future in Christ. That is your inheritance! This is God’s promise to His obedient Children and God can never lie!

“This is what the Lord Almighty, the God of Israel, says to all those I carried into exile from Jerusalem to Babylon: “Build houses and settle down; plant gardens and eat what they produce. Marry and have sons and daughters…

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart” (Jeremiah 29)

Not too long ago I met a Christian brother. I reminded him that he owes me a testimony. That he should pay his spiritual debt to me. Last year I gave him a prophetic word that God will help him to build his own house in Warri. He said Amen! One year later, I was expecting some manifestation of that word. At least a stone upon another…Then he said that not much has been done to come back with a testimony. He bought a piece of land but then he stopped. He told me that he got a surprising supernatural increase in finances. Then he got a promotion in his job to work in another bigger city. His family is still in Warri.

He said that all his new colleagues over there in the big city discouraged him to go back and build a house in Warri; that Warri is a village… that Warri is a waste of time… Their voices were so strong that he could not go ahead and build in Warri. He could not confront them and he kept quiet. He could not tell them about the prophetic word. They could have insulted him the more. From time to time his conscience worried him about the past prophetic word. He suddenly got ‘stuck’. He said that is why he could not move right or left. Doubt attacked the word spoken. He became weak and discouraged to do anything at all. He told me that he wanted to start the building in January because this is the year of the Limitless God. But he could not do anything even will all the money in the bank. This is a very intelligent, hard working and creative brother, but his spirit was quenched and his body became weak.

I reminded him of our conversation last year and the prophetic word spoken then. Immediately the light of God shone on his face. I could see his eyes sparkle with a new hope, a new courage and faith to obey. As a doctor I saw life coming back in someone who has fainted. The very color of the lips changes…It is the same spiritually!

This time he said that he is ready. He promised that next time we see he shall not be ashamed at his backsliding lukewarm cowardly attitude but he will have a good report to share with me. I left him encouraged! I too was encouraged!

This is a lesson for all: if God has spoken a word to you, thru the Bible or thru His prophets, do not be slow to obey it. The word may sound foolish, but God knows all the factors and He knows what is best for you. It does not matter how big a city or a country is! It does not matter how beautiful that woman is! It does not matter how big that church is! You walk by faith and not by sight! The only thing that matters is to trust and obey God. He will provide all that you need, guidance, favor with strangers, money and resources, peace and joy in the heart, and the shining testimony that He is your God! What else do you want? Be content with the plan and purpose of God for nothing is better than that!

As for me, I wait for you to come back with many testimonies of God’s grace power and might!

Yes, after reading this letter, you owe me a testimony of encouragement that Jesus is your Lord!

For nothing is impossible to him who believes!

TRAVEL DIARY 10

“He (Jesus) was in the world, and the world was made through Him, and the world did not know Him. He came to His own and His own did not receive Him. But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right (the power) to become children of God, to those who believe in His name: who were born, not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, but of God” (John 1:10-13)

This is the last page in my diary concerning our recent travelling abroad. We came back to Lagos last night. In the airport there was unnecessary delay, asking useless questions, officials begging for money…sad…sad…sad…

Outside the arrivals, they did not allow the taxis to come close. We had to roll our load quite a distance. We saw a free passage to the right of the airport. Loaded with our suitcases, we tried to take that path. Suddenly two soldiers, a man and a woman, came with guns to stop us. They said that we cannot go there, for that path is only for ‘diplomats’. In my heart I quickly said a prayer. I reminded myself that we are the ambassadors of Christ. Immediately, without any explanation, the woman soldier changed her mind and allowed us to pass. In passing I told her: “God bless you, madam!” She answered me: “Na God bless you I de chop?” (translated it means, ‘God bless you is too small for me; this greeting does not feed me; I need some money’). I did like I do not understand what she meant.and moved on. This is so sad, when someone chooses money in place of God’s blessings…She could have been happier with 500 naira, maybe; that is about $4. I was sorry for her husband or children if she had those…

As royal priests we are to bless people in the name of the Lord. The simple answer to such a royal greeting is “Amen!” That means you have received the blessing of God! This greeting is life to the spirit! It shall manifest for good, one way or another. No amount of money can buy the grace of God. Rejecting God’s Word of blessing is foolishness to say the least.

This particular journey has ended. Another will start soon…
I wanted to close these letters on a better note. But this is not fiction and I cannot invent the characters of the story. I wrote it in my diary as I saw it, thru the eyes of Christ. This painful re-entry in Nigeria reminds me that Christ came for needy sinners. The travelling was a good time to rest and be refreshed. But there is no need of romantic dreaming outside the reality of this life. I am also reminded that the evil spirit of religion has done great harm to many people. Especially in Nigeria. So, coming down from the mountain of transfiguration with its glimpses of glory and grace, there is work to do down in the valley. We have placed our hands on the plow! We cannot look back…Nothing shall discourage us! For as long as Jesus is Lord, ministry done in the power of the Holy Spirit shall be successful!. We declare the Lordship of Jesus Christ over Nigeria! If the devil likes it or not, many souls shall be saved in this beautiful but hurting land.
So, Nigeria, Warri, here I come…
Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord!

Love in Christ alone
Malia. 

TRAVEL DIARY 9

“He (The Holy Spirit) will tell you what is yet to come…” (Jn 16:13)

No man knows the future. Only God, and He will not tell anyone, except to His children. The Holy Spirit gives us glimpses of the hope ahead. These are like light posts to guide us in the way. We do not have to know everything, but seeing the lights, like a pilot landing in darkness, we find the path ahead.

Let me be more practical. Going to Istanbul and back to Lagos, the weather was rough. Both flights had to pass thru serious periods of turbulence. A woman was praying in tongues loudly. Many anxious sounds were heard all over. But we kept calm with a supernatural peace. Why was it so?

The first thing I can say is that we trusted in God! Not in the pilot or any man, but it God. Secondly, we trusted in a prophetic word we received in the morning. The Holy Spirit revealed to us something we shall do at the end of February 2016. We have already said amen to that word. It simply follows that we can’t die before then.  This is a simple lesson we had to apply today. We rejected the evil spirit of fear! All the rough weather in the sky could not shake us for God is not the author of confusion.

Has the Holy Spirit given you a glimpse of things to come? Then He that showed you a little of your future is in control today! Any challenge you may face now is temporary! Learn to say: ‘This came to pass…” Have peace! Start rejoicing that you are a child of God! Praise God for the privilege of seeing the light shining in darkness, of knowing what to do even when all things seem hopeless!

Trust God!!!

As we finally landed, another surprise… the background music on Turkish airlines was this: “Do something new in my life, something new in my life…O, Lord!”

(can you believe that? God is wonderful…)

We came to the end of this journey and already God is planning a new wonderful thing for us…I love this God, there is no other like Him!

May God restore your ‘wounded’ peace and your ‘scattered’ joy! At the end of the storm the rainbow sends greetings…be strong in The Lord and in the power of His might! In Jesus name, Amen!

TRAVEL DIARY 8

“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another” (Jn 13:34, 35)

The last time we came to Istanbul, we met a wonderful young man. He was an engineering student here in Istanbul but working part time as a receptionist at the hotel where we stayed. He went out of his way to make us happy. He upgraded our room without us asking for such a favor. When leaving, we gave him a gift of money. He was so surprised and asked us why. We said that he can be our son in the university. That he can use the money freely and happily. His name is Aslan.
We prayed that he may see the love of Jesus in our gift.

Yesterday we came at the same hotel. The new receptionist is his friend. He said that Aslan told him that any time we come he should inform him. Later in the day, whole we went out, Aslan came all the way from the university campus and he dropped a box of Turkish sweets and a ‘thank you’ note inside.
This is what the note said (I did not edit his English so that the sweet fragrance of it may come to you):

“Hello!
I was working here when you came this hotel first time. I quit this job but I talked about you to the new receptionist who is my friend. And he said to me you came again. You gave me a gift when you are leaving. Cause I am a student. It affects me so much and I want to thank you with this Turkish delight (I am sure they are not as sweet as much as you :)) Because you showed me being a good people independent of religion, race and nationality…Hope see you again, Mr and Mrs Leigh (two beautiful hearts)
Aslan”

May God bless Aslan with the blessings and the saving revelation of Jesus Christ!
In Jesus name
Amen!

The journey continues…

TRAVEL DIARY 7

“When they had all had enough to eat, He (Jesus) said to His disciples: Gather the pieces that are left over. Let nothing be wasted. So they gathered them and filled twelve baskets…” (Jn 6:12, 13)

During this trip we eat more than the usual amount of food. We may have an excuse for it was a Holiday. In the cruise ship there is buffet 24 hours. Much food is wasted and given to the fishes in the sea. The sea gulls follow the ship too for crumbs of food.

Jesus fed thousands with only few loaves of bread and fish. He told the people to sit down and eat. Then the crowds left. Why did Jesus told the disciples that the bread left on the grass should be gathered and kept? A simple answer is that Jesus does not want us to be wasteful in general and with our food in particular. This is the command of the Provider…Even if it was a miracle, we shall give an account of what was used and also of what was not used for the needs of that day.

God’s blessings and gifts are much more abundant and greater than our needs. For example, you are sick with malaria. You pray for healing and then the fever goes away. With that healing, other blessings follow: financial, spiritual, more peace, more joy…At last, you feel so good, so grateful, but often you don’t know what to do with the extra grace. Do not be passive in the mist of that overflow! Worship the Generous Loving Extravagant Provider God! Jesus says to be careful to acknowledge the work of Jehovah Jireh…to thank Him for the generous supply that came right in time, as an answer to prayer for your limited need…the supply is given according to God’s riches of His glorious grace in Christ Jesus….you are to preserve the extra blessings for a later need….You need to be prudent with the grace of God! You shall give an account for the way you invested it!

Have you thought of that?

Many squander and abandon the gifts supplied by God for past needs… Later, they pray for a miracle but there is no answer from God for the overflow is still in their savings account. Past blessings are to be used for later needs!!!

From the overflow of so many lessons from my past I had to use and re-use the same Word of God, again and again, not one letter was wasted. The Syrian woman was ready to die for crumbs of mercy, for her daughter’s healing…these are broken pieces of bread, crumbs of life… the dogs play with them under the table of carelessness….this is waste and laziness and sin, to leave food on your plate and grace unused stagnant in your spirit…

“Dear Father God, forgive me for wasting much grace in the past. Please help me to gather the extra blessings I may not need today, for future needs I know nothing about, so that I should never be anxious for tomorrow, knowing that You are more than enough for me, in all situations of life, present and the future. Help me to see how great You are! Help me to be a good steward of your gifts, grace and blessings given for past needs. Help me to be wise and to re-invest them in future challenges…In Jesus name, Amen”

The journey continues…

TRAVEL DIARY 6

“Get up; go away! For this is not your resting place yet…” (Micah 2:10)

One of the most difficult things to do is to keep walking until you reach your destination. We easily find excuses to sit down. Every nice bench will do for tired bones. Even the floor looks inviting…

This hotel room looks better than my own back home. The bathroom is marble and the door is made of mirror. So why leave and go? Because it is not mine! I have not reached my resting place. I am a pilgrim in this world. This place is good but the future planned by God for me is much better. So I learn to enjoy this moment …and then let it pass…for the promise of hope to have a chance and a space to manifest.

If God has given you a promise of a better future… if you are praying but the things are still not taking shape…if things distract you along the way, even then…still keep moving… until you cross the finishing line, until you reach your resting place.

A happy marriage is one of the resting places on this earth, no doubt about it…this is the word: if you are ‘unhappily’ married, keep praying, do not settle for less, the hotel is not your house and the hotel maid is not your wife…if you are not married, then move on with fasting and prayer until your life partner shall manifest…you shall not fall in love with a stranger, with a hotel greeter…your own is your own…

I encourage you to press on and fulfill your destiny in Christ, for all God’s children are special and their peace and joy is assured!

Get up now and keep moving…I am looking behind to see you coming… Do not disappoint me…soon, you shall see us moving ahead..

OYA! Keep moving…the best is yet to come!

(the word ‘Oya’ in Nigerian slang means “Let’s go!)

The journey continues…

TRAVEL DIARY 5

‘Love is patient’ (1 Cor 13:4)

This trip is wonderful. My dear husband surprised me today. After 40 years of happy fruitful marriage, he bought me a diamond engagement ring. The truth is that when we got married we were both students and could not afford one. He promised me that one day, ‘when we have money’ he will buy one. After so many years, I forgot about it. We have gone in and out many gold shops and we never discussed that matter again.
That is why I was so surprised today…we went on this street, an ordinary street, and we entered this shop of ‘gold and diamonds’. He then said I should chose an engagement ring. I was surprised and a little embarrassed for I was not sure if he is joking or not. But he was serious…I prayed a quick prayer that the Holy Spirit should guide me…I did not know what is the latest fashion in engagement rings…then I saw this one, simple and perfect to my eyes, the ring was smiling, that is how I saw it…and I said: ‘This one I like…’ In less than 5 minutes it was mine, together with a certificate of value and the rest…My heart felt young…the promise given 40 years ago was fulfilled faster than I thought…the waiting was long but the manifestation was quick.
Right now, on my 60 years old wrinkled finger, shine the diamonds…today I laughed like Sarah of old…share in my happiness, please…

I encourage you to be patient to the end…There is a day and an hour when the promises of youth become real…be patient…the end of the matter is better than the beginning…trust me, I know…

TRAVEL DIARY 4

“For where two or three come together in My name there I am with them” (Mt 18:20)

We arrived at Hamburg airport this evening. There was a waiting line for the taxi outside. One very active driver already carried some of our luggage inside his car. But the six of us wanted to be together. Then out of nowhere a bigger van came and the new driver told the other that he will take care of all of us. He was ‘a black man’. We were already happy now feeling like home…
Immediately we entered, he put on the music. We could not believe our ears. This is what came from the sound system: ‘Ancient words, ever true, changing me and changing you, we have come with open hearts, let the ancient words impart…Your loving kindness is better than life…my lips shall praise You…’ This was a wonderful surprise for it is very rare to hear Christian music in a taxi in Europe.

Then we started talking…the taxi driver was a born again child of God. His name is Ferdinand. He lives in Hamburg for the past 23 years. He is from Cameroon. Life was difficult here and this is how he gave his life to Christ.
O…the wonderful gift to be welcomed by a blessed brother, coming in the name of The Lord…Before the journey we have prayed that our steps shall be guided by The Lord. It is not only buildings we came to see, but, like the rose of the desert, the fragrance of Christ was found in the most unexpected places.I can’t explain the joy we all felt knowing that Jesus was with us in the taxi and that all we shall experience in this trip is a gift from His gracious hand.

Loneliness is a bad thing. No believer should feel lonely for too long… We do not know everything and everybody, but we know the One who knows it all…Let me tell you this, there is no ‘travel agent’ like the Holy Spirit…Yes, this is a good feeling to know I am a child of the Most High God!
May you never take for granted the ancient Words of God and the presence of the Holy Spirit…Your God goes before you to make the crooked unfamiliar roads straight, to prepare the place in advance, to drive away the enemies, to give you favor with all men and many tokens of His sweet presence along the way…life becomes easy and sweet…

I feel like royalty right now…come and join ‘the Club of the ambassadors for Christ’… It is not just 5 stars, forget the way men count them…it is the Kingdom of God made of limitless stars for they are all safe in His hands…
I am filled with the Spirit right now…don’t blame me that I am so happy…and don’t just stay there and grumble or be jealous…no need for that…You can be happy too…Come to Jesus! Come to the Bible! Be filled with the Holy Spirit!
The journey continues…

TRAVEL DIARY 3

“The Father will give you another Comforter to be with you forever, the Spirit of Truth…” (Jn 14:16, 17)

We arrived at Istanbul airport today. The whole place was very busy, no place to seat down, no place to eat. We had to wait four hours. We did not know what to do or where to go. We were tired and hungry. Then we remembered that there is a place to rest in the upper area of the airport. We went there, and to our surprise, they welcomed us like home. For a small amount of money, we could seat down, lie down and sleep, eat, use their free Internet and even take a shower. All was included in the price. This was like an oasis in the desert. The name of the place was “The Comfort Room”. 

We often forget that God has prepared everything for the journey of life, that we are not alone, we are not orphans. We suffer and weep and complain that things are too difficult in life. We say we trust God but the truth is that we do not. We trust ourselves, in our strength and wisdom. Life can be so much easier if we can find the Comforter, the Spirit of Truth who sets free, who gives rest to the soul and body. The Holy Spirit is the One who guides us, who over-rules our mistakes, who walks alongside us, every moment, to encourage and to give peace. As a child of God, the Holy Spirit is with you always. You are not alone. Therefore you do not have to feel alone! You do not have to feel poor, ugly or rejected! Come to the Upper Comfort Room where saints rest and become refreshed. Jesus has paid the bill for your peace! Just a drop of liquid joy is stronger than depression and all fears! 
When the strange crowd pushes you here and there, and like Noah’s dove you find no rest for your feet, then run back to the Ark, run back to Jesus! There is no other place I know to redirect your tired bones. In a foreign land, I have tested of His eternal Comfort today… Have peace!
The journey continues…

TRAVEL DIARY 2

“When the day of Pentecost came…All of them we’re filled with the Holy Spirit…Now they were staying in Jerusalem Jews from every nation under heaven…from Cappadochia …What does this mean?” (Ac 2:1-12)

Today we travelled all over the land of Cappadochia in Turkey. There is no place on earth like this. The volcanic ashes mixed with the rain water and thewind has made some very strange designs unique in the world. Inside these natural structures the Christian believers in the first centuries came to hide from their persecutors. There are hundreds of caves connected underground. We saw the secret places where they were hiding, the place where they fed their animals, their kitchens…from place to place they had huge round stones that could be pushed even by the women to block some corridors from enemies who pursued them even below the earth.

We sang “He is Lord, He is Lord! He has risen from the dead, He is Lord! every knew shall bow, every tongue confess, that Jesus Christ in Lord!” I have sang this chorus at home or in the church, but nothing like singing it below the earth, in the very same place where our brethren, 2000 years ago, gathered to worship. The Word of God is fresh even in the caves:
“God exalted Him (Jesus Christ) to the highest place and gave Him the name that is above every name, that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord to the glory of God the Father” (Phil 2:9-11)

We saw churches carved in the rocks, with the paintings still fresh on the walls. Believers from all over the world came to see those wonders. There are no services there. The area is an open air museum. But we followed the feet of our brothers and sisters who 2000 years ago came to settle in this area of unique beauty.
We gathered our courage and went high in a hot air balloon to see the sun rise. We saw the land of Cappadokia from the sky. I know that it is impossible to seat at home and imagine what I am trying to say… but one thing is clear, people come and people go…religions and cultures pass over the earth, in seasons known by Him alone. But God never changes. His stamp is on earth so that none can take His glory.

My friend…Lift up your eyes from the circumstances around you. These are too small to worry about them. Do not limit God! Life is more than work and eat. May you have the courage to obey God’s command: ‘Rejoice always!’ May the joy of the Lord crush the anxiety in you! If people underground could worship God Almighty, we have no excuse! Rejoice always! And I say again, rejoice!

(Just in case you think that I am joking, I am not. I am very happy with God, with my husband, with myself and with the dear brethren here).
The journey continues…

TRAVEL DIARY 1

‘Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires’ (SS 2:7).
We are far away from our comfort zone at home. The smells, the sounds, the weather, the food…all is different … But God is here, with us, so I feel good…i feel safe…

Love has its own ‘agenda’…its own seasons and times…like the ocean tide, it goes higher or lower, according to the law of its source…love hates cages, limitations and control…when it is free it sings and invents things none could imagine…

Dear friend, I think of you… If today was hard, if things did not work well, if you are sick or sad…even then, have hope, for the Lover’s song is composed for you and you shall hear its strings soon…yes, I am in love with Jesus, you can tell…

This afternoon, we had lunch at Goreme Cappadochia…can you believe this? The name of the owner of the small road side, but very nice restaurant was Jesus. The food was very good, the smiles also…we said ‘Thank you, Jesus’ many times today…for the rice, for the garden egg salad, for the vegetables and fruits…thank you Jesus. We were so impressed with the restaurant that Jesus took us at the backyard to show us the chef. His old mother was cooking all these wonderful dishes in an old fashioned Turkish kitchen…No, her name was not Mary…but she was a sweet old woman who could not speak English but she could cook first class…

Love is aroused…Love is awaken…its desire is to have my heart, to fill it all…with new fresh wine…this is a new season for us all…Grateful and happy, for God’s love and detailed care to me and my family, I send you greetings…

Thank You, Lord Jesus!!!

“And it happened when He was in a certain city, that behold, a man who was full of leprosy saw Jesus; and he fell on his face and implored Him, saying, “Lord, if You are willing, You can make me clean.”

Then He put out His hand and touched him, saying, “I am willing; be cleansed.” Immediately the leprosy left him. And He charged him to tell no one, “But go and show yourself to the priest, and make an offering for your cleansing, as a testimony to them, just as Moses commanded.” (Lk 5:12-14)

There was a man who was very sick. Not only that he had leprosy, an incurable disease at that time, but he was ‘full of leprosy’. There was no hope for him among men. There was no doctor who can cure him. The only hope was found in Jesus. Let’s follow this sick brother and see the path of a healing miracle.

The first thing this man did was to come to Jesus! He saw Jesus. The Bible says that ‘Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God’ (Mt 5:8). Because of his leprosy, this man’s body was counted as unclean. But his heart was ‘clean’ for he saw Jesus as His Lord. Then he fell at the feet of Jesus in true worship. Lastly he prayed making a specific request of healing. Jesus touched the man with His hand and simply said: “I am willing. Be cleansed!” In other words: “I am willing to grant you a miracle! It is my pleasure and joy to heal you! I even desire to bless you more than you’ll ever know! Be healed!”

“Immediately the sickness left him. The word means to be loosed from the chains of sufferings and bondage. The man was free on the spot. Can you imagine the feeling? The body was healed, but can you imagine what happened in him mind; the feelings of gratitude that flooded his soul? This is what Jesus is ‘willing to give to you! If you just believe Him with all your heart!

The Jesus told him something very interesting, to maintain his healing. Jesus said that he should not just go and ‘tell’ men the story, like a spiritual gossip. That will not honor God. He told the man to go to the church and present himself to the pastor bring along a sacrificial offering to God. The miracle should be followed by a public testimony in the church to give glory to God, to disgrace the devil and to encourage the brethren. Just talking about your healing is not good enough. You waste precious oil of anointing. Come to God and to His house and honor Him with ‘an official testimony’ that will be used as weapon against the accuser of the brethren (Rev 12:11)

In other words, Jesus is the author and the center of faith for a miracle. These are the steps to receive and retain a genuine Bible miracle for any need at all:

FAITH- COME- SEE- WORSHIP- PRAYS- HEALED- TESTIFIES- OFFERING!

Whatever is your problem, sickness, poverty, loneliness, singleness, marriage crisis, joblessness…the answer is found at the feet of Jesus. Men can help but not always. But Jesus never fails. Why do you make Jesus the last option? Why do you waste your precious time? Jesus is willing to help you, to change your circumstances, to heal you. He is not too far from you that He cannot hear your prayers! Come to Him in humble worship and with a definite prayer of faith. Millions testify that Jesus is alive! Jesus is the same yesterday, today and forever! Today is still today! Start praying now! Promise that you shall give Him all the glory and that you shall honor Him with a clear testimony and an offering in the church! You shall join the ranks of them who adore His very breath! Have faith! Jesus is Lord!

In Christ I declare:

I am healed!

I am delivered!

My miracle has come!

My testimony has arrived!

To the glory of God, to the same of the devil and to the encouragement of the brethren!

I believe!

In Jesus name

Amen!

The prayer meeting started strong. The prophetic intercessor cried for a fresh touch from God. As the praise was rising I quietly bowed my head in worship. The worship leader was singing exactly what was in my heart. The unity of the Spirit was established right from the beginning. This is a great privilege for any preacher, to have the ground prepared, ready for sowing…
I am so grateful Lord…
Then I invited everybody to call on the Holy Spirit. I said that without the Holy Spirit we cannot continue this meeting. We do not have plan B. We can’t preach without the anointing of the Holy Spirit. Everybody was praying, some seating, some standing and some kneeling. Then the Holy Spirit pointed Brother Emmanuel to me. He was just what I needed. He looked troubled, in pain but hungry for God in the same time. That is the perfect combination, like dry wood to catch fire. I called him to the microphone and I told him to call on the Holy Spirit. From the moment he opened his mouth, his love came forth. Each word was filled with longing for a fresh touch from God. He forgot himself and continues praying in English and tongues. Then the worship leader started singing quietly at the background: “I need Thee Lord I need Thee, every hour I need Thee. Bless me now my Savior, I come to Thee”. This combination of prayer and worship is heavenly! Revival is at hand…
I could feel the breeze of the Holy Spirit blowing on my cheeks. Soon it became a mighty rushing wind. The congregation bent under the weight of God’s glory. We were so grateful for the coming of the King. O… Such a relief… Such a refreshing…Such a honor…
Then the worship team started singing a simple Nigerian chorus that instantly became loaded with anointing:
“I never knew You will honor me this way…I never knew You will honor me this way…Thank You Jesus! Thank You Jesus!”
Finally, I was free to preach the sermon I prepared. It was titled: AMAZING GRACE

“When my life was ebbing away
I remembered You Lord
And my prayer rose to You
In Your holy temple

Those who cling to worthless idols
Forfeit the grace that could be theirs

But I, with a song of thanksgiving
Will sacrifice to You
What I vowed I will make good
Salvation comes from the Lord!” (Jon 2:8, 9)

Jonah was a true child of God. He was a true prophet of Jehovah. But he was backsliding. God sent him to preach to the wicked citizens of Nineveh. He decided to run away from God, hoping that God will forget about him. He went to the port of Joppa to take a ship in the opposite direction. He paid his fare and he entered.
Lesson: if you rebel against God’s plan for your life, you have to pay your ‘transport’. But if you obey God and go to where He sends you, God will pay your bills. The question is this: who pays your bills?

The storm was raging. All the sailors were unbelievers.
Lesson: if you rebel against God’s plan for your life, you will always be lonely, an island in the midst of unbelievers. Many people will suffer because of you. But if you obey God, the believers will come and encourage you. Look around, who are your neighbors? Who are your friends?

Jonah was thrown into the water. The storm stopped immediately. God sent a big fish that swallowed him alive. In the belly of that fish, face to face with death, Jonah remembered God and he prayed.
Lesson: God will never leave you and not forsake you. He will cage you in impossible circumstances where you shall be forced to pray. All the worthless idols that captured your heart for so long will be rejected. The Spirit of prayer and supplication shall arise in you. Dying, you shall discover a new strength to pray desperate prayers that will open the heavens for you. Do you really pray?

Jonah discovers the value of grace, the unmerited favor of God. Jonah was rebellious. God could have killed him many times for his sins. The ship could have drowned and the fish could have digested him. But against all odds, Jonah survived the ordeal and miraculously was given a second chance to ministry. That is grace!
Lesson: God deals with us only thru grace. We do not merit any blessing. We do not merit salvation, prosperity, health or even life. Do you remember, how many times God has saved you from death?

Serving idols is useless. Their worship will bring you to a place where the love, grace and mercy of God become too weak to help. Salvation is of the Lord! Think of it this way: God is in charge! He is like a very rich King who organizes a wedding party for His Son. He knows exactly who is invited and who is not.
Lesson: No man is saved by mistake. No man can creep into heaven. Even the ones who deceive men and lack the proper garment of imputed righteousness, God will expose and punish at last (Mat 22)

The Word of God comes to Jonah the second time. He is given a second chance to do ministry. The grace of God washes away the disgrace of rebellion.
Lesson: The God of grace is the God of second chances. Jesus came full of truth and grace! Praise His Holy Name!

“I never knew You will honor me this way…I never knew You will honor me this way…Thank You Jesus! Thank You Jesus!”

In Christ I declare:
I am saved by grace alone thru faith in Jesus Christ!
Salvation is of the Lord!
In Jesus name
Amen!

“Open your mouth for the speechless,

In the cause of all who are appointed to die” (PV 31:8)

The following are some medical facts:

An abortion is the termination of a pregnancy by the removal or expulsion of an embryo or fetus from the uterus, resulting in or caused by its death. An abortion can occur spontaneously due to complications during pregnancy or can be induced. Abortion as a term refers to the induced abortion of a human pregnancy, while spontaneous abortions are usually termed miscarriages.

This is what I found on the internet: According to WHO (World Health Organization) there are an estimated 40-50 million abortions per year. This corresponds to approximately 125,000 abortions per day!!!

In the USA, half of pregnancies are unintended and four in 10 of these are terminated by abortion. There are over 3,000 abortions per day. Twenty-two percent of all pregnancies in the USA (excluding miscarriages) end in abortion

Women in their 20’s have the highest abortion rates. Black women are 4 times more likely to do abortion than the white women. 37% of women obtaining abortions identify themselves as Christians (Protestant or Catholic)

On average, women give at least 3 reasons for choosing abortion: 3/4 say that having a baby would interfere with work, school or other responsibilities; about 3/4 say they cannot afford a child; and 1/2 say they do not want to be a single parent or are having problems with their partner. Only 12% of women included a health reason. Pregnancies from rape or incest, fear, poverty, shame or social discrimination were other factors why they chose abortion.

This is the Word of God!

God gave you a mouth to speak. You should use it to pray praise God and to preach His Gospel. You should also encourage people in need. Lastly, God commands us to open our mouth and plead the case on behalf of them who suffer innocently or are wrongfully condemned to death. These victims are not able to speak or defend themselves. To speak is a privilege. Not all people can speak. If you have a platform, no matter how small, from which you can speak to others, use it well! It is the gift of God, an open door of faith!

We are to be self-employed defense lawyers for all silent victims. I don’t know if you are hearing this call to ‘borrow’ your mouth on behalf of just causes? There are many examples of silent suffering. The kidnapped girls of Nigeria, the Pakistani woman stoned to death as a honor killing, the Sudanese woman who says she wants to be a Christian…The secular press does its own good work in many cases.

But the worst of all is abortion! This is because the baby in the womb cannot speak at all. To commit abortion is murder. It is the sin of shedding innocent blood. And God hates it!

“These six things the Lord hates,

Yes, seven are an abomination to Him:

A proud look,

A lying tongue,

Hands that shed innocent blood…” (PV 6:16, 17)

MY TESTIMONY OF GRACE

I can say with Apostle Paul:

“I thank Christ Jesus our Lord, who has strengthened me, because He considered me faithful, putting me into service, even though I was formerly a blasphemer and a persecutor and a violent aggressor. Yet I was shown mercy because I acted ignorantly in unbelief; and the grace of our Lord was more than abundant, with the faith and love which are found in Christ Jesus” (1Tim 1:12-14)

Abortion is a difficult subject. Most of us we prefer to ignore it and keep our mouths shut.  We wished that there is no unwanted pregnancy in this world. We wished that all unwanted pregnancies will just miscarry ‘naturally’ without the mother having a guilty conscience. We deceive ourselves thinking that an embryo or a fetus inside has no soul; that a little ‘thing’ in the womb is not ‘really’ a human being. We deceive ourselves that a baby who has never cried is dead. We deceive ourselves that nobody will miss an unwanted baby for whom there is no tear to shed. Oh, these many excuses…I know these so well, for as an unbeliever I performed abortions on myself and others. I did it in ignorance of God’s law. I did not believe that God exists and that showed in my actions as well.  Once I became saved, abortion was the first sin I repented of. Since the 14^th of March 1986, I never practiced abortion, as a woman or as a medical doctor. Surprisingly, God called me to ministry and gave me the heart of a mother to many sons and daughters in Christ, of all colors, all over the world. This is God’s grace in action. To Him be all the glory!

So now I open my mouth like a holy trumpet and speak as loud as I can! Please hear me!!!!! HELLOO!!!

Dear Sister! Please, do not abort your baby! All excuses for abortion are lies! God loves you and your baby! The truth is that God will make a way for you and your child! Money will come! Shame will go away! Fears will flee! You will not regret having a child, even if initially unwanted! This baby may be the only baby you can ever have! If you do not want the baby, still do not kill that baby! Give the baby away for adoption! Children as a blessing, a gift and a reward from God! Do not reject or destroy your own blessings, your rewards! Do not throw away your crown!

Dear Sister, if you have already done abortion in the past, and now you struggle with guilt and regret, then come to Jesus! Let the Blood of Jesus wash your sins away! Let God give you a new heart and a new beginning! Forgive yourself too as Christ forgave you! God did that for me! I am a woman of God now! God can do it for you!

Dear Sister, you who chose to keep the baby, well done! God bless you!

May God’s grace and mercy be revealed to you! God’s grace is greater than all our sins! Peace be with you!

In Christ I declare:

I am born again!

I am sinner saved by grace!

The Blood of Jesus speaks on my behalf!

I am forgiven and free!

I am healed and delivered from the sin of abortion!

I am a woman of God, a servant and an ambassador of Christ!

To the glory of God!

Jesus is Lord!

In Jesus name

Amen!

“Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear” (1Pet 3:1-6)

We all desire to be women of God. Here we are given Sarah as an example of a ‘holy woman of the past’. But the Bible is not just a history book. It is the ever living Word of God, a present help in times of need. By the grace of God, we shall study how to become ‘holy women of the present!’

The following instructions concerning dress code are taken from a secondary school in California. You may say it is not what we need. But there is much to learn reading this. Prayerfully, let’s apply the wisdom to us and to our children! Listen:
‘It is a fact that the manner in which students dress for school influences personal behavior and learning. Violations of dress standards will result in removal of the item and can result in a parent phone call or suspension for willful defiance of authority. Our board policy states that a student’s dress must not be a distraction that would interfere with the educational process.
All clothing must be worn within the bounds of decency and good taste. Clothing must be sufficient to cover undergarments at all times. Shoes must be worn at all times. Sandals must have back straps. No flip flops or slippers.
Hats shall not be altered, must be worn appropriately with the bill down and facing forward. No hats or sunglasses are allowed inside the buildings. Bandannas, sweatbands or hairnets are not allowed.
Clothing that creates a threatening or intimidating atmosphere is prohibited. Chains, belts and other items that are worn loosely are prohibited. Clothes shall be free of writing and pictures that are crude, vulgar, profane, sexually suggestive, or relate to drugs, alcohol, tobacco or violence; clothes should not advocate racial, ethnic or religious prejudice. No spiked projections!
We do not permit transparent, see-through or fish-net fabrics; off the shoulder, low cut tops or bare midriffs. All skirts should completely cover the knees. No spaghetti straps are allowed. Clothing that is torn and full of holes is not appropriate. Hair shall be clean and styled in a manner that does not distract from classroom learning’

What impressed me is that they saw bad dressing as a potential hindrance to the process of learning. A student goes to school to learn, to pass her exams. That is the main purpose for going there. Anything that distracts you from achieving your main purpose in life should be seen as a stumbling block and should be removed. Our main purpose in life is to know God, to enjoy God and to glorify Him forever! The secondary purpose is to become like Jesus! We do not want to use our Christian freedom as a tool for rebellion. We also do not want to fall into the opposite trap of legalism. I am not saying that you should dress like me or like the women of my generation. I am not recommending you the Romanian style of dressing. We live in Nigeria. But more than fashion and dressing codes, we are to do all things to please God and a conscience trained by the Holy Spirit. We should become good examples to the foolish and the ignorant. Everything we do, our speech, our behavior, our body language and total presentation should make it easier and not harder for people to come to Jesus! Please pray about these words! This is my desire: fulfil your destiny! Be women of God indeed! Amen!

In Christ I declare:
As a wife I submit to my husband (even if he is a difficult man), as unto the Lord!
By the grace of God I shall win my husband as a trophy to Christ!
I shall impress my husband with a gentle and quiet spirit which gives glory to God!
The source of my beauty is my holy character as a holy woman of God!
I am NOT a fashionable sexy wasteful foolish superficial woman of this world!
All men will see only Christ in me, the hope of glory!
All men shall remember me only as a woman of God!
So help me God!
In Jesus name
Amen!

“Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear” (1Pet 3:1-6)

We all desire to be women of God. Here we are given Sarah as an example of a ‘holy woman of the past’. But the Bible is not just a history book. It is the ever living Word of God, a present help in times of need. By the grace of God, we shall study how to become ‘holy women of the present!’

*The wife’s character is the strongest weapon in his conversion and the happiness of the marriage!

The strongest weapon in home evangelism is the character of the wife. The husband does not listen but the husband sees! Please remember: your husband may be deaf but he is not blind! He ‘sees the purity and the reverence’ of his wife.  In Greek the word ‘sees’ it means to inspect and thoroughly watch. Did you know that you are ‘an actress’ and your husband comes to see you perform? Why not play the role so well that you may win the trophy? Did you know that your husband is your constant inspector? He is designed by God to examine you and to find fault with you, especially with your words and daily behavior.

*The husband is an inspector and sees all faults

The husband will not be impressed with your lace, or head tie. But two things will touch his heart and will drive the demons far from him: your purity and your reverence. A woman of God is filled with the Holy Spirit who cleanses her soul. She becomes holy, clean and child- like. She is not foolish, but holy and spiritually innocent, free from condemnation, pride and bitter guilt. She does not use evil manipulations or crooked strategies in her marriage or other relationships. She fears God too much to lie, to deceive or to cheat others. The world says the opposite. The wayward wife deceives her husband and others to gain some imaginary rewards. Even if you think you can hide your evil plans from others, you cannot hide them from at least two persons: God and your husband! That is how God made marriage to be!  “Your desire shall be for your husband and he will rule over you!” (Gen 3:16) Dear single sisters, for as long as you refuse to repent or all evil behavior and seducing strategies, you will never marry a believer. Do not invest in fashion design but in a holy character that pleases men, angels and even God!

Let me add this: My parents were teachers. I still remember their preparation and anxiety when the state inspector came to the school. That event was not often but when the inspection day came, it was terrible for all. Just imagine that you have to live with that inspector every day. Every word you say, to him and to others, is observed and analyzed. The way you behave with your relatives and your in- laws, he marks them in his heart. Every meal you cook and every choice you make all these are recorded and publicly declared. If you try to bribe him, he will see it. If you try to seduce him, he will notice it. By now, maybe you are scared to even marry. No need to fear but be sure to marry a believer! This is to avoid much sorrow from an inspector who is more of a trouble maker than a friend. This is the way God made it to be. Selah!

*There is an acceptable dress code for a woman of God

Almost all believers know that there is ‘a dress code’ acceptable to God and man. But for many, it is just a theory. Very few women have the wisdom to apply such knowledge into practice. This is the truth: it is not easy to dress well as a woman of God. It is not just a matter of ‘fashion sense’, culture, money or ‘body type’. If the Bible did not say anything about it, we should have used only our common sense and dress as we like. But the Word of God tells us some things about this topic, enough for us to pause, pray and plan ahead. Like soldiers have their own uniforms, like the nurses have theirs, so the Christian woman should dress to represent her Lord. As a woman of God, you are a total ‘package’ presented by the Holy Spirit. It is said that you should not judge a book by its cover. This is true, but not always. Some ‘covers’ are so ugly, that it is hard to sell that book. As women, in almost every meeting we’ve touched this subject. But as we pray for revival and new revelations come, we shall continue to give attention to the Word of God concerning this mostly misunderstood, but important practical subject.

It is not enough to do something good. God looks at the motives of that action. Why do you do what you do? Who do you want to please: God or man? If you want to please man, God will withdraw from your life. But if you want to please God, he will make even your enemies to be at peace with you! That peace that passes all understanding is the strength of my confidence and the anchor of my soul.

In Christ I declare:

I am a holy woman of God!

In Jesus name

Amen!

“Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear” (1Pet 3:1-6)

We all desire to be women of God. Here we are given Sarah as an example of a ‘holy woman of the past’. But the Bible is not just a history book. It is the ever living Word of God, a present help in times of need. By the grace of God, we shall study how to become ‘holy women of the present!’

One of the most difficult commands to obey is this: ‘Wives submit to your own husbands as unto the Lord!’ Submission is one of the laws of the Kingdom of God. This submission is not forced. It is the wife’s free choice done for the sake of Christ who, as a man, submitted Himself to God the Father. It is also done for the sake of the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. Finally, the submission is done for the common good of the family. Please observe that the wives do not submit to all men. This command means submission only to their husbands and it is done ‘as unto the Lord’. It is easier for a believing wife to submit to her Christian husband. This is because he loves her as Christ loves the church. But it is extremely difficult to submit to an unbelieving husband. The believing wife is not exempted just because her husband is not saved. Rebellion and pride are sins. Her submission is expected even in this difficult situation. The question is this: As wives, how do we submit ‘successfully’?

*Sometimes, silence is louder than words!

First of all, the wife has to be truly born again. She knows that only God can change her husband’s heart. She does not try to manipulate his will, for that is called witchcraft. She will build herself in the most holy faith by the Word of God and by prayer. Except he specifically requests to hear the word of God, she may not preach to him! Let him go to church and listen to the pastor! Preaching to such a man at home will only add fuel to his stubbornness. She has to learn to control her tongue! Submission means that she will humble herself, go down to his level and discuss with him only ‘natural’ things. She will ask him about his job, his health and the children. If he does not ask for prayer, she may not volunteer to pray aloud. This spiritual quietness is a weapon that the Holy Spirit uses to break the stubborn will of the man. ‘Wife, always be led by the Holy Spirit!’

*In spiritual warfare, fashion is a useless and deceptive weapon!

The wife cannot impress him with anything in the natural. Her good sense of fashion, her beautiful dresses and hair styles, none of these are useful to touch her husband’s spirit. Even if he compliments her for the dresses she wears, there is no lasting spiritual gain coming from such a compliment. Here we see the weakness of fashion. It is more a form of entertainment with no eternal value at all. Once you understand this, you will not be frustrated when your husband does not notice your new dress or your latest hair style. This wisdom is the opposite of what is called common sense. The wisdom of the world says that the more fashionable you are, the stronger your marriage will be. But that is a lie. It took me many years and many prayers to finally believe this revelation. I am not saying that you should dress carelessly. But if you dress beautifully, let it be for the glory of God and not only for the pleasure of your husband.

In Christ I declare:

My marriage is successful!

To the glory of God!

In Jesus name

Amen!

“Then the Lord said to me: “Go again, love a woman who is loved by a lover and is committing adultery, just like the love of the Lord for the children of Israel, who look to other gods and love the raisin cakes of the pagans” (Hos 3:1)

“When Jesus had raised Himself up and saw no one but the woman, He said to her: “Woman, where are those accusers of yours? Has no one condemned you?”

She said, “No one, Lord.”

And Jesus said to her, “Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more.”

Then Jesus spoke to them again, saying, “I am the light of the world. He who follows Me shall not walk in darkness, but have the light of life.” (Jn 8:8-12)

Recently a young woman of about twenty five came to my office. She was accompanied by an older sister from the church. The young woman got married last December to a brother who attends our Father’s House. Their wedding ceremony was done in her church. This is her story: Last month her husband’s sisters caught her phoning another man. This created a big family quarrel. The husband confronted her but she refused to confess to adultery. Then the in laws drove her away to her parents’ house. Over there, she admitted that she had sex with another man while in her husband’s house.

Understandably, the husband was very hurt and angry. He decided that, for now, her punishment was to stay in her parents’ house for the next three months. Then he will know what to do. Her father asked him for mercy. That at least, let the husband send some of her clothes so that she can change. The husband said no. Her family is poor. His family is putting pressure on him to divorce her.

When the young woman came to my office she was scared to death. She looked like an animal in the bush, caught in the snare of the hunter. She could not look at my face. She was talking fast, in whispers, clearly ashamed. Her dress was not cheap; it surely looked good once upon a time. But now, it was dirty with oil and it smelled sweat.

She agreed that she had sex four times with a stranger. She said that the man met her on the road and that she foolishly followed him. She does not know the name of the man. They went to a hotel, but she does not remember the address of the place. I asked her why she did it. Her only answer was “Temptation, ma…Temptation, ma…”

I asked her if she still loves her husband and if she wants to go back to him. She said yes. I asked her if she is pregnant. She said no. I asked her if the man gave her money for sex. She said no. I repeated the question three times. She said no. Then I asked if the stranger promised her to give money later. She quietly said yes. She said that she had hoped that the man will help her with money. She wants a hair dresser shop. She plaits hair for a living.

(I could not believe that she attends our church but this was the reality I could not deny)

As firmly and gently as I could, I told her the reason why she committed adultery is not because she is poor, not because her husband is poor, but because she is not born again. This temptation she was talking about was an occult spell. The stranger succeeded only because she is not a child of God. I told her that I understand she wants her marriage back. But for now, she has to let go of that wish and simply come to the Cross of Christ. I told her he is just a religious woman but not saved; her soul is more important than even her marriage. She has to love Jesus more than any man. She should use this pain and shame to make peace with God. Today is her day of salvation!

She listened! She agreed to do so. I prayed with her that God will have mercy on a lost soul and reveal to her the way to eternal life. I could see that she was hanging on any little word of hope from my lips. And Christ, the hope of glory was the best I could offer. I sis not confused her with other little promises. She took Jesus Christ by faith. I then asked the older sister to tell the hurting husband to come and see me as soon as he can. I could not promise that I can change the husband’s heart, but I said I will try to intercede for her.

The next day, he was there waiting. This is the first time that we spoke face to face. He was angry and hurt. I allowed him to tell me the story all over again. He said that he suspected something was wrong when she will run to the toilet to answer phone calls. I prayed for wisdom. It is not easy to handle a hurting man. The devil got him strong. Again, my only hope was Jesus Christ, ‘the Friend of sinners’.

For as long as he focused on his ‘righteous’ hurt we could not move forward. Then I asked him: ‘How did you meet your wife? Did you sleep with her before the wedding?’ To my surprise, these ‘simple’ questions became swords. Suddenly, he started weeping ‘like a woman’. It is not easy to witness the wailing cry of a man. I quietly prayed in the spirit waiting for the flood of emotions to calm down. He then said in ‘Pidgin’ English: ‘Pastor, I was a road side mechanic. I was a rough man. I did not know God. I told my mates that one day I will go to that church with big sign board, Father’s House. They laughed at me for all of us were rough boys. Then eleven years ago I came to this church. I really gave my life to Christ. I had a girl friend at that time. I told her that I am saved and I don’t want sex again. She too laughed and tempted me three times. I did not look at her face. She got tired of me and left. Since then, I kept myself. I tried to marry from the church but the three sisters I proposed rejected me. They said that I am not ‘fain’ enough for them. My family wanted to bring a girl from the village that I should marry but I rejected the offer. That is when I met my wife and she agreed to marry me. It is true; we had sex together before the wedding. We did not tell anyone… No one knows but God…’

The tears and his humble confession opened a door of faith for me. It is true that I have seen this man in the church. He is not what you call a handsome man. He always looked in a hurry. He rarely attended weekly activities. He was not involved in any ministry. He was a loner. He always looked worried or sad. I never saw him smiling. From distance, I could not tell if he was saved or not. But that afternoon in my office, the tears washed away the lies and the truth came to light. This unfriendly unattractive lonely sad man was indeed a true son of the Most High God. What a wonderful revelation! Wrapped in a cloak of darkness and foolishness, covered with the dirt of hurt from an unbelieving woman he found in a strange far country, rejected and broken hearted, the prodigal son finally came home…Halleluiah, the angels are singing…

I asked him: do you still love your wife? He said yes. But that his family is forcing him to send her away… I then spoke with confidence: “Dear brother in Christ, you are a man of God! You are royal priest hood in Christ! Today you have to choose between the will of God and your family council. Adopt the culture of heaven! Before you are an urhobo man, you are a child of God! We shall pray that God will grant a new beginning to you, to your wife and to your marriage. As the sickness of Lazarus was not unto death, so your sin will not be unto divorce, but that the Son of God will be revealed in all His glory! I have faith and hope for you! This hope is Jesus Christ who died to set us free! The God who saved me has spoken! In Him, there is hope for the hopeless! Have faith! Be of good courage! The devil has lost this battle. See the light at the end of the tunnel of shame! Jesus is Lord! Just believe!”

He said Amen!

In Christ I declare:

This brother and his wife are saved!

Marriage is a good thing!

Marriage is a gift from God and nobody can steal it!

The devil is a liar and a loser!

Their marriage shall be restored!

All to the glory of God!

In Jesus name

Amen!

“Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.” (1Pet 3:7)

The following are some medical facts about the difference between the male and female brain. Doctors still argue about these findings and research is going on. But this is the truth: men and women think in different ways; they have different strategies in dealing with challenges of life in general and marriage in particular. The way their brain is ‘wired’ is different. This scientific information applies to the natural man. A child of God changes under the influence of the Holy Spirit. He develops the mind of Christ, which is the ideal human way of thinking. In Christ there is no male or female. Also, we should remember that each human being is unique and cannot be put in a box. That is why the following facts are to be viewed just as general guidelines.

The male brain works in such a way that men focus on one task at a time. They persevere to the end in that one project without getting tired or bored. They are able to reject all distractions until they succeed. Men think faster and are less emotional. Men are able to separate their thinking in different compartments without mixing them together. For example a man can cheat in the office and go home and be romantic to his wife without feeling guilty about his illegal activity in the morning. The level of testosterone (the male hormone) is at least ten times higher than in the women’s blood. That makes men more ‘sexy’ and more aggressive. They are led by what they see. For a man blindness is worse than death. They are physically stronger and desire to be in charge. They like to compete and win.

The women like to do more things in the same time. They tend to link everything together. They get easily bored with doing only one thing. They are more distracted by other factors and have more difficulty in staying focused. Because of this weakness, they start many things but finish few. Women are more emotional. They weep easier.

Women like to mix things, to connect information and see the bigger picture. They also value relationships. If a woman is offended in the morning, it will take her much longer to recover. For women, sex is not just ‘a thing’. They need a story, an atmosphere, a feeling of love. They are more emotional than men. They give up a battle easier and readily start new things. Women like to feel thins deeper than men. They are lead less by what they see and more by feelings or by a combination of factors.

These facts are just to remind ourselves that there are differences between the natural men and women. To the men, the women seem slow, foolish, forgetful and not practical enough to cope with the stress of life. For example, most men I counsel in my office do not trust their wives financially. They refuse to trust their advice when it comes to financial investment. A husband can give his wife money for house allowance and even generous gifts but he does not trust her as a business partner. He doesn’t want ‘to bother her’ with making money. That is a common explanation I hear from the married men.

The women’s weakness the Bible talks about is not spiritual. For in Christ there is no difference between male and female. If they are saved, both the husband and the wife are co-heirs with Christ. There is no male Holy Spirit or female Holy Spirit. But the weakness is physical and it comes from the way God created the female body. The husbands are commanded to be considerate with their wives, to understand the way God created them.

A wife is a helper to her husband. That is God’s decree for marriage. A helper is someone who aids another at his point of weakness, to make him stronger. A good wife knows the weakness of her husband and gives the right support, at the right time and at that particular point. This support is mostly spiritual, thru prayer and counsel. The godly wife prays to find the weakness of her husband and after that she prays more for strength to be supplied at that point of need. She encourages him to fulfill his destiny as a man of God. But marriage is not just ‘one way traffic’. The husband too has to identify the weakness of his wife. He should not insult or mock her for being weak. He should not desire to change her to be like him. A woman can never be a man. He needs to love her with her weakness, like Christ loves the church and to be considerate with her.

To be considerate it means to be kind; to think and feel the feelings of another. Because we are so selfish, it is not easy to practice godly consideration. The husband is to be careful not to hurt his wife thru ignorance or negligence. Any hurt in marriage is very difficult to heal.  To be considerate means to be accommodating, patient, mature and flexible with her until she finds her needed strength from God along the way. A wife values her husband’s godly consideration very much and finds it to be very attractive.

There is a famous movie called ‘My fair Lady’. A middle aged bachelor man tried to change a poor ‘ghetto’ girl into a princess. He changed her accent and thought her the good manners of high society. It was not easy for the girl to change. But because she started loving him she cooperated with his impossible demands. He often complains that she is too weak and foolish ‘just like a woman’. He says: ‘Why is the woman not made like a man?’ Finally she was ready. Dressed beautifully she goes to the queen’s ball and nobody knows that she was once just a street girl. The experiment was very successful. He now wants to dispose of her, sending her back to the streets from where she came from. He could not believe that she loves him. He will hurt her with wicked words and when she weeps, he is surprised at her tears. He does not understand her at all. All this time he looked at her as an object without a soul, who cannot have any feelings. This is how the unbelieving men think about women. Then a miracle happens and, for the first time he sees her heart. He now becomes considerate, free to love her, to appreciate her weakness and all.

This is our testimony:

My husband and I we are very different in many things. But the unity of the Spirit is strong in our marriage. The grace of God manifest in this: where I am weak, my husband is strong. And where he is weak, I am strong. In this way we can ‘balance’ our spiritual and emotional resources to make great progress with very little effort. We do not compete but we compliment. Over the years God has helped us that together, thru wisdom and love we are much stronger. ‘We put to flight ten thousand’. Our marriage works as a perfect heavenly designed machine oiled by the Holy Spirit. To the glory of God, for many years we have not been in a situation where both of us are weak in the same time and concerning the same matter. That could have been terrible and a great shame. One’s mistake became the platform for the other’s victory. And then, with tears of joy in our eyes, the shout of the King in our mouths and holding hands, we share in the trophy together! This is the secret of the un-interrupted flow of prayer and praise in our home! This is the reason why the heavens remain open over our marriage! All glory to God! Be encouraged for God is the Master of the game called ‘success in life’!

In Christ I declare:

My marriage is successful!

As for me and my house, we shall serve the Lord!

In Jesus name

Amen!